I’m dealing with a narcissistic/possibly BPD ex-separated nearly four years, both of us have been in LTRs with other people for the last two years. We have three children together. She is cohabitating with her boyfriend and I initially agreed to alimony for four years anyway in an effort to “buy peace” which hasn’t worked because she constantly tries to control me, manipulate my kids, she’s even tried to go after my girlfriend’s kids. It’s at the point now that though we have a draft agreement ready to sign my girlfriend is ready to walk due to the harassment she has been subjected to. At one point my ex located hers and called him up and gathered info on her/spread lies and caused all kinds of havoc. I’m also fed up as well-one of the boundaries I’ve set is that I will not speak to her by phone which drives her insane. She then harasses me through text which I do screen shot to preserve but from what I hear the court monitored apps are better because she could face consequences in real time if she goes on one of her rants. What I don’t know is how to implement it. HELP!