In this subreddit, I had hoped to find a wider diversity of opinions. Honestly, instead of being an open space for discussion, it sometimes feels more like a “pre-redpill” sub than “ex-redpill”. It's disheartening to notice that men who simply share their preferences are immediately dismissed and ridiculed.

When a man dares to express his preferences, he is commonly labeled as "incel" or "misogynist," or he's pointed at with phrases like "that's a red flag" or "you're projecting your insecurities." This trend of disqualification is unfair and stifles any attempt at constructive dialogue.

I observe a false premise prevailing in this space: the idea that all men are or have been promiscuous, and therefore, they are expected to accept a woman with a lot of sexual experience as a partner. I want to make it clear that I do not support male promiscuity, just as I do not judge women's sexual freedom.

It has been shown through many interviews that most women prefer tall, status-driven, and masculine men, and that is completely within their right. However, at the same time, men also have the right to have their own preferences. Recently, I saw a post where a guy expressed his preference for women with little sexual experience. Although I may not fully agree with how he expressed it, he has the right to have preferences without being unfairly labeled as misogynistic. Of course, you can question preferences, but attraction preferences aren't always logical. It's like saying “a strong man isn't attractive because laws, police, and fire weapons already exist”.

Please, let's stop this trend of polarizing and unfairly judging those who disagree with our own beliefs. We don't have the right to impose our standards of attraction on others.

But to wrap up, here's my personal perspective: I would have dated a girl with a lot of sexual experience, as long as she brought other things to the relationship. I say 'would have' because I'm currently in a relationship. And for those seeking 'non-misogynistic' reasons why a man might prefer women with low sexual experience, here are mine:

  1. I've never had casual sex; my body count in my older twenties is very low.
  2. I'm a hypochondriac and have a lot of fear about diseases.
  3. If someone has been jumping from relationship to relationship, it's likely to happen in mine too. Can they change? Yes, just like a person who has been unfaithful all their life could change. But you're entitled to discard that person because dreaming about a non-existent future is free.

In conclusion, I've always sought a partner similar to myself. Why is that considered sexist?

Please stop justifying everything under assumptions about what you think men do.