Woman initiates divorce. Her ex-husband later dates someone younger, hotter, and more ambitious. She says: "I am suddenly struggling with extreme jealousy and hate of her... I remembered why I fell in love with this man and now can't help but think that he could still be mine..."

ragingfartalot · 2018-04-22T23:24:00+00:00

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I am suddenly extremely jealous of my ex husbands new girlfriend and the relationship she gets to have with him - I feel like I really messed up.

Some background, my ex and I meet during College, I fell in love with him instantly and we got married shortly after graduation, and i could not have been happier. Things were going really great and his career was going very well, being financially secure we made the decision to have a baby. He was very excited once we found out I was pregnant and he did a great job supporting me throughout the process. he is to this day an amazing dad. After the birth of our son his job was going well enough that I decided to stay home with the baby. Perfect, right?

Fast forward 4 years and I was still a stay-at home mom, while my husband was travelling A LOT for work, I still hadn't lost some of my pregnancy weight, our sex life was dead and I was miserable. When he was home we argued a lot and I ended up asking him for a divorce. I wanted a man that was going to be more present in my sons life while my husband insisted that the money he made and the lifestyle it afforded us was not worth giving up. I felt like a married single mother and despite a few counseling sessions ended up pushing for divorce. We share custody of our son.

Now (almost 1yr and 6 months later) i found out my ex has a girlfriend, i met her and things are far from casual (they have been seriously dating for almost a year). She is younger than him (6 year) and I am suddenly struggling with extreme jealousy and hate of her. She seems like a very nice level headed, responsible young adult and my ex seems genuinely happy with her. I feel like I allowed myself to be replaced by a younger version of me that is a lot prettier, hotter and fitter than I ever was even in my prime before the baby. Dating life for me has not been successful and it stings to see how my ex has moved forward without me - especially with someone so hot. I also cant help but think that she get's to do all the fun things with him without any of the struggles of motherhood. She sometimes joins him on his trips, and he has gotten in the best shape of his life since seeing her, they go to concerts and fancy restaurants while he still gets to be a parent to our son - who is also very fond of said gf.

Things escalated for me emotionally a few days ago when we met to discuss future schooling options and possibilities for our kid and my ex seemed to all but radiate calm and happy contentedness, he looked SO good. I remembered why I fell in love with this man and now can't help but think that he could still be mine if I had been more open to respond to his requests for some exploration in the bedroom, or worked on myself to loose the pregnancy weight, maybe even asked my mom to watch our kid to join him for a shorter trip - now this girl gets to do all these things. She seems like a nice and educated person (from what I've heard she has a great job for her age - my ex and her both seem to be overachievers in that regard) but i can't help but think that we have a child together and this should all be mine. (Yes i am aware it was me who pushed for a divorce)

A very selfish part of me wants to try and win him back but I know that is just that; selfish. What can I do to reign these crazy emotions? Because just typing this I can tell I seem like a lunatic who didn't appreciate what she had.

tl;dr: Jealous of husbands girlfriend, wondering if I should try to win him back

drqxx · 2018-04-22T23:32:40+00:00

This is what everyone should strive for with someone who breaks up with you. It’s the best revenge you could hope for. Do better, get out and date better people, and leave the ex stewing in their decision to leave you.

My ex left me to date other people and I took it like a little bitch.

KaiRaiUnknown · 2018-04-23T13:24:05+00:00

In all honesty - She doesn't want to be happy, she wants him to be unhappy

Dudenoob · 2018-04-23T19:08:05+00:00

My best friend had his wife cheat on him multiple times with different men. He tried to make it work but in the end she left him so she could be with this other guy. When that guy got laid he ghosted her and for almost a year she kept trying to get my buddy back in her life. I stood by him and refused to let him cave. He's in a relationship with an amazing woman now. He only talks with his ex wife when dealing with the kids now. I'll be honest, the main reason I didn't want him back with her is because she's a festering cesspool of drama and a complete handful to be around. I hang out with my buddy now way more then before because she's no longer around.

IoSonCalaf · 2018-04-22T23:48:14+00:00

Living well is the best revenge.

natephant · 2018-04-23T19:26:21+00:00

This feels too good to be true. Like how can anyone actually write this out... hopefully read it over to themselves.. and then still post it?

Jeez I hope this gets back to the husband and he just laughs and laughs and then shows his new hot girlfriend and she laughs, and then they have sex.

StarkweatherRoadTrip · 2018-04-23T02:10:51+00:00

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troubledtimez · 2018-04-23T01:34:04+00:00

haha...she got what she deserved...nothing

Kuranator · 2018-04-23T18:24:22+00:00

So serves her right... ruined a marriage and now wants to ruin his life again...

Funcuz · 2018-04-24T11:30:06+00:00

Hmmm...what I read is "My husband put up with all my shit tests and did everything I asked of him. Then, when I got it, I realized that it wasn't quite what I wanted so I kicked him to the curb in hopes of finding something better. Now, due to a lapse in my female insanity, I see that I was never actually good enough for him and despite what I was told all my life, I wasn't worth it. He could have got better at any time but stuck with me because he was a good man. Now I'm sorry for what I've done but it's too late and I want to make him as miserable as I am."

If ever there was a case to be made for "Go fuck yourself, bitch." this is it.

2018-04-23T20:00:47+00:00

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lulz3r · 2018-04-23T23:11:34+00:00

Aw, the poor little woman struck gold and she blew it. Allow me to shed a single tear for her. Hang on it’s a-coming. Wait. strains I guess I don’t have it in me.

Velvis · 2018-04-23T22:32:35+00:00

She sounds incredibly shallow. Like if he found someone not quite as "hot" as her, he didn't lose a few pounds, or if the new girl was just as old as her it would be ok.

Love isn't just about physical appearance and we all get old.

She sounds like a nightmare.

2018-04-22T23:46:23+00:00

Awww muffin!

2018-04-23T14:35:28+00:00

r/wellthatsucks

studyinformore · 2018-04-23T15:49:22+00:00

http://archive.is/Ks4IN

Posted it elsewhere, but here's an archive link to the post.

pointmanzero · 2018-04-23T16:01:15+00:00

We just found the biggest loser on reddit today.

palmerrc · 2018-04-23T17:20:15+00:00

People don’t always make the best decisions. She clearly regrets leaving him and despite her feelings admits it was her fault. This woman made a poor decision and she’s clearly paying for it. Its not easy to see our faults and shortcomings and we often don’t until we’ve made a mistake and regret it later.

bryanrobh · 2018-04-23T22:13:12+00:00

Oh man that’s what you get. Hah

CerseisMerkin · 2018-04-26T04:14:24+00:00

This sounds fake as fuck. Bring on the downvotes...

2018-05-02T04:23:57+00:00

I see a lot of interpretations of PPD. One version involves women as a whole getting away with things and something bad which related or unrelated to the issue happening to a woman.

The other version is a woman doing something that she thinks she can get away with because she is a woman. A perfect example of this would be a 100 pound woman punching her 200 pound husband and being surprised that she is the one taken to jail. She either needs to explicitly pull a pussy pass “but I’m a woman” or do something where it is understandable that she would expect the pass.

I find the former a bit misogynistic and a logical stretch. To be honest, I come here for the humorous application of the second version,

As far as this post is concerned, this is really about divorce regret that could happen to anyone. Look on r/divorce for examples. I had a shitty marriage with a dead bedroom. I filed. My ex lost weight, started looking hot, and getting laid. I can’t say that it didn’t hurt. But ultimately we could never achieve what I wanted. It’s easier when all you have to fuss about are kids. Besides, I’m now engaged to an amazing woman with a high libido who is a good stepmom and is a kinkster in bed.

LodgePoleMurphy · 2018-06-24T15:49:04+00:00

I have no sympathy for the ex-wife. She screwed the pooch. There was nothing holding her back from hitting the gym when he was travelling for work and supporting his efforts.

magnue · 2018-04-23T20:35:37+00:00

Bit sad really, considering she actually realises she's at fault.

BonvivantNamedDom · 2018-04-23T18:17:40+00:00

Honestly: this doesnt belong here. She is a reasonable woman who just struggles with her own dating life. She realises that shes did things wrong. She never worked on herself, she always argued and pushed him away, and didnt contribute anything to the relationship neither romantical (joining him for a shorter trip) or sexual.

Thats what this is about. No one asks for a pussy pass for anything.

0FrankTheTank7 · 2018-04-23T18:41:15+00:00

Honestly don’t see this as pussypassdenied material. The mentally unstable people posting some cruel stuff are disgusting af. This story is actually sad but justice served. Seems like some users here are women haters.

jaheiner · 2018-04-24T18:10:35+00:00

I dunno if I'd consider this a PPD... She even acknowledges that here thoughts sound crazy and really just seems to be venting because she feels like she made a huge mistake.

It's good for the guy that he didn't let losing her break him and instead continues to be a successful man and good father. Doesn't necessarily mean anything PPD happened here. Just a relationship that ended cause someone thought the grass would be greener on the other side and now realizes that the only person with greener pastures is the ex.

While it tastes like juicy justice, it really isn't a PPD.

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