hi ladies,

this may come off silly but i’m really at a loss and don’t know how to navigate this situation. i’d like to handle it appropriately and also in a graceful manner.

about 2 weeks ago, i went on a date with a rich handsome man who was visiting my city. everything was great, we got along, he complimented me a lot. conversation was amazing. it was fun! we even discussed how he would fly me out to his city mid year and stuff (idk if he was being serious though lol). i liked him and i was attracted to him, he was masculine and he seemed like a great guy.

we ended up going back to his hotel room, i did NOT have sex with him but we did make out quite a bit and we cuddled and took a nap together (i have no regrets or shame about kissing him on the first date btw) he respected my decision to not go further. he asked me to stay over with him but i’m really annoying about my skincare and didn’t want to sleep in makeup and contact lenses and i didn’t have a toothbrush, he told me i could use the stuff at the hotel but i declined and thanked him for a great evening and he ordered me an uber to go back to my place.

alas, while in the uber i get a text from him that i forgot my jewellery at his hotel. it wasn’t intentional at all but it was sort of uncomfortable to cuddle on the bed with a necklace and earrings. we were meant to meet up the next day so he could return my things but we couldn’t align our schedules for the rest of his trip.

i kindly asked him if he would be able to leave my jewellery at the hotel reception before he leaves and i’ll come pick it up. this was two days before he was meant to leave, he was going on holiday for his birthday with his brother. the day before he told me he’ll either mail me my stuff or leave it at the reception, so i asked him to leave it at the reception again. the day he left i didn’t hear from him about it so i went to the hotel to ask about my jewellery and they said nothing was left with them so i texted him about it and he apologised to me telling me he was in a rush and would mail it back to me and i sent him my address but still nothing.

so now it’s been about 2 weeks since i saw him and a week since he left for vacation… and he still hasn’t mailed my jewellery back but he does answer my texts when prompted about it?? i really don’t get it. it’s strange to me that he traveled to a different country with my jewellery when he could’ve left it with the hotel in my city. i’m not worried about him stealing it lol, my jewellery is heart shaped earrings which were cheap and replaceable and idc about those but he has a very special heart shaped necklace that my mother gifted me and it holds a lot of sentimental value. i doubt he’ll wear it.

i want my necklace back because it’s important to me 🥲 im getting frustrated but i would really like to deal with this properly because i don’t think he’s being malicious, it’s probably just not a priority for him unfortunately… should i offer to pay for the shipping or ask a family member or friend who lives in his city to pick it up for me?