I've just seen an image of the man I have been longing for for years with his girlfriend, feeling distraught, need advice

CranberrySoftServe · 2023-06-16T12:24:01+00:00

Girl you have to move on.

Block on all platforms, stop checking his socials COMPLETELY, stop doing attention-seeking behaviours (like posting a story hoping he’ll reply). Do things to distract yourself. He does not want you, and why should you want to be with someone who didn’t enthusiastically choose you?

You won’t find the man you’re talking about in that last line until you have completely moved on because no respectable man would put up with his love interest pining after an ex.

indigo_pirate · 2023-06-16T10:37:39+00:00

Look up Oneitis. It’s common and can happen to either gender

the-alchemist- · 2023-06-16T14:49:54+00:00

Don't hate me for saying this, but it seems like you have a case of "the grass is greener" and oneitis.

RP teaches us that there is no such thing as "the one" only options that are better than other options. As bitter as that pill may be to bite.

This man you describe has some potentially good qualities, but you've only been on a couple dates. Do you really think someone can't be a good actor?

I mean, actors can spend years on a movie's production, you don't think a man from a different country can't put up a good show for a couple weeks?

He said he's not interested, it's your time to dip. There are two possibilities here: either he's a playboy or he's a HVM. Statistically, its most likely the former.

You met him when you were younger, naiver, and thus you could've easily missed red flags. Or you could've found a good man, but that doesn't take away from the fact that he's taken now.

boaventura · 2023-06-16T15:25:58+00:00

We went out several times, but I stopped sex from happening in case I was to never see him again.

I told him I liked him a few months ago, and he told me he didn't feel the same way.

so did he ever like you? how could you have stopped sex from happening if he didn't feel the same way to begin with? you mean you decided not to hook up? that's what its sounding like. based on what you're sharing, i'm not getting the sense that he ever had any genuine interest in you, beyond maybe friendship? ... even his vague:

He told me that if I was living near him he'd like to get closer to me.

That could literally mean anything, but not necessarily:

We would have been togethor if I was living near him:(

It seems to me that maybe you have been living in your head, rather than accepting that this guy was never in to you in the way that you were into him? And that's okay; you deserve someone who will be in to you on a similar level.

db12020 · 2023-06-16T16:47:24+00:00

Pu yourself on a pedestal, date and know people over time and then develop feelings. Go out there and get busy building and living your own life. Get busy doing things you always want to do and your mind would stop obsessing over someone who was never really in a relationship with you.

TheBunk_TB · 2023-06-16T13:14:22+00:00

Weird question: Outside of sex (or a lack thereof), what kind of girlfriend were you? Did you have any gf skills? Did you "sit and look pretty"?

AutoModerator · 2023-06-16T10:11:03+00:00

Title: I've just seen an image of the man I have been longing for for years with his girlfriend, feeling distraught, need advice

Full text: Hi RPW.

I am absolutely distraught right now. I met a man abroad a few years ago when I was 19. He had amazing qualities. I could list them but it will just remind me of them:(. He was perfect for me. We went out several times, but I stopped sex from happening in case I was to never see him again.

Fast forward 3 years, I've had 2 boyfriends since. They did not compare to this man, the way he made me feel, his maturity, his good looks. He told me that if I was living near him he'd like to get closer to me. We would have been togethor if I was living near him:(. I've been longing for him for all these years. I told him I liked him a few months ago, and he told me he didn't feel the same way. I decided to let him know it wouldn't be good to continue speaking to him, especially that he has a girlfriend now.

I've recently been to the country I met him in. My dad has a house there, but it's in a different place to where this man lives. I put stories up on instagram hoping he'd reply or anything. But nothing. I wish he'd message me:(

Then today I saw he put some posts up with his girlfriend. They were hiking together. I love hiking. It could have been me.

I feel so terrible. Will I find a man that makes me feel this way again? I really would appreciate advice.

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Title	I've just seen an image of the man I have been longing for for years with his girlfriend, feeling distraught, need advice
Author	Red_rose49
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Comments	20
Date	June 16, 2023 10:11 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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