Still very new to the divorce process, nothing has been filed yet, but wife is all about it. I am not wanting it, but nobody cares. As I naively fight it, I still want to hedge my bets.

For me personally, I make 3x the salary as her in the military, we have two kids, two properties since married (one is an out of state rental), and are in AZ. I am debt free, she has about $50k in student loans. I supported her through her Masters, she only started working about 9 months ago. Marriage is just under 5 years.

Please comment on or add to the list:- Do NOT move out of our house, it can be seen as abandonment

- I took all my wine bottles and put it in a box in the garage, it's time to be sober. There's never been a problem, but I want to ensure nothing gets twisted.

- Do everything I can to get two signatures on a legal separation form.

- get the best lawyer first. an extra $10k now will pay off dividends over time.

- hit the gym and meditate. immediately be the guy I probably should have been a year ago.

- anything in email/text should be nothing but kindness and logical caring, and nothing committing anything. the words WILL be read by lawyers

- should i let her file first (although I've already been talking to lawyers) simply because the first costs more money?

Anything else?