how to escalate to casual hookup without being sleazy?

EsotericOcean · 2022-07-23T10:49:14+00:00

Just go out and have a chill time. Get a few drinks with her then relocate either to your place or her place. But the hard work is over. She already agreed to the casual hookup. So it's your situation to bungle from here. I would focus on having a good time then escalate later. Make sure she is comfortable with the situation. And to be on the safer side I would go for it in the parking lot or somewhere more private. Some women are really turned on by pda but I don't think you can go wrong with a more private setting on your first link up. This is a way to hard confirm she's down without fear of a potential public rejection.

nadmocni · 2022-07-23T11:27:49+00:00

I find the best way is when rapport goes well, just tell her "excuse me, come here" out of the blue. If she asks why, tell her you want to kiss her. Mandatory hand through her hair/pull her towards you by her hair. If she refuses, you know where you're at. If she accepts, it'll just be another thing she finds hot on you - taking initiative and being confident. Escalating from a nice kiss is easier. Good luck.

pleasetrydmt · 2022-07-23T11:59:43+00:00

Hug her the second you meet. Find casual ways to make physical contact happen regularly. Then do what u/nadmocni said.

ahillbilly97 · 2022-07-23T13:36:37+00:00

Don’t escalate in public. Keep the sexual tension til you’re alone

mabden · 2022-07-23T13:23:38+00:00

DeCarlo Escalation Ladder

NotABrokieBoy · 2022-07-23T10:16:46+00:00

Go out, have fun, wait for a good opportunity and make out with her (maybe somewhere in the park where it’s more private than in the middle of the restaurant) and then ask her if she wants to come over for a glass of wine or something

biokaizen · 2022-07-23T11:24:51+00:00

I avoid always niceties about sex, just ask her to come to your house to see a movie or have a dinner, thats all.

Once she is here, just kiss her on the couch.

Yashaun · 2022-07-23T17:03:30+00:00

Seal the deal early with a hug and a kiss on the cheek when you meet, it’ll help remove the awkwardness of expectations and create intimacy

Horror_Replacement39 · 2022-07-23T09:42:31+00:00

Why not just ask her round to fuck?

onemaco · 2022-07-23T15:09:14+00:00

Be normal,have a good time,it should be fine

JosephND · 2022-07-23T17:02:06+00:00

Don’t kiss her in the restaurant. Don’t kiss her in the parking lot. Kiss her before her front door closes

Dr_Mercury · 2022-07-23T15:42:32+00:00

I hope I’m not too late. Horrible advice in these comments.

First off, don’t have any expectations. Don’t go in there thinking you are going to get laid and what it might be like etc…stay present and enjoy the time you have together and focus on creating a CONNECTION.

Physical escalation - Take natural opportunities to high five, arm around back, slight tough on knees, hold out your arm, play with hair, etc…

Verbal and mental escalation - set the imagery. Tell her what you would like to do to her while setting up where things are moving to

Example: “do you know what I would like to do to you? Her: what? You: lean in and whisper in her ear “soon as we get home I’m going to Proceed to EXPLICITLY tell her how your going to eat her out and finish it by saying “I don’t even care if we don’t have sex, I may just like this more”

I like that last line because it takes the pressure off the actual sex part, it shows that it’s not your priority and that you get off by pleasing HER, which you should.

If you get hard at some point TELL HER, show her the bulge of your dick through the pants. Grab her hand, place it on your crotch and squeeze and then take her hand and put it back on her lap.

Never ask what she wants to do. TAKE INITIATIVE, don’t be a chode. A woman doesn’t want a choice, she wants to be caught up in the moment, fully emerged and she wants to follow and be submersed in incredible masculine energy that will bring out the most of her femeninity.

Even though you have talked about it. The key is in building the sexual tension from the beginning.

You’re already in, you just have to bring her into your highly playful and sexual reality.

Don’t be afraid to say things or act, create the moment by manifesting through your words and actions. This is how you get Anything and everything out of life.

Be safe and use a condom. And for the love of god make sure your place is clean, especially your bathroom.

Good luck

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-07-23T16:59:30+00:00

stop thinking too much

MikeAlphaGolf · 2022-07-23T17:20:25+00:00

Bring a bottle of champagne or something nice to hers before y or go. After dinner say “Hey, why don’t we go back to yours and knock over that Bolly?”. Then proceed to do so. She’ll know what’s up.

mtgxbuster · 2022-07-23T09:52:43+00:00

Well hot damn, we were shitting at the same time and wasting each other's time. You didn't waste my time at all, made it more interesting really. You say so much for someone who thinks a person like me really gives a fuck

crjahnactual · 2022-07-23T10:05:43+00:00

Dude... WHY can't you ask her back to your place???

Is your abode filthy and foul?

Do you have fucked up roommates?

Do you still live in your childhood room in your parent's home?

Are you homeless?

Do you live in a halfway house?

YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO ASK HER BACK TO YOUR PLACE!!!!!

ANGESHBASNET · 2022-07-23T18:19:09+00:00

So when you kiss does your penis erect or not?

mtgxbuster · 2022-07-23T08:17:00+00:00

Give up and let her fuck someone that doesn't need to ask reddit for advice to get your dick wet. It's fairly obvious that what you have been doing works. At this point, you're just being a bitch. She wants your dick, take her back to your place or hers, cuddle, watch a movie, and let the fucking unfold naturally since she obviously wants to fuck you. Or you can fuck it all up and take charge. If she goes back to your place or she takes you back to her place, she's the one that already determined that you both are going to fuck each other. For fucks sake man, you answered your own question, with a question. You could always do her the favor of not fucking someone this fucking stupid (I'm talking about you here.)

expiredbagels · 2022-07-23T15:56:15+00:00

How’d it go

LandscapeClear1630 · 2022-07-23T16:10:01+00:00

Yes
I would wait till you are both at her place, but you can try it. A better move in my opinion is to just hold hands, caress her hand and see if she reciprocates.
Remember the kiss is just a way to resolve sexual tension. The important thing is to have sexual tension building up leading to that kiss.

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-07-23T17:26:07+00:00

Haha girls have no game 🤣

Chompskyy · 2022-07-23T17:34:38+00:00

Go out and dont say too many words

babyarmnate · 2022-07-23T18:11:31+00:00

It seems like you’re already in there. I would just be yourself on the date and then ask her afterwards if she’s coming home with you

dump_fool · 2022-07-23T21:09:32+00:00

If the girl likes you, you are not sleazy!

Yes!
May be to late and weird!
Are you afraid of rejection?

shysub_downstairs · 2022-07-23T22:07:29+00:00

Did you get to have her?

Title	how to escalate to casual hookup without being sleazy?
Author	theycallmelilsnowy
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Date	July 23, 2022 7:26 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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