Why SHOULDN'T men be angry?

mrmensplights · 2023-07-06T05:50:37+00:00

You should be angry. It's natural to be angry. You were lied to all your life. You're still being lied to. Every day men are ground under the heel in every facet of society while also being derided as having power and being abusive.

However, how you respond to that anger matters. Anger is an emotion that spurs us to change something. It screams to be resolved. How you view the world, how you live, how you are, what you get involved in. Anger is a goad telling you that something needs to change. Do it. If you don't act on anger, if you don't change, then it feeds back on itself, befits more anger, and eventually leads to hatred and bitterness. Then you run the risk of becoming the monster they claim you are... and your life will suck besides as you are consumed with negativity.

Change what? We can't single handedly change the world. We can't even change what others think. To attempt it will only lead ot a feeling of helplessness and more anger. We can only change how we think and how we react. The best revenge is to adjust your world view to align with what you now know to be true and then live as well as you can. Get involved in activism if you feel the need.

RecalcitrantMonk · 2023-07-06T05:38:28+00:00

You should be angry. Be fucking furious. Anger gives you focus and makes you stronger. Channel that rage into positive action. Use it to improve your life and pursue your goals.

Jukingku · 2023-07-06T12:11:21+00:00

What you have to understand is that women FEED off emotion. Without it, they cannot function. For example, if your starting to despise your gf because she’s becoming annoying, after an argument just go “ok”. COMPLETELY emotionless, and see her reaction. They literally have a meltdown. Its like they cannot comprehend you not giving a fuck. Try that man and see how it works. Treat feminist like the children that they are and don’t be emotional like you currently are (although it’s completely understandable what your feeling)

AlohaChris · 2023-07-06T13:15:36+00:00

“Nearly any man can withstand adversity. If you truly want to test a man’s character, give him power.” — Abraham Lincoln

Women have been empowered for decades now, and today is an object lesson in why our forefathers organized our civilizations the way that they did.

That’s not something to be angry about, it’s something to learn from.

hundredandoneeyes · 2023-07-06T03:41:00+00:00

Anger will only prove someone else's point. Not just with this societal issue but also every other one as well. If you have an opinion, be civil with it, be calm. Listen to their points and respond back calmly. I get people have shit experiences with women (and women have shit experiences with men) but remember they aren't the same person and are deserving of base level respect, even if their opinions don't match up with your own. When calm, your few words can change someone's perspective.

denisc9918 · 2023-07-06T02:46:47+00:00

Don't be angry mate that'll fk up your life.

Accept this is how women are and that they can NOT survive without drama and ATTENTION. Turn your back and deny them the attention, let them create their own drama, while you enjoy a calm and peaceful life.

UnsightlyHimbo · 2023-07-06T08:04:39+00:00

I work with a bunch of nurses at a hospital. the best thing you can do is ignore them. They don’t like it and they definitely point it out in the douchiet of ways but that’s the best solution that I’ve found. Overtime you realize that women need to feel socially superior all the time or they feel insecure about themselves

Hugeknight · 2023-07-06T12:27:02+00:00

I'm not angry, because I've checked out, out of life, just going on autopilot, till I can't

Frird2008 · 2023-07-06T14:06:15+00:00

I think it would be delusional not to be angry. Then again it's my opinion & all opinions are crap.

vegansoymilk · 2023-07-06T03:41:47+00:00

Don't worry (marry) be happy. "There's only one thing worse than being talked about and thats not being talked about at all." The thing most women dislike is being ignored.

Jack_Blaze321 · 2023-07-06T08:03:47+00:00

It's fine to feel anger, but trust me mate, letting it CONTROL you? That's what'll get you nothing but needless pain

Try to find ways to manage that anger enough to not allow it to have a serious effect on you

Again, reason being that the moment you let your anger win over your decision making wheel, you'll get absolutely nothing done or changed and will just end up in a worse position

Speaking as someone who's dealt with needing to suppress their anger and rage most of their life, I understand that it's hard to not get uncontrollably angry sometimes. But it just isn't worth it to lose control to that bad of an extent

elebrin · 2023-07-06T14:00:49+00:00

Here's the thing: you are allowed to be angry. All the time, if you want. You are allowed to hate, too. You can hate literally whoever you want, internally, for any reason you want.

We can band together out of our anger and hate and gain power. Humans are very good at doing this, there are examples all through history of a group of people who are upset banding together and taking action out of hate and anger. Usually, those actions end in activities that result in death. Sometimes one death, sometimes two or three, often there are innocent bystanders involved.

Do you really want to be a part of a mob that's burning shit and killing people? Because that's where anger and hatred ultimately lead.

WhereProgressIsMade · 2023-07-06T15:28:49+00:00

I've read some research into how base feelings like anger work. It's basically a prompt to action. IMHO, in itself, a feeling is not right or wrong, it's what we do with it. Feeling anger at an injustice can be what prompts someone to try to make a positive change. A lot of non-profits start this way - e.g. someone's child dies from a disease and the parent organizes to try to help find a cure. Using anger to go out and spite people or get revenge, not so much.

I've had mostly good experiences with women. Most of the bad ones have been online in places like reddit and from MSM. I think it's because I've systematically cut feminists out of my life as much as I can. In the US, 61% of women identify as feminists, so there's still a big chunk out there that don't. I keep people in my life (men and women) who have good character, are able to listen to reason, and have principals such as - I will defend your right to free speech, even if I disagree with you.

I live in a pretty liberal state & metro too, so it's not that I live out in the sticks, haha.

MrSaturn33 · 2023-07-06T19:03:12+00:00

Both men and women should be angry, having to live in this awful society. It's the social premises that put us at odds with each other. Name any issue, such as custody disputes following divorce, government intervening in child support and so on. The women in the situation doesn't necessarily come out looking good, but it all comes down to the constructs, the marriage contract and property generally being the most immediately blatant.

Consequently, it goes without saying that much of the grievances, issues, and criticism Feminists offer have legitimacy. Just as is the case with Men's Rights Activists here. The key distinction is: Feminism is part of the mainstream, predominant ideology, whereas Men's Rights Activism can be controversial to so much as mention, taken by many to mean an outright opposition to Women's Rights. (like one can't exist without the other...actually, that might not be wrong...but not in the way they mean it.)

The issue is the narrow view of Feminists who suggest that men have nothing to be angry about and exclusively occupy a place of privilege. It ends up making so much the idea of raising these issues to light to be a personal attack on women. It's so inane, it doesn't leave space to even constructively discuss the issues, and fans the flames of irrationality and potential anger that much more. Their game and end-goal is not to be reasonable, but to reinforce the social premises as a whole.

This_Inspector9114 · 2023-07-06T21:23:19+00:00

I feel similarly. My girlfriend does too, just the other way round. She feels like she's drowning in all the horrific things she hears men do, and how they treat her. And I feel like women judge me and see me as a creep. I hate how theres all this pressure to be "manly" just be a man however you like. Theres no manual!

Silver_Base9565 · 2023-07-06T10:22:32+00:00

Emotions are there for a reason and your feeling them because its your body signalling to you something is wrong. Anger is not something you want to feel 24/7 but its not healthy to deny it either. Its an emotion you have to explore to be able to handle it.

CrowMagpie · 2023-07-06T21:00:48+00:00

I always hear feminists talk about how frustrated and angry modern men are

And they say it like it's a bad thing.

Then they turn around and tell us that they want us to be able / allowed to express our emotions.

'Going mad is the only sane response to an irrational world.' (The Joker)

And before someone comes in here and says "you spend too much time on the internet" I have also lived through a lot of these injustices.

The first thing, the very first thing, anybody did to me was skin my PP alive.

I constantly hear about men's abuse against women, and how terrible it is (which it is), but never the other way around. Because of this, I was over 40 when I figured out that the way my sister treated me would've counted as emotional abuse if a boy had done it to a girl. Because of this, my parents let it happen. (Oh, and if I try ignoring her, she uses that against me too: 'he'll just go mute'.)

Original-Speech-9312 · 2023-07-07T20:25:32+00:00

Man welcome to the other side...Feminists assumed control of media, and institutions. If you read something about women, bad men and such may it be a bbc article or a study on a scinrtific journal, that's the feminist agenda behind. This lobbies are not intersted in equality, they want power and achieve by both reducing men to silence and provide the female audience an enemy(us men) so that they feminists would be legitimate to stay in power. Think of all the people working on gender studies departmente in universities. They all be jobless if they stop publishing man hating studies. So don't trust the media, we have the right and reason to be angry, make it in to action, sensibilize people about the topic, create a instragram about his topic, adhere to Men's Rights. Just don't make this anger a hatred towards all women

Lrdyxx · 2023-07-06T13:16:01+00:00

You shouldn‘t be angry because it‘s not a good way to live your life. Try to change things you dislike and advocate for what you want. If you are angry and bitter all the time life will just suck. Obviously you can decide how you live your life, but why not do so in a positive way? You seem to have bad luck when it comes to women. It‘s really unlikely that you actually never had a positive experience with non-related women. I am sure you‘ll find someone who you can have positive experiences with, be it friend or partner (if you swing that way).

And about being someone‘s punching bag or being faced with weird expectations and people telling you how to do things, that‘s just life. Society always has roles that people have to fit in. Men, women, whatever group you choose, they are faced with them. It‘s on you how much you give a shit or not.

And yes you seem to be on the internet too much, obviously these injustices exist in real life but on the internet you‘ll constantly be fed with a concentrated dose of it. Warped to make you angry and showing you only the reality that fits to the biases you already have.

Don‘t throw your life away by being angry and bitter.

Ftpiercecracker1 · 2023-07-06T06:07:05+00:00

99% of the time anger is a useless emotion. It only serves to damage yourself and on the internet bring sadistic satisfaction to countless fat trolls

tlawtlawtlaw · 2023-07-09T13:55:01+00:00

Bro those articles you’re talking about are something to laugh at, not get angry about. There’s always stupid shit out there, dont let it get to you!!

Title	Why SHOULDN'T men be angry?
Author	Wasteofoxyg3n
Upvotes	213
Comments	33
Date	July 5, 2023 10:30 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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