This is a story about men’s mental health and women’s reaction to it. I don’t tell this part of my parents divorce a lot because of how bad it makes my mother look but I feel like you guys should hear it. To preface this; my mother isn’t a crazy feminist but adopts feminists views when it benefits her.

When I was 14 my grandfather (my dads dad) committed suicide and it left him broken for a few years. It was a traumatic moment in my dads life and my mom did basically nothing to help him. She would actively complain about how closed off and depressed he became. I remember her being so confused about his behavior expecting him to get over it instantly, It felt like she was mad at him for having normal human emotions. He didn’t become violent or abusive, just closed off and depressed. She devised a plan to leave him for one of her coworkers after my brother and I graduated high school. That broke him even worse than his father killing himself. She told him that if he became more committed to her than she she would stay. He spent a couple months dedicated to saving his marriage and even got a better job because that was another problem she had with him. It was all a lie and she left him anyway and telling him to get a better job was to get herself more money in the divorce. I would get calls from him wasted on the brink of suicide while i was in college. One time my mom and I were fighting about she handled the divorce and told her about the calls. Big mistake as she would then try to use that as a reason that he’s unstable and I shouldn’t speak to him anymore. Women will ruin a man’s life and then get surprised when their upset. My moms lawyers tried to get everything out of him even child support for us (we were over 18 and staying with our father on holidays). He ended up only owing her the house and still managed a cut of the sales (his lawyers were rockstars) To this day she defends her cheating with “I felt so lonely” well maybe it was because he was going through a horrific experience and he was the one that needed her. My dads in a much better and happier place now thank god