very stupid question

Original-Pudding-939 · 2022-06-28T07:57:52+00:00

You need your A game … and The only way you will be in that zone is if you handle it without putting her on a pedestal.. just be yourself.. take it easy

Ok-Strawberry-2012 · 2022-06-28T07:59:45+00:00

Simple fact is if she didn't see something in you, she'd not be thinking of giving you a shot as well. Don't fuck your head up thinking a lot. Wanna make the date go well? Don't plan and just be unpredictable. If she feels it's interesting, she stays else she's going to the streets. Don't mess yourself up and try being someone just because she's up your league and more importantly take the "she's way above my league" out before you understand this in a really hard lesson manner. Hope your date goes well :)

Left_Refrigerator_17 · 2022-06-28T07:32:45+00:00

Before the incels get to you and throw bad advice.

Be confident. Who cares if there’s options. She’s single your single. Albeit your number of options is probably lower.

The only person putting her on this pedestal is you currently.

I’d understand a sentiment if she was relatively well known person in your community on social media or what have you. Like real status that’s above your own.

So don’t put her on a pedestal. Be yourself and when I say be yourself. Not the self you’ve manufactured to get liked but the person you’re really are.

Essentially it’s a damn human being not a prize. So the more you treat them like a human being the odds of you getting what you’re desiring will increase.

Smitty-TBR2430 · 2022-06-28T15:22:43+00:00

There’s no such thing as a woman who is “out of your league.” So she’s stunning, beautiful, gorgeous,…. You’d rather date (& fuck) an ugly woman? It’s much easier to fuck the pretty ones!

As far as date night: Meet at the bar as planned, have ONE drink, then take her to something fun & active. Top Golf, mini-golf, Billiards, darts, bowling, … any activity that’s light (not going to get all sweaty & stinky) and competition can be frivolous. Have fun & make her laugh.

PhoenixNightingale90 · 2022-06-28T08:55:05+00:00

Some random tips for a first date just from what has worked for me. If I wanted to make a date really good then I’d definitely plan a few things out in advance. It will help your confidence and she’ll like that you are in control of things.

Tell her where you are going, don’t ask her where she wants to go. I’ve had multiple women tell me how much they liked me doing this.
Do something fun like mini golf or an arcade/games bar. It’s fun and makes it easy to start flirting and teasing when you are playing each other.
Go to different places, this builds connection because you are creating shared experiences and it makes it like a mini adventure. So don’t stay at one venue for too long. A formula I’ve used is something like cafe - something fun - walk around town checking out things spontaneously - drinks. I know you've agreed drinks already, you could at least do multiple drinks venues.
Also have a plan in terms of what you’re going to talk about. What are you going to say about yourself, what stories do you have, what were your first impressions of her, what are you going to ask her etc.
Have something fun ready to go like Truth or Dare or Would You Rather. Hardly anything new but they are rarely not fun and a good way to get to know each other, also good if the conversation hits a lull. Works best when you are into drinks and you can ask flirty questions.
Always be escalating, see how she responds to physical touch and take it from there.
Obviously be confident and have a good mindset going into it. She’s already into you to agree to go on a date in the first place, get the concept of 'leagues' out of your head. Be outcome independent and have fun yourself, and she’ll probably have fun too.

VisionsOfVisions · 2022-06-28T06:59:47+00:00

Depending on her attractiveness, she has around 30-80 people chatting her up. She decided to schedule with you.

So, make sure you are fun to hang out with. Make sure that you observe and listen to her signals. Read as much interesting things in the coming days so you have interesting things to talk about. Use your observations of her interest in you and escalate the touching if appropriate.

Everlast23 · 2022-06-28T10:34:42+00:00

The goal of a first date isn't to get a 2nd date.

The goal is to just see if you guys naturally enjoy each other's company is all. It's good to be outcome independent since online dating is naturally pretty unstable.

My mindset going into a date is "I'm just going to enjoy my time with this person is all. The convo, drinks, food, whatever. If I never see them again, it's totally okay." "I hope I like her instead of I hope she likes me."

I recommend greeting her with a hug and just letting your personality shine. Assume by default she's having an awesome time with you.

Ask if you can walk her back to her car.

Hope this helps.

Tactical_INTJ · 2022-06-28T10:43:24+00:00

You're nervous? Good. Go ahead and do it. No matter what ends up happening, See it as an experience that'll shape you into a better+wiser person. And this experience may be the doorway for a lot more great moments in the future. You've nothing to loose. Go!

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-06-28T10:35:54+00:00

You want advice? Flake on her without telling her. When she texts you where you are, come up with some excuse and offer to take her out on a week.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-06-28T12:49:17+00:00

You get a second date by making sure the first date you build sexual tension with the girl, and at the very least kiss.

If there is no kiss, or she doesn’t see you trying to go for a kiss, your chances for a second date reduce dramatically.

Title	very stupid question
Author	Left_Refrigerator_17
Upvotes	15
Comments	25
Date	June 28, 2022 6:45 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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