I turn 25 this year and I have been very shocked to realize how much I’m struggling to accept that. In large part that struggle comes from the fact that, up until the last 6 months or so, I fully drank the kool-aid and lived by the belief that “everyone is a mess in their 20s!” I have been pretty much living moment-to-moment and am slowly (and with horror) realizing I won’t just wake up one morning and have it all figured out for me. Who knew, right?

I spent the last year in nun-mode, lost 63lbs of depression weight and changed my whole aesthetic from “man-eater blue-haired face-piercing feminist e-girl” (which I’m not villainizing in any way, it’s just soooo not me and was a mentally exhausting coping mechanism) to my authentic girly, skirt-loving self and my entire mindset on life cleared up as I did.

In the last month or so, I have really taken a harsh look at my life and dedicated real time and energy to asking myself what I really want my future to look like and how I can put my whole heart into making that my reality. One of the biggest realizations I’ve made is the magnitude to which the content I engage with influences me, even and particularly subconsciously; the algorithm feeds me content based on my own behavior and, while I’m actively working to lower my screen time, I’d like to see content and creators that line up with my current goals. I’ve made new pages on certain social medias for the explicit purpose of consciously influencing myself to work towards what I want.

That being said, it’s not super easy to do that! I have scoured this sub and have found some awesome stuff, so I figured making my own post with some specific asks may garner some success. Ideally, I’m looking for tiktok/instagram pages since I don’t really watch much youtube. I’m also actively reading/listening to Laura Doyle and have other books in the RPW sidebar on my list!

Some of my goals I’m hoping to find content that relates to include:

  • embodying femininity (duh, I know; but finding feminine energy content creators is a minefield of misandry, victim-complexes, and spirituality [like tarot and crystal type stuff] which I’m not looking for)

  • maintaining my home (I have well-managed ADHD but I love simple/affordable organization hacks, routines, tips, etc.)

  • dating from a RPW perspective (or just content that doesn’t put the onus of effort on men/push the rhetoric that “the right person will love you just how you are”) (so maybe like more tough-love, self-aware dating advice?)

  • homemaking/parenting (not a wife or mother yet, but I aim to learn as much as I can to be a good one before I have to learn “on the job” so to speak)

I hope this formats correctly- I’m on mobile.