I just got my marriage annulled after she nuked 11yrs and 6 weeks of marriage. Lost still.

Praecipuus · 2018-02-06T07:06:07+00:00

Thank you for the share.

You're looking for an instant solution for all your problems, which doesn't exist. What you need to do is what you say you are doing already: keep yourself busy with stuff that improves you as a person, in addition to blocking the shit out of your ex from your life, in case you haven't done it yet. Seriously, this is non-negotiable. Do it.

It will start getting easier over time and you will end up feeling like meeting new women. Until then, no need to force yourself to do it, but read, man. Read all the side bar material you have here, plus The Rational Male, The Book of Pook, The Manipulated Man and the top posts of all time from the red pill sub. I guarantee it will ease the pain by getting some sense into your head and making you at least understand what is happening to you.

Also, meditate (seriously this is important) and fuck nofap. Just stay away from porn and fantasizing about your ex.

Feel free to shoot me a pm if you ever need to talk.

TheMistakesWeMake · 2018-02-06T09:37:33+00:00

You're doing alright, it just takes some time to get over (which is normal, you're human).

One bit of advice that I would have found useful when I split with my ex-LTR of 8 years would be that it's alright to feel like shit for being rejected, and pretending you don't give a shit will not work. Once I accepted that it fucking hurt to be cheated on by someone I gave so much to, I was able to start processing why I was so dependent on her validation etc.

The RedPill breaks us down to nothing and builds us back up. A lot of guys start trying to 'build' before they understand what made them so vulnerable in the first place (thus when challenged, they crumble).

nastynickdr · 2018-02-06T11:45:56+00:00

Which is really shitty because we went to a couples counseling session 4 weeks after she moved out and she lied about leaving to fuck around or that "theirs was anyone else". She blamed me for everything and said that she's leaving because i don't "handle her emotions well enough".

Lol what an entitled cunt. But none of that matters.

Gather all evidence of her cheating, go se an attorney and make it so that there is no link between you two after everything is handled. Block her from everything after its done.

And a lot of this is your fault. Your vetting process probably sucked and you ignored red flags for the sake of "true love". Read the sidebar and internalize it before getting into another relationship again. Set goals and objectives and pursue them. Get new hobbies, learn new stuff, meet new people. Go out and grab a beer with your buddies. Learn from your mistakes.

Rian_Stone · 2018-02-06T14:31:56+00:00

I don't get why you frame this as a negative.

Do you know how many men would kill for this outcome? You've been given the rare gift, enjoy it

Rares5555 · 2018-02-06T13:08:22+00:00

You are 28. The past cannot be undone, and in your case thank god it can’t.

The only thing I can tell you is become selfish.

Aaren_Augustine · 2018-02-06T07:22:23+00:00

Why the shit are you not throwing parties over the fact that she starfished this annulment?

She left because she didn't want to be responsible for caring for you. Because you don't care for you.

Bitch felt so bad she didn't even fight the destruction of your marriage. Just showed up for shit and then went about her life without you.

That's how bad she didn't want to do your fucking job for you.

Now she's gone and you still can't care about yourself.

With all the time you have NOT focusing on RP homework, NOT focusing on school, NOT focusing on jerking off, NOT focusing on fucking women, NOT focusing on getting over your ex...

When are you going to learn to give a shit about you? You going to live with some friends so they can take care of you now?

ice_walker · 2018-02-06T10:05:07+00:00

You are totally right about not jumping into a new relationship straight away. I did, and it was a mistake in many ways,

Learn to function perfectly on your own and enjoy your own company first, then you can start thinking about a new relation, if that's what you really want.

jm51 · 2018-02-06T14:12:58+00:00

<Taking a hiatus on dating for another month or two - i know I'll hear it's gay but i worry if i fuck around I'll be tempted to get into a relationship because i haven't built myself enough.

Fair enough but on your other post you said:

<I’m not super into the idea of meaningless sex, I wanna be with someone low count and I feel like if I don’t hold myself to the same standard I’ll sabotage that from manifesting.

That is a covert contract with women you haven't even met yet. Men and women are very different when it comes to casual sex. On another forum a guy was talking about his younger days and how he would regularly take a different hottie to his local pub. The barmaid got to wondering what the attraction was and decided to find out. They've been married over 20 years. iow, a low n count woman will not see his high n count as a deal breaker. Quite the reverse in fact.

max_peenor · 2018-02-06T14:27:16+00:00

if i'm fucking up.

Obviously not. This is what is called a positive outcome. I wouldn't spend much time thinking back on it now; just build yourself and find some new tang. However, some years down the road, you might look back and realize there was one of THESE moments before the wedding. She was holding her breath for six months and is finally breathing again. It's the best for both of you.

get into a relationship

Don't. Just get sex. Enjoy a female in the most fundamental way a man can. Worry about the other shit later.

Also opinion on nofap?

They have a couple decent people, but overall they seem to be a bunch of religious zealots and people looking for magic tricks. Be careful.

RedSkeller · 2018-02-06T15:17:15+00:00

My man, you got off pretty well in the grand scheme of things. You could've got highway robbed on that marriage but it's annulled. I would take some pictures of what evidence you have of her cheating or just being a general psycho about it. It's a great time to be alive, you have almost an infinite access to information, get to start over in many respects and have a house and a plan. Most people are lucky to have one of those things. I'm not a huge fan of no fap, but not looking at porn definitely helps. I'd say focus on hitting the gym hard when you're there and cleaning up your diet, also throw away any thing that bears any resemblance to that old sea hag. Best of luck, check back with an update.

LordThunderbolt · 2018-02-06T18:22:56+00:00

Your problem is the amount of value you place on sex. Go visit a few escorts for 3 months or so and you will see that you can easily fall in love with a girl that you know is selling her puss for money too. What will that tell you, that whatever you're feeling isn't reality, it's a surge of chemicals softening you up. You must mentally override that feeling and separate sex from "love", whatever love is.

sinchurch · 2018-02-06T18:45:01+00:00

Some really great advice already. One thing though...Find a way to laugh...A lot! Stand up, a show you like, a friend, something that makes you actually laugh out loud. For me, it was a huge help when I was in the day to day grind after LTR dissolved and TRP came crashing in like the Kool-Aid Man! (Plus it helps with game in the future).

Also - As stated: DO NOT take her back under any circumstances!

Oh yeah: Sidebar. Sidebar. Sidebar.

Title	I just got my marriage annulled after she nuked 11yrs and 6 weeks of marriage. Lost still.
Author	HelpsToThrowAway
Upvotes	11
Comments	21
Date	February 6, 2018 6:43 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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