In my experience, outspoken feminist 'pick-me' guys usually do more sexist things towards women than the average MRA

RoryTate · 2023-03-10T02:18:11+00:00

male feminist (n): a guy who is told that all men are abusers and rapists and thinks to himself: "Yeah, that sounds about right."

There's a good reason that so many male feminists are later outed as horrible human beings, from Harvey Weinstein to Joss Whedon to Devin Faraci to Matt Hickey. It should be abundantly clear by now that this particular virtue signal is meant only as a smokescreen to try and hide their personal indiscretions and crimes. I mean, those four names I mentioned are only a short list of vocal male feminists from the film industry alone. Add in Tyler Carpenter, JR Honeycutt, Alex Lifschitz, Shawn Weixelman, and many others, and it's amazing to see how strongly the "male feminist" label is correlated with secret abuse and harassment of women, up to and including jail time for seriously awful crimes.

The "average MRA" – as you term it – would be someone who argues that the vast majority of men are basically decent human beings, and who points out areas where misperceptions, miscommunications, and other social missteps are sometimes being overreacted to as crimes. People tend to project their own motives and experiences onto others. Honest people tend to think that other people are honest, and the opposite also holds true (as male feminists prove).

BARF_ON_MY_NUTS · 2023-03-10T02:58:35+00:00

I don't think we should be calling feminist men "pick-me" guys. I disagree with them strongly, but claiming that they're only doing it to increase their sexual prospects is both inaccurate and demeaning.

Feminists judge men and throw out false accusations for our beliefs enough. They point the finger at women who dare speak up for men's rights and call them Pickmeishas. I like to believe that the MRM is better than that.

ALiteralSentientTank · 2023-03-10T02:58:18+00:00

I suspect those white knights are, deep down, the kind of men that women complain most about. I think the average man hears a feminist say, "you're all violent and sexual deviants" and the man thinks, "no I'm not".

The male feminist agrees with her because he, at some level, does have those thoughts. He does put women below him so he must stand up for her. And he does believe he's owed something for defending her.

But that's just my (probably wildly incorrect) observation.

ApeWieldingBasalt · 2023-03-10T00:15:19+00:00

I think it's some kind of repression or oversocialization thing.

People who are convinced that they are "born bad" and need to repent will try very hard to be pure.

At the same time, their natural and unavoidable tendencies (such as finding women physically attractive) become blended up along with the actual bad tendencies because they're all in the same basket of 'dirty' things to them.

There is also the fact that some guys become feminist specifically trying to earn the approval of society or women (which they feel they lack and which they need) and then become vengeful when they don't get it.

So you end up with a feminist guy, who is desperate to be liked by women, wants to feel pure and superior, but has all muddled up and corrupted feelings about his own sexuality because it's been demonized so much.

No surprise they end up messed up.

Ferbuggity · 2023-03-10T00:53:01+00:00

I get called a "pickme" for being here supporting you guys. It irks the fuck out of me, because that is the furthest thing from the truth of why I am here.

I understand why you'd say it, but maybe some guys supporting feminist causes aren't supportive of the bullshit, or opposed to men's rights by default?

I just fucking hate that term, it's so dismissive and ignorant.

InnieLicker · 2023-03-10T04:59:48+00:00

Joss Whedon is the poster boy for this. Claimed feminist that sextorts and abuses the power dynamic, bangs every young girl he can and cheated on his wife many times. But he just loves and respects women so much!

Banake · 2023-03-11T23:22:01+00:00

You need to be kind of sexist to think women don't abuse or rape in the first place.

Title	In my experience, outspoken feminist 'pick-me' guys usually do more sexist things towards women than the average MRA
Author	boonishboone
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Date	March 10, 2023 12:02 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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