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[UPDATE] Went out alone last night

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October 1, 2017
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Update / Followup to this thread : (https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/739tuj/going_out_solo_tonight/)

Last night I went out clubbing alone. None of my friends wanted to go out, but not wanting to stay inside and watch netflix again, I decided I was going to go out and have fun regardless of who I was with. Honestly i'm glad I did because I had one of the best nights of my life.

Leading up to the time that I would actually be leaving, I began to have second thoughts. Everyone told me I shouldn't be going out alone, they said that it's strange, or that I should just go to some shitty bars that loners go to. I began to rationalize in my mind that I wont have a good time and that I should just stay in and catch up on sleep tonight. As close as I was to just going to bed and not going out... I knew I had to. I looked in the mirror and mentally told myself that I was going to run towards the fear--and that was it. I didn't think. I just said fuck it and left for the club.

As I got in line to enter the club, I started talking to a few guys that were next to me about football and other general guy shit. I told them why I was alone (friends didnt want to go out), and asked them if they could chill with me tonight and they were all cool with it--I actually got their numbers and will probably chill with them again sometime next weekend. When we finally got in, I bought a round of shots for myself and my new group and set my sights on the dance floor.

At this point I wasn't concerned with girls at all. I wasn't worried about closing or spitting some mad game on bar sluts. My main objective for the night was to have as much fun as humanly possible, and to make sure that everyone around me was also having as much fun as they possibly could.

I hit up the dance floor with a wide as fuck smile and beer in my hand and just fucking let loose. I legitimately felt the music (mostly EDM with a few hip hop mixes thrown in) and danced with everyone. I danced with the guidos, I danced with the drunk sorority girls, I even danced with the blatantly gay club boys. I didn't give a single fuck about who anyone was or what they looked like; the only thing that mattered was feeding off each other's energy and having a great time.

Girls eventually noticed the fact that I didn't give a singular fuck and was just having a great time:

  • I'm a white dude, but i've been able to naturally dance like nothing else my entire life. At one point in the night, a group of black dudes pulled me aside and had me grind in their circle on one of their girls.

  • Another girl came up asked me if she could get a snap with me. We kissed and danced together afterwards

  • After last call leaving the club, a girl ran up to me and grabbed onto me and gave me hug. We were both drunk as fuck at this point, but she told me she thought I was amazing. I told her "your face is amazing" and got her number as we were walking out.

Lessons Learned:

  • Overall, I had a great fucking time. My self-confidence got a huge boost, and I now realize that I don't need a single friend to make shit happen. Confidence and a partying-energy is the only thing I need to have fun.

  • People want to like you if you offer energy and fun into their life--every time I looked at someone (guy or girl) in the eyes while I was smiling and dancing out on the club's dancefloor, they immediately brightened up and wanted to be apart of that energy.

  • Everyone is there to have fun. Everyone wants to have as much fun as they possibly can. By simply contributing value in the form of energy and friendliness, guys and girls alike became emotionally invested in me without even having to speak a word. A dude just trying to get laid, on the other hand, offers forth no value. He’s only there to take.

  • Confidence and energy is all you need. Everything else, including social proof and girls will come naturally—just be focused on having as much fun as you can.

Big thanks to all of you here on /r/AskTRP who offered me advice and pushed me to just grow some balls and go out alone. Never going to second guess going solo ever again.


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Title [UPDATE] Went out alone last night
Author becoolstaynschool
Upvotes 122
Comments 38
Date 01 October 2017 07:37 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/115379
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/73nrq3/update_went_out_alone_last_night/
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[–]Work_In_Progress9249 points50 points  (1 child) | Copy

I am glad you had a great time and followed through with it. Showing up is half the battle, but you socialized with both men and women and may have opened up a new social circle with the guys you met and possible plates with the girls you met.

Nicely done.

[–]becoolstaynschool[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can’t wait till next weekend. Cheers brother, and thank you.

[–]blister33330 points31 points  (4 children) | Copy

"your face is amazing"

hahhaa nice OP glad you had fun

[–]becoolstaynschool[S] 6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

Haha, thanks man. I actually thought that line would be something I’d never say in real life, but the more drunk I get the less I give a fuck. You think that was a smooth line? Haha

[–]BPasFuck2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That line works in a lot of ways, assuming you had good energy, which, judging by your FR was the case.

It's casual. It's quick. Perfect for two half-in-the-bag folks at the end of the night. GJ coming up with it on the spot.

[–]htbf0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Why didn't you kiss her then though?

[–]becoolstaynschool[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I definitely would have closed had it not been the end of the night and her girlfriend was dragging her away in tears (definitely a good reason why I need to have a wingman). We started texting back and forth this morning though, so unless her friend can find away to cockblock me over text, everything should be smooth sailing from here on out lmao

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

Everyone told me I shouldn't be going out alone, they said that it's strange, or that I should just go to some shitty bars that loners go to.

Translation:

Other crabs: "No! Stay here in the bucket with us!"

Nice work on your part.

[–]Kingslayer966914 points15 points  (5 children) | Copy

Welcome. I started to do this a year or two ago. My friends can get busy or just don't like going out as much as I do - I go out to clubs/bars in the city and get 1 drink because I usually drive. (Life pro tip - get a nice car and go to clubs)

I don't always go home with someone but id say 70% of the time I do. Its all about your energy like you said - I go out for positive vibes. Network a little, and I usually find a group of people to hang with.

[–]becoolstaynschool[S] 6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

I feel like the biggest difference between myself and your average loner club PUA is the fact that pussy wasn’t even on my mind at the time. When a guy is on the prowl and only wants to get laid, his intentions shine through to every single girl in the club. Nothing turns girls off more than thirsty dudes, especially in that sort of environment.

Everyone is there to have fun. Everyone wants to have as much fun as they possibly can. By simply contributing value in the form of energy and friendliness, guys and girls alike became emotionally invested in me without even having to speak a word. A dude just trying to get laid, on the other hand, offers forth no value. He’s only there to take.

Confidence and energy is all you need. Everything else, including social proof and girls will come naturally—just be focused on having as much fun as you can.

[–]htbf7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

Dude, apparently you're a good dancer, it changes everything in the context of a nigh club. I don't dance, and if I did, it wouldn't be anything special, so I don't have much to bring to the dance floor.

[–]Kingslayer96696 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your over thinking it. She just wants to rub up (dance )against your dick to size you up. I have confirmed this many times.

No one else is focusing on your dance skills - sure there will always be people who can dance well. I think thats cool but it's not a talent show. We're all there to feel good about ourselves and have fun - and the girls just want attention.

Also another pro tip to save time and not overthink; once your dancing for one minute start kissing her. There is no point in dancing around the point (no pun intended)

[–]becoolstaynschool[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get rid of that self defeating mentality, brother. You can absolutely be successful; offer others energy and confidence and you’ll be golden. Just go for it. Fuck what everyone else thinks. Nobody is special. Nobody has a purpose. We’re all decaying sacks of flesh and bone. Are you going to let that limit you to not having fun?

[–]Kingslayer96690 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well said

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Actual positive field report, well done.

[–]becoolstaynschool[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Cheers brother. Thanks for your words of advice and encouragement. Here’s to building ourselves into better men

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Like your attitude man, good luck!

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Great field report. You should post this on the main sub for more eyes to see

[–]recursoinominado3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Good for your for staying out of your confort zone!

[–]becoolstaynschool[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

In the wise words of one of favorite quotes: “He who hesitates, masturbates”

One thing I’ve learned in this RP journey is that fear can be—and usually is—a good thing. Chasing fear and confronting it rather than being controlled by my own self defeating rationalizations almost always results in a far more positive result.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

Good shit. Too bad Im shit at dancing, so clubbing aint for me

[–]empatheticapathetic7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just sell drugs instead

[–]Endorsed ContributorWoujo5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

who cares if you are shit at dancing? you are dancing for yourself not to impress anybody

[–]becoolstaynschool[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

As long as you own up to it and don’t look like an actual dipshit while dancing, you’ll be fine. Down a few drinks and just go for it—you’ll be surprised what you how well you can dance when you just let go

[–]remember_nf 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

You're shit at dancing if you don't understand the music. Start playing an instrument or listen different genres of music.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I the play piano, and I listen to all kinds of music

[–]gentlebrowngiant2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

I am able to keep this vibe when I'm outside and at weddings but always been self conscious about my dancing. Anyone have tips on EDM dancing that isn't just jumping up and down lol

[–]yes_we_can_t2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Work on your rhythm.

I was not a natural, but I love to dance, so when I started partying I spent hours and hours at home just going forward and backward attempting to keep the rhythm. Step, step, step, step. It was stiff and forced, and really hard for me.

Though, eventually it started to click, and I were able to relax while keeping in rhythm. That's the point where everything changes.

[–]becoolstaynschool[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’ve never had to mentally teach myself how to dance, since it’s always come fairly natural for me. Honestly I’d suggest watching what other people are doing on the dance floor and try to copy that as best as possible on your own. Also, start doing stretches and workout during the week and watch yourself in the mirror to learn how you look when moving. Good luck, you can do it!!

[–]oldslut2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

great job! glad you broke your cherry and had a blast. we've all been at that point, looking at the clock and finding a million reasons not to--great that you overcame it. thanks for the follow up.

[–]becoolstaynschool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely—thank you for your words of advice and encouragement brother.

One thing I’ve learned in this RP journey is that fear can be—and usually is—a good thing. Chasing fear and confronting it rather than being controlled by my own self defeating rationalizations almost always results in a far more positive result.

[–]PreOrgasmGroanLness1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

We were both drunk as fuck at this point, but she told me she thought I was amazing. I told her "your face is amazing"

This is gold. Am I the only one reading it in tone like if she were insulting him and he insults her back?

[–]dapowa1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Good job dude. Good job. I saw you in the irc, but was out. Come on back, your FR is quality for a newbie.

[–]becoolstaynschool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hey man. Glad you liked it. I’ll hop back in soon for sure, seems like a great way to get some camaraderie going between fellow RP members

[–]netuoso0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This was cool until "your face is amazing". Lmfao. Was probably hilarious in context

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good shit brother.

One thing that is always said but most readers fail to realize: TRP isn't about getting women.

TRP is about bettering yourself as a man; women are a byproduct of this.

Your field report shows this nicely. Well done, I look forward to your next report.

[–]redpillbanana0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Great report.

Reminds me of this video where a guy is at some outdoor music festival and he's dancing all by himself and having a great time. Soon some other dude joins him, then two, then three, then a small crowd, and then a HUGE crowd. The power of this guy's energy and IDGAF-ness was massive.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GA8z7f7a2Pk

Honestly I don't know how fake this video is but I've had personal experience with this. My dance partner and I once went to an outdoor salsa festival. There was a huge crowd along with a nice dance floor placed on the lawn and a great band playing some very danceable music. The only problem was that no one was dancing; the huge dance floor was completely empty. My dance partner and I just said, "Fuck it," and we went out and danced right in the middle of this huge crowd on a totally empty dance floor. We were having a blast dancing for a while when suddenly we noticed we were bumping into other couples. The entire dance floor was packed.

[–]RPpieceofgarbage0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Awesome sounds like when I go to music festivals and wander off away from my friends into the crowd. Just meet strangers and dance around and spread good energy. Cheers man glad you had fun.



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