Hi all! Back for advice! I’ve been dating this guy (from last post) for about five weeks now. He’s kind, charming, thoughtful, handsome, has a good career path, always plans and pays for dates, has compatible beliefs, and is generally everything I could hope for. The thing is, I keep overthinking my feelings for him. I like him and I enjoy spending time with him, and he’s very clear that he likes me. But I worry a lot about not liking him enough. For example, earlier we were cuddling and I was content because I enjoy cuddling, but I also didn’t particularly feel anything other than that.

We aren’t officially dating because I’m waiting for him to guarantee he’ll have a job in our city, because I don’t want to do long distance. I don’t have any strong feelings about being his girlfriend, I’m fine just dating exclusively. We’re about to go long distance for the summer (three months), which is unavoidable but obviously not ideal.

He’s a wonderful guy and he really deserves somebody who adores him, and I worry that that’s not me. However, my last relationship (several months ago) was very complicated and distant, I perpetually had one foot out the door because of some significant relationship issues. Maybe I’m still struggling with committing because of that? I’m not sure.

Should I continue dating? Is it just too early to tell yet? How long did it take for you guys know you were really interested in a guy?