How do I appear calm and chill instead of submissive

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-07-13T10:03:53+00:00

Go to the gym.

Hold eye contact

Have boundaries

Have a core. What do you Do?

Have opinions. Don't agree with everyone

Fuck

Be happy and giver of good feelings. Doing the above helps with that.

__FAMEjex · 2022-07-13T11:05:28+00:00

First off let’s look at the definition of each word.

Submissive: ready to conform to the authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive.

Calm: not showing or feeling nervousness, anger, or other strong emotions.

Acting calm means moving without strong emotions. Now if people are having their way with you and you are letting them then you are behaving submissive.

Having boundaries is a good way to stop people from having their way with you.

Taking up a martial art will instill confidence in yourself.

Deepening your breathing will connect you to your core and calm you.

Yoga/meditation will give you a sense of peace which will show you what true calmness is.

Also I would like to ask what emotion is stopping you from being truly calm all the time?

Calamity__Bane · 2022-07-13T15:08:48+00:00

Resist things you don’t want with a smile and a pleasant attitude. Standing up for yourself doesn’t mean losing your cool.

modsRlameIRL · 2022-07-13T11:54:45+00:00

The same way a parent acts calm to a child or an older sibling to a younger sibling.

MistyMaisel · 2022-07-13T13:21:53+00:00

To me, calm and chill is all about being peaceful and unmoved by others (without choosing so actively for yourself based on your own desires and thoughts). You're in control of your mood and your actions and others can only submit their ideas for you to approve or disapprove of about what you should do.

Submissive people (in the sense you are speaking of, I imagine) aren't making a choice. They couldn't be any other way. It's one of those better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war sort of things. Submissive people are not capable of authority or aggression. They're a twig on a river.

As for how to be less submissive, have standards and opinions, have wants, enforce boundaries and make decisions. Without some solid examples of what you're doing when you feel you're being submissive, it's hard to give better advice.

epimpstyle · 2022-07-13T14:44:51+00:00

You can not change your personality overnight... it is not easy.

Make changes in your life: find new friends, go to the gym, and spend your time with new people. You can start by having a new hair style and a new outfit, in this way maybe you will have a different attitude.

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-07-13T14:47:25+00:00

Maybe just see where you are most comfortable vs where you are more anxious or uncomfortable.

Then you have to visualize you are in a comfortable place when you are in a more uncomfortable situation.

life_long_learnerabc · 2022-07-13T15:07:13+00:00

Stop being needy!

ZoeticLark · 2022-07-14T13:05:51+00:00

Change your mind about what things mean: Meditate/ walk/get outside for fresh air and sun. Interact with more people to get practice socializing. Look up the words and ideas you are contemplating and contemplate them some more. Think about what you do that conveys and reflects one idea or another. Know yourself - how you think and really feel, and all will be well.

Title	How do I appear calm and chill instead of submissive
Author	Mental_Zucchini_992
Upvotes	3
Comments	10
Date	July 13, 2022 9:55 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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