What would your reaction be if a man became aggressive, angry and bitter after you ended the relationship with him and he said he’s like that because you broke up with him? (Shower thought)

Justwannaread3 · 2024-01-01T05:49:09+00:00

Healthy, mature, secure people will not become aggressive or violent because of a romantic breakup.

Stargazer1919 · 2024-01-01T09:33:21+00:00

Angry and upset is understandable. Violent and aggressive is not ok.

AssistTemporary8422 · 2024-01-01T06:05:58+00:00

I'd say the person you are describing is someone with anger management issues. Most people have been broken up with at least once and they don't go to jail because they were attacking people. I'm also glad this person was broken up with because this would probably turn into an abusive relationship if wasn't already. I also suspect they are just claiming this to guilt trip into taking them back.

bluemagex2517 · 2024-01-01T14:54:25+00:00

I am a guy I am scared, not only for myself but for the women in my life that I care about. Lots of people are on drugs acting violent and because of a broken relationship. How does one stay safe?

This is concerning behavior, but from your post you didn't mention actually seeing any of it in real life.

I ask because as I read stories, and I did my big research into these people and incels

If you're not running into these people in real life, there is no need to be scared. It makes me think you maybe don't have a very realistic perspective on this.

This stuff does happen. It should be talked about and things should be done to help reduce it and help those affected by it. However, it's much more rare than you might think reading about it online. We live in the least violent era in human history. And not just in comparison to the middle ages. Unless you live in a war torn country, things are much much safer now than just 30 years ago. Including violence from men against women.

So yeah, let's talk about it and come up with some ideas to do something, but there is no reason to be overly frightened or alarmist. Let's be calm and rational. It'll help your mental health too, to keep this all in perspective and maybe read about this stuff a bit less.

SweelFor- · 2024-01-01T14:25:31+00:00

I don't really understand your question.

The answer is obvious: I wouldn't like it? I would think that they are unstable or immature or suffering from a disorder?

This is just stating the obvious. What were you really getting at?

Witty_Fox_143 · 2024-01-01T14:48:10+00:00

I'm truly sorry to hear about the disturbing situations you've been researching. It's understandable to feel scared and concerned for your safety and the safety of the women in your life.

In this type of situation, it's important to prioritize safety above all else. If you're in immediate danger or witness aggressive behavior, don't hesitate to call emergency services or seek help from trusted individuals.

Additionally, consider taking the following steps to protect yourself and others:

Establish clear boundaries: Communicate firmly with the person involved, making it known that their behavior is not acceptable and that you will not tolerate any form of aggression or violence.
Seek support: Reach out to local mental health organizations or hotlines for advice on how to handle the situation. You may also benefit from speaking with a therapist or counselor to process your emotions and develop a safety plan.
Document incidents: Keep a record of any threatening or violent behavior, including dates, times, and details. This documentation can be important if legal action or intervention becomes necessary.
Connect with community resources: Look into support groups or community organizations that provide assistance for individuals dealing with violent behavior or mental health challenges.

Your hope for these individuals to receive the help they need and find peace within themselves is commendable. While you may not be able to directly change their behavior, by taking proactive steps to protect yourself and seeking support, you're making a courageous effort to prioritize safety and well-being.

latenerd · 2024-01-01T21:01:38+00:00

Even mentally unwell, struggling, insecure people will usually not become aggressive or violent because of a breakup.

Someone who lashes out this way is either inclined to be violent and aggressive anyway, and just wants to use you as an excuse. Or they are very bad at handling their emotions, and shouldn't be in a relationship until they've had a lot of therapy.

Either way, not your fault. Not your circus, not your monkeys.

TopIncrease6441 · 2024-01-01T16:49:36+00:00

Protective order 🫶🏾

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