Treated like a man servant

Arrathall · 2023-03-25T17:17:04+00:00

This actually isnt the woest thing women have done that I have noticed after initially dating them then dating men.

Women LOVE, ADORE and LIVE for micromanaging men. Your acting, your way of speaking, how you dress, ehat you eat, hobbies friends. Even the least abusive kindest women will (they assume for your benefit) try to micromanage you... A guy never does that as we are very live and let live

Once you notice it its everywhere

IlliteracyPrevails · 2023-03-26T00:54:19+00:00

You guys ever had a woman fake being fuckin pregnant? Get this right, we were long distance at the time a year ago, I'd literally gotten out of 5 years of therapy at the time literally a month or two before this incident. She knew I had real bad anxiety and depression. But one day she decides to 'joke', sends a snap of her puffing her stomach out trying to convince me she was pregnant. And it worked. I was seconds, fucking seconds from having a breakdown, couldn't breathe, anything, and I was telling her to stop fucking with me, like quit you're scaring me and shit, then without even a simple sorry she shows she was faking. Not a single sorry. I felt like doing something to myself to put it lightly, cause we were a little christian couple, never did that stuff. Months later (I know I'm stupid alright, trust me) she tries that shit again, sending a google image of a positive pregnancy test. Then reality hit me hard as fuck, all the shit she did to manipulate me, all of it. Making me want to end it all. Mind you before all this I'd call in to work if she was needing me, like when her dog passed away, or when she wanted to hurt herself cause her parents were being shitty. I never got that in return. Guess that's just being a man huh. Well obviously I'm not dead. But my trust as of right now in women is basically non existent. All my friends have been cheated on. The one woman I am friends with I keep at distance even, cause she's cheated. So yeah. They can call me incel or whatever the fuck. Women aren't the only ones that can have trauma like that. From my experience they want you to care, but they won't give a single shit about you. Not all of them of course. But from my experience it's true.

Standard-Broccoli107 · 2023-03-25T15:04:04+00:00

I had an ex move in. Great, it would be fun, right? But she changed completely from a fair relationship to all benefiting her.

She worked on average 25 hour weeks, but nightshifts so they were soo exhausting. I had to do majority of housechores because she was tired.

It was my place, so of course I paid home expenses.

I made more money, so of course she demanded that I pay shared expenses. There was also a grocery shop right by my parking for work.

We needed to hang out with her friends most because she felt lonely working nights.

All of these things on their own makes sense. I believe that in a relationship you need to do inconveniences for the greater good. Its a team effort. But it was always me putting in the effort, so there was no team.

We split up and it seems she has found another sucker to leech off.

Ferbuggity · 2023-03-26T02:19:41+00:00

Jesus. So sorry you went through this, OP.

Guys.... please learn it's ok to bail on a relationship at the FIRST sign of this behaviour. That isn't love, it's the opposite of love wearing a thin mask.

LegalIdea · 2023-03-25T14:21:14+00:00

My ex-wife was similar. Didn't work, adamantly refused to. This initially wasn't as much of an issue, as I was active duty and we could afford that; however she also decided that she wasn't going to bother to clean or cook. Instead, she just was going to watch Netflix, mostly. Since she couldn't drive, nor did we have a second vehicle, she frequently complained about being unable to spend time with friends, but a lot of our friends would talk to her about her unwillingness to help and she'd get upset about that, claiming that her unwillingness to clean and inability to cook were both, somehow, my fault. She also decided that my attempts to initiate sex were proof of some form of degeneracy on my part.

This issue was made substantially worse after I left the military. I went back to school and worked full time. She, along with her mother, kept an eye on our infant daughter and not much else. My attempts to initiate sex were somehow viewed with greater disgust, with her and her mom often discussing our sex life. Ironically, it was my school that caused problems. I was a pre-law student at a local community college and would do homework at home. My ex-wife would ask me about it and I would answer any questions she had. Eventually, I was asked to not do my school work at home, as she felt it was psychological abuse due to an intellectual disability that I was not allowed to know the details of. So I did homework in the school library. This was a terrible mistake, as not long after, I was accused of having an affair. It was around that time she became pregnant, a pregnancy that was unplanned, and she now contends that this makes it rape.

I knew that I would need to change schools and applied to a dozen or so universities across several states that either her, I, or both had connections in. She was adamant that she wanted to stay near her immediate family, so some of the schools I applied to were with the intention of accommodating that. I told her that she could have her pick of the schools I got into. I got into a handful of schools, but not the ones that she wanted me to get into, so she decided that this was because I was simply too stupid to accomplish my goals. I told her to pick from the choices presented or that I'd choose for her, but that I'd try for law school in the area when such applied. We moved to where she picked, near my family and divorced within a month.

Years later and a lot of money lost in the divorce, I have remarried to a much better woman, and am doing quite well. She still lives with her mom and still doesn't work but complains a lot about money.

Spare_Development615 · 2023-03-26T07:37:28+00:00

You get treated how you accept to be treated.

If you take someone out to dinner every week and they never volunteer to pick up the tab.

If you take someone home and they never cook, clean or do anything to help you.

If you pay all the bills, do all the driving, do all the cooking, all the cleaning, and she never lifts a finger to help you.

So why is she there for?

Just to lay on the bed?

No thanks, out, get out, get the fuck out.

That should be your first reaction, not the last reaction.

That's a day 1 thing, not a "10 years into your marriage" thing. 10 years after marriage it's already too late, you had kids with her, her behavior and habits have ossified into a regular routine, and it's going to be emotionally painful and financially costly to get rid of her. She's going to demand NEETbux for the rest of her life and you'll be on the hook.

Why did this happen?

Because you think with your dick.

She shows you her tits and you are like "Fuck it, I'll pay for everything."

And that behavior continues and grows and grows until she is 300 pounds and you have ED, and both of you are barely functioning trying to pay the bills, but now there is a little baby who needs you and calls you dada.

What can you do at that point? Nothing, so you soldier it out, you continue for the sake of your baby, and she starts cheating on you, and you spend 14-16 hours a day working while she's fingerfucking herself on discord and eating cheese doodles.

The sooner you nip this in the bud, the sooner she will either correct herself or hit the road.

househubbyintraining · 2023-03-25T13:59:00+00:00

Not a partner but my mom when I was around 10-13 has very much so treated me like a servant, with me fetching her make-up, with me having to constantly bring her dinner plates, and constantly be a type of emotional blanket for her, and me being told to go grab groceries for her but never my dad (this was mostly because of my dad).

My aunt also does the same stuff, to a much lesser extent, just asking me to grab yarn from a room she was closer to while she was sewing, her calling me to get her scissor minir stuff but the context always comes pff as, "Yeah, I'm just an extension of your body, aren't I."

This girl I was talking too exactly a year ago, as well, also treated me this way, wanted me to get on her gaming account to complete a mission for her cause she couldn't figure it out, even as I explained to her and center a video on how to do it, she was freaking out and calling herself an idiot, and I was practically an emotional blanket for her when she wasn't high or on some other drugs (p sure she was addicted) She'd also demand me to buy a game I couldn't afford so I could help her with fishing, which knowing her was just going to be me doing all the fishing and her asking if I got the one she was looking for abd giving to her, cause fuck me, I'm to nice of a person. She'd also make me do 90% of work in the game we habitually played together and we pretty much only played the missions she wanted. She was 19, my mom's 50.

Idk what it is about women, but jesus god.

Like cool makes me feel all special and manly that I get constantly feel smarter and more useful than you, because I do everything for you, because your so helpless and pathetic to do anything yourself, but fuck, give me a day at least where I get to be a damn cry baby limpwrist prince who need pedicures too.

sry, vented

DoctorStorm · 2023-03-25T14:47:10+00:00

For the young blokes who feel this way, but can't put words to it or fully explain why and how they feel this way, I'll give you the shortcut and cheat code now:

The word "should". When it is spoken, pay close attention.

In an elevator with all women, and have the audacity to say something out loud (something simple and nice, like 'good evening ladies, what are the odds?!?') - wait for the woman who says "you should feel honored." <-- don't even make eye contact with this one, just get off the elevator ASAP.

At the store and some disgruntled whomever wants your physical space, "you should move." "you should get out of the way."

Family members not believing you when you're in an abusive relationship: "you should not say such things about your girlfriend/spouse" "you should man up".

"should" <- when you hear it, pay closer attention. If you don't believe me, then give it a week and hear for yourself.

blaizken_420 · 2023-03-25T20:19:14+00:00

By my mother.

McGauth925 · 2023-03-25T21:59:49+00:00

You got smart when you stopped falling for such a mess. Good on you.

harveydent526 · 2023-03-29T12:46:18+00:00

Only because you allowed yourself to be.

Haunting-Purple5348 · 2023-07-12T13:48:26+00:00

Your page is so pathetic, crying about women hurting you but on another subreddit calling them subhuman lmao im happy you are a forever alone loser ♥

Title	Treated like a man servant
Author	vestibularam
Upvotes	18
Comments	23
Date	March 25, 2023 12:02 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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