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[–]SalesAficionado 59 points60 points61 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Delete the contact and approach more women
[–]Lucazzz14[🍰] 11 points12 points13 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
If they like you, they'll make it obvious. That's the general rule.
If they don't reply, either ask them out or message them once more and leave it to them to reply back. If they do, great. If they don't, who cares? You've moved on doing something else or someone.
Don't fall for the mind games or justify her lack of effort as so, people who play games aren't long term partners.
9 out of 10 girls I chat with either end up leaving me on read, not opening the messages for a long time
If this is the case, perhaps look at what you're doing. Do you constantly text? Text about random bullshit like she's a buddy? Come across as serious or a buzz killer? Do you tease her and have banter? Do you make her laugh? Do you leave it days/weeks to ask her on a date? Were they interested in the first place when they gave you their number?
What about when you approached them, was it natural or did it feel forced? Similar point to the texting about teasing, banter, making her laugh - did you do that? Was she giving you eye contact? Was she enthusiastic to give you her number or did she seem more monotone? How many times did you give her your number?
Just because she gave you her number, doesn't mean you've secured a date. Girls sometimes give you their number to make you go away.
[–]Yellowcardrocks 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I have a habit of texting long and replying fast.
I am never afraid to ask them to hang out but escalation has always been an issue for me. The few times I tried, I failed. I have been friendzoned a few times by girls who seemed interested at the start and they end up telling me about their crushes.
I usually dont get numbers but social media and then take it from there. I am usually a serious guy but friendly. I do attempt to make jokes and be light hearted regularly but I would not say I am the funniest guy around because I hardly get people laughing in stitches.
Some have described me as funny but more in a Mr Bean way it seems.
[–]Lucazzz14[🍰] 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't see anything wrong with that personally IF they reciprocate the long messages back. Same with replying fast if you happen to have the phone in your hand, but if you literally put life on hold or stop whatever you're doing, stop. Reply when you've finished your task.
"Hang out" like a bro or going to grab food/drinks, get to know eachother and see where things so if she stays in your good books? You won't win them all so don't be discouraged. Personally, it's better to schedule a date within a couple of days of getting their number or you'll run the risk of talking like buddies. If she talks about her crush, play with it (unless she friendzoned you first). Say something stupid like "oh I better book an appointment with you quick then before the X types show up", I don't know. Just don't come across as offended.
Instagram pages are a mixed bag imo, getting their number shows more intent, more balls. Phone numbers feel more personal. At least you're not asking for their Snapchat. There's times you have to be serious in life sure but for dating it's about having fun, having a good time and having laughs. Making people laugh is a skill I think. That's where you have to go out and practice it, even if it's just with friends or random strangers if you play games online or whatever. If you have a dating app, try it there too. Or plan B is to make fun of yourself, it usually gets a few laughs and it shows you're confident and not ashamed of who you are. The key is not making a joke seem forced, they have to come spontaneously and naturally.
Mr Bean is a legend but some hate him, it's a matter of preference. Unless they meant by being socially awkward then that can relate to the part of socialising more and being aware of your surrounding, cues and all that jazz. I'm not an expert sorry. But even with the Mr Bean comparison, I'm not saying be a clown 100% of the time but do the odd random thing here and there. Catch people off guard. It ain't the end of the world.
[–]PhysiO136 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hmm I kinda empathize. I've had great dates and then eventually it ends up happening like the OP mentions. I usually joke around but maybe should try more banter. But its hard aomwtimes when they don't reply as often etc.
What are some forms of banter that work for u? Since it's kinda vague.
[–]Andress1 7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If I like them I ask them out pretty fast.
It they barely reply, well, that's your answer.
[–]Fireworksaboveme 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
All these girls are playing games. Just keep going and take necessary breaks.
[–]Majestic_Meal_5655 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't waste your time with low interest bees
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Never contact a woman twice, if she’s never returned your call or text once.
[–]rickyfranchise 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why are you over thinking king? It doesn’t get anymore obvious than that. Take the L and move on without putting any mental energy into it let alone posting an obvious question that needs no further explanation.
Take those Ls and learn from them.
one piece of advice is ladies love a strong silent type. Less is more. Text girls only to set dates and do the rest in person and even then don’t keep running your mouth. Have some mystery and ask her more questions that aren’t yes or no but makes her think and elaborate.
[–]Total_Obligation_371 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Talk to other girls. If you don't have other girls, approach some. If you've done hundreds of approaches and gotten nothing, increase your SMV.
[–]Natyiboi2 points 3 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Your texting predicament, could it be that your not entertaining her with interesting opinion questions and are in-fact boring her with yes no one’s ?
[–]Rectal_Tuna_Horn 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Move on.
[–]BenNewcomb1 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
One to one texts and if they don't text back never text them again. If they aren't putting in effort they aren't interested but can often become interested if they see your not chasing.
[–]hummm- 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah it's better to not text him as much. If they read the message and they take hours or even the next day to get back to you I would take that as a sign. Some people don't like to text and it does take them a while to get back to you but not 8 hours or the next day continuously. Keep your options open because there are plenty of girls who don't mind texting back and don't mind initiating the text
[–]Pedalcrunch 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh you are so right Bro.
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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If a woman gives me her number and I reach out and text or call her and that message goes unreturned, I delete her number.
[–]blackburncl 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Your first interactions should be brief and fun. Not a conversation. Try to get a date as soon as possible since your chances of are much higher in person. Text will not help you stand out. If the conversation is fun. End it there. Don't give her all the power to lead the interactions. She should look for you and not the other way around because she probably has dozens writing to her. If she starts a conversation thats a more clear sign of interest.
In any case, not getting a reply after you say hi is pretty common. Probably 9 out of 10 if you are not Brad Pitt or a similar chad. Don't let that undermine your confidence and selfs esteem.
[–]No-Might436 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have done it with that kind of girls, if they don't reply I delete their contact. I have 3 text rule if they don't reply after that, they are out.
[–]towerandhorizon 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The person has (perceived) better options than you. Move on.
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