Not sure yet if we're going the route of divorce.. but it seems likely. One thing I have noticed is she continues to tell me how I am fucked, I can't touch her retirement, etc. She also often seems to not give a shit about our current home.. e.g. if we have to sell it she would sell it as is and lose a crap load of money vs spend a month and lets us fix it up a bit to make more on it. I am willing to just be super simple.. I'll take my stuff, she takes hers, sell the house.. ill even work with her on her retirement so she wont have to cash it out.. e.g. if I owe any alimony, I'll let her keep her retirement to avoid any penalties in place of paying her alimony for however many months it works out to.

I feel like no matter how bad our relationship is, and that divorce is absolutely the path forward, and she knows it, she continues to do everything she can to make it a living hell. Why do women (or people.. I guess men do this too when the roles are reversed) go out of their way to literally throw money away just to hurt the other person. If you both know it's basically over.. why would one want to keep on prolonging the inevitable and potentially screw themselves in the process.

I would make it so easy to walk away. So frustrated that it's so the opposite with her.