Stop being lonely.

AbundantKaizen · 2023-02-27T00:29:31+00:00

It may be scary to start something new as an adult, but it's worth it to put yourself out there and try something different. As a social species, humans thrive in groups and building a tribe through shared activities can be incredibly fulfilling.

ManWithThrowaway · 2023-02-27T09:07:40+00:00

Loneliness is an emotion. You can be alone and not be lonely.

DocHollidayHucklbery · 2023-02-26T23:54:05+00:00

I wouldn’t say I’m lonely, but I could definitely stand to make some new friends especially since I live in the burbs and most of my friends are in the city or in other states. Already made the resolution this year to join an adult men’s softball league, gonna be signing up for that soon

videogames_ · 2023-02-27T00:09:20+00:00

Yup this is proven by science. It’s also okay to try to meet 100 people through work, other friends, events, random approaches. A lot of people have already filled their quota or incompatible. That’s okay. It’s like dating. If 1-2 of these become really good friends then that’s all you need.

Nighthawk_Black_ · 2023-02-27T00:50:23+00:00

TLDR don't be an awkward cunt

LeadBandit · 2023-02-27T02:21:38+00:00

Great post. As someone who never went to high school, I struggle with this immensely due to lacking the inherent social skills l, and being a loner. I desperately need to grow my social circle, as the entire thing is only about three dozen people, including work and family.

My ultimate goal is to form a band, but that is tricky when you don't go anywhere or meet anyone. On days like today, it does seem incredibly hopeless.

danhaas · 2023-02-27T17:11:15+00:00

Great post. Loneliness is a risk factor for many things. It's far easier to be depressed or alcoholic if you are lonely.

If you don't like team sports like me (I'm clumsy as fuck), I suggest hiking groups or diving. These activities need to be done in a group for safety and they are great for conversation. The top limit to these activities is also pretty insane, you can go as hard as you want.

You sure can have friends in other cities, just make sure to travel there frequently. Online contact is just friendship maintenance, it doesn't replace doing stuff together.

Fancy-Respect8729 · 2023-02-27T12:00:52+00:00

Shared interest groups are the best way to meet people and form connections. Agree with nearly all this - get offline. These people are not friends and will add nothing to your life or stop loneliness.

dowtimer · 2023-02-27T03:37:51+00:00

Good points. But self-esteem isn't something you can just grab off the shelf at Costco. Besides, solitude is a much more a comfort zone than entering situations where eye contact is mandatory.

austintexasarizona · 2023-02-27T23:28:01+00:00

This is a great post. Props to OP.

I hear alot of physical activites being talked about, which is great. But has anyone found a good way to meet other people that enjoy flexing their intellect? Feeling out people's intellect seems risky because you end up offending lots of people and coming off as a know it all...but there's gotta be a way to meet up with intellectuals...I just somehow haven't really found it yet.

PutridFlatulence · 2023-03-01T09:25:32+00:00

I'm just here to back up a post on a other forum by someone else.

"I was born knowing that everything was a lie. I knew as a kid in 1985 that vaccines would be made mandatory and even went around telling people not to take it when it comes. It sent a panic through the kids at school since they thought I meant that very day. Not in the future. Anyway very psychic child.

Fast forward 7 years and I’m leaving for boot camp. My GF of 4 years is going to cheat as soon as I leave for the military. Was it a psychic premonition? Maybe a little but all women are natural cheaters. Women are spiritually rotten and dead so there’s not a single thought about betraying another soul. Women have zero sense of loyalty. Remember that men. Never trust any bitch.

Anyway as soon as I finished boot camp I got deployed. Very depressing. My relationship lasted longer than most marriages so don’t call it a simple breakup. Btw my GF did cheat as predicted. Women cannot stop themselves when they are cock crazy. When I dumped her she couldn’t eat and ended up in the hospital for dehydration and anemia and starvation. Here is the mind of stupid fuckin women. Even though we were deeply in love, she still justified cheating in her head. We screwed about 5 times a day for over 4 years. We started at 14 years old. Inseparable. The whole town was like they’re in it for life. But she absolutely had to get more cock. That is your standard female. Remember that boys.

So yeah Op, a break up caused me to do a deep dive that started with studying peoples’ motives. I had to understand why women cannot override their stupid animal desires. I ordered the entire psychology curriculum from Harvard (free to me through the military) and read every bit. Page for page. I read the Bible page for page. And since then I’ve read well over 7000 nonfiction books to date and still reading. I also went on a many years long conquest of women. Hundreds of women. Cause I had to know.

I’ve always had a gift with the ladies but now I was going to exploit it. If I had to guess I’d say I slept with maybe 500 women. I stopped counting early on. But I will tell you this one thing. No matter how trustworthy a woman convinces you she is, it’s a lie. Women are not loyal. It’s not part of their biology. They will feign loyalty to obtain something though but will quickly move on when something more shiny appears. It is why, by pure definition, all women are whores.

Funny though because I’ve been married 17 years and have a lovely wife and big family. After fucking all those girls and reading all that material I figured out how to choose a decent enough of a woman. But even her, who many consider a saint, constantly fights the urge to hop on as much cock as possible.

I could write a 700 page textbook on how the soul connects to and drives through a physical earth body. But I’ll leave you with this one thought. The female physiology, meaning the physical body of all females, designed by our galactic overlords, is particularly dense when it comes to soul communication. Women’s bodies block spiritual communications almost entirely. In earthly life women might as well not even have a soul since there is pretty much zero regard for it. And their dumb shit brains can’t make up for it. And for any chick out there reading this thinking to herself that she’s new age spiritual, well your group is the biggest fraud whores out of all. Being a hippie doesn’t make you spiritual. It just makes you a filthier whore.

Anyway. Good luck."

WingLeviosa · 2023-02-27T15:39:53+00:00

Stop being lonely. Be comfortable with being alone first. Then, when you’re okay with being alone, then find friends.

MrAnderzon · 2023-03-09T17:07:51+00:00

There is a difference between loneliness and solitude.

If you can’t be alone you can’t be with anyone else

Title	Stop being lonely.
Author	paul_ernst
Upvotes	220
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Date	February 26, 2023 11:23 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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