I’m doing the heavy lifting for 95% of women I meet whether that’s online or offline, I’m asking questions, I’m trying to introduce flirting, I’m trying to arrange a date, I’m planning the date, I’m carrying most of the conversation, I’m trying to escalate, I’m trying to arrange a second date, meanwhile they’re just going along for the ride.

I don’t think this signals that they’re not interested though, I think it’s just how they expect the dynamic to be.

Fuck it, it’s exhausting, and if the aim is casual sex then for me it’s honestly not worth the effort in most cases.

I don’t get energised by the game like some guys do, I don’t like wondering if she’ll reply, wondering if she’ll turn up, wondering if she’ll kiss me, wondering if she’ll agree to come back to my apartment it’s just delicate and frustrating.