Redpill boyfriend

Schmutzcityusa · 2024-02-16T01:13:54+00:00

He lost a real one. Tell him to have fun with his college girls, if he can even pull any.

Top_Radio_9436 · 2024-02-16T03:19:06+00:00

Deeply depressed and brainwashed is exactly how he sounds. He sounds very, very sick and is obviously abusing you. Maybe he had deep insecurities to begin with that caused redpill to resonate with him. Either way, you don't deserve to be treated this way and it sounds like you could do much, much better. You can't stay with someone who basically doesn't see you as human.

Redpill causes men to distrust women and see them as manipulative and hypergamous and that's probably how he is seeing you. It also causes them to reinterpret and reframe their own lived experiences to fit the redpill narrative they believe, including their relationships. He thinks he's found some universal truth now and these ideas have probably undermined his trust in you and your motives and he now sees you in a different light.

But it never stopped, I developed so much anxiety that I had fine tantrums and was subsequently blamed for being an extremely neutroic person

I'd wager that he is the neurotic one and could be projecting. Most redpillers I know are actually highly neurotic (according to the actual definition) and its a major part of what skews their worldview in such a negative way.

How long has he been out of work? Did he fall into this during a bad time in his life?

MechanicHopeful4096 · 2024-02-16T01:59:58+00:00

Honestly, I’d say leave him. He’s telling you straight up he’s more interested in 18 year olds and implying heavily he’ll end up cheating anyways. Not to mention the insane amount of misogyny he spewed out saying you’re basically not worth more than your genitalia. WTF?!

RP ideology always plays mental gymnastics to appear unfalsifiable. Having a girlfriend shouldn’t be something you put in a glass case and admire, and rating anybody based on being “high-value” or not is dehumanizing and no real relationship is based on that. Once you leave he’ll probably bitch and moan, blame you, make fun of you, and eventually might end up come back crying saying he’ll change (don’t believe him, he just wants to be able to bully you to feel superior while also being comfortable in a relationship).

He ruined a good relationship with his absolute jack-assery. Don’t take him back and keep no contact. You don’t need that kind of toxicity and manipulation.

You’re not obligated to be his therapist for his “depressive episodes”, or whatever he calls them. He shouldn’t be in a relationship if he’s expecting his partner to deal with his problems, anyways.

Good men are out there, I married one after wading through these types of dumpster fires myself.

Ok_Establishment6863 · 2024-02-16T03:56:17+00:00

You need to move on there is nothing left for you with him. He is trying to wear down your self worth so you dont leave him and he wants to able to cheat on you without the chance you will leave him. Dont be his meal ticket and boxing bag. I worked, cooked, cleaned, had a decent body my ex got fat off my cooking and sat on his ever growing butt all day long. He quit work and just lived off me and got more and more controlling and abusive, and yes he ended up laying hands on me. Dont waste 18yrs and your youth on someone like that walk now it only gets worse.

blaze420x · 2024-02-16T03:34:08+00:00

The relationship is over. Sooner or later, he’d start cheating and you’d know because he’d become even more arrogant and aggressive when you question his behavior. Given the way you called him your first sexual exp ‘of your own free will’, if I’m misinterpreting that then my apologies, but the way it reads suggests that given the chance he’ll gonna hurt you emotionally in ways you may not be ready for, especially when those young girls get bored with him.

You cannot fix what’s wrong with him, and it’ll hurt a LOT worse if you waste years or decades of your life finding that out the hard way. You guys had(past tense) a great relationship, but HE burned it to the ground.

Cherish the memories and be glad you don’t have to depend on him for money or whatever else. There are way better guys out there if you want one and I promise you’ll agree once you’ve fully moved on.

DecisionPlastic9740 · 2024-02-16T01:03:31+00:00

Sorry to hear my friend 🫶

Bbbydaddy · 2024-02-16T02:39:15+00:00

You need to pull back and see how “red pill” he really is. If you are his best option he will realize quickly.

Aware_Illustrator_81 · 2024-02-16T04:19:57+00:00

You made the right move, sadly his mind has been infected by the red-pill philosophy, sadly men who get into this have a bigger problem regarding insecurity, belonging, and sense of identity, and it’s a easy place to fall into because it validates the victim identity for men. You sound like you were an awesome girlfriend and I’m sorry you had to go through this. I would not be surprised if he reaches out again, in his mine 18 years old sounds good, until he actually talks to an 18 year old, which will not be fun.

luridlurker · 2024-02-16T06:08:48+00:00

you have to think that I myself have been brainwashed through his words over the years, so that I started to believe in the things he says

Quite possibly. Worth looking into narcissistic abuse and see if it tracks with how he treated you and how you feel. If he's undercut you and made you feel worthless regularly, that will break down your sense of self over time.

I should be a high value woman according to the red pill people

There is no such thing as a high value person. Humans have worth. The desire for others to be with you has more to do with how they match up with you than any hierarchical ranking. We don't all want the same thing.

I'm leaving a depressive brainwashed man who is my love. but my psyche can take no more

You can't help someone if they're hurting you, and you can't fix someone if they don't want to be fixed. You should have no guilt over leaving.

Calm_Negotiation_787 · 2024-02-16T07:11:38+00:00

Fresh is ugly what is wrong with you?

shawninpa · 2024-02-16T03:01:51+00:00

So what makes you 'high value"? In your opinion that he's not seeing?

Sensitive_Panda_6245 · 2024-02-16T00:59:53+00:00

I lost a potential boyfriend because of the Red Pill things. We met through viewing these podcasts & became friends pretty quick. We both have a taste for rock & roll & metal music, even video games and other stuff. He was sweet, kind, funny & willing to just chat with me on the phone for hours. He was so handsome too.

But literally his entire personality did a 180. This Red Pill stuff became his entire life and it affected the dynamic between us. He was always angry about something. He never even let me speak about anything anymore, dismissing my thoughts whenever I criticized points of people like F&F “you’re just a woman, you don’t get it.” He then hit me with “if I’m going to take you out, I expect something in return.” He knew I am a virgin too & suddenly accused me of lying because “no virgins exist in the western world.” Then after weeks of mental torment from him practically baby-ing me and complaining about how “women don’t honor traditional gender roles anymore” I snapped on him, telling him “I couldn’t take it anymore. You do nothing but complain about women doing literally anything.” We had a big fight that some of our Red Pill friends witnessed & they were all on his side. Me standing up for myself “caused” every man I met through this stuff to label me masculine & that’s why you’re 30 & single. They all made me cry & he didn’t care.

They are all no longer my friends. But I have sobbed from the thought of loosing a guy I really liked to this idiocy. And it actually started the process of me leaving the RP & opening my eyes. The RP took that sweet kind man from me & turned him into a monster.

I know what you’re feeling. They push and push until you snap. Then when it sets in that you’re never going back to them, it hurts even more. It’s heartbreak to loose them,but they never cared about you. And the RP helps them do that.

xvszero · 2024-02-16T03:28:19+00:00

What was the unfortunate situation you met under?

ScottishRose81 · 2024-02-16T10:49:07+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. It feels like you’re grieving for someone who’s still alive, the man whom you feel in love with and would die for starts treating you like crap and you’re still clinging to the hope he’ll come back because you see him as two different people. The one you love, and the one who body snatched him who’s an abusive jerk. They’re not the same person. My husband of 21yrs became so awful I had to leave. Our four kids are reluctant to visit him, they were witness to how I was treated and it bothers them but not only that he treated them poorly too. Of course he doesn’t see anything wrong with his actions, I’m the problem, I don’t respect him enough etc etc, (bearing in mind he’s my first love, first kiss, first time, I haven’t so much as looked at another man other than him, because he’s all I wanted, I didn’t even do our grocery shopping without his voice in my head approving or disapproving of something, and much much more, but it’s a long list) We’ve been separated 7 months and he hasn’t woken up. Sad part is, The man I fell in love with would have been appalled at this man’s behaviour. They’re two entirely different people. My love stopped coming through over a year ago. There was nothing left to stay for. Red pill absolutely wrecks men.

Title	Redpill boyfriend
Author	Maleficent-Algae-829
Upvotes	19
Comments	27
Date	February 16, 2024 12:37 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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