You often hear you have to hold eye contact with a girl and smile, but I never find girls looking at me

Jobdriaan · 2022-06-21T17:16:41+00:00

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Electric_kundalini · 2022-06-21T14:40:31+00:00

Women are indirect so its very rare they would be bold enough to stare at you. If you see a Woman you like the best thing to do is look her in the eyes and smile warmly at her. Just don't stare because it can be intimidating for Women.

Considering Women are very discreet when checking out a guy, you might notice when you look up you'll see a Woman looking at you and quickly looking away making it look very obvious she was checking you out. She did that on purpose. Smile and approach. Women want to feel desired.

nordik1 · 2022-06-21T15:30:55+00:00

People overexaggerate how often women will look you in the eye if they're attracted -- it's usually a quick glance if at all. In fact, most of the time they will just position themselves near you somehow with the hopes that you say something. You know how you think its creepy to keep staring? Women do that too but for different reasons (their typical non-aggressive nature in regards to pursuit, intimidation, insecurities etc.)

If I relied on eye contact for signaling I'd probably never have any dates. If it happens, great, because it'll make things easier...but I wouldn't expect it. It's not a common occurrence like the internet may have you believe it is

If you catch eye contact with her, definitely throw out a casual smile (don't hit a fucking Kool-Aid smile and don't do the opposite of being a stoic statue) to indicate you're a friendly approachable person, and then calibrate a good time to strike up a conversation from there.

Don't make it anymore complex than that, and this really just applies to both sexes and making friends with guys too. You'd be sketched out by some dude mugging you from across the gym, but if he smirked and threw up a head nod you'd think he was probably a friendly dude just off acknowledging you like that alone. You'd also catch an anti-social vibe from a dude if he scurried to look away and break brief eye contact in passing.

Think about the type of person you want to portray, but don't expect women to be confident enough to lock eyes with you.

Proper-Rub6270 · 2022-06-22T16:50:54+00:00

I am average looking guy and girls sometimes stare at me, it is rare, but it happens. Most girls won't even look at me or will give me 0.5-1s glance so there is no time for smile.

Girls are staring/checking out guys. Next time you are out and about, just look what girls do. Most of them will be busy checking out guys. Atleast that's what happens where I live (europe).

I realized that group of girls are often staring at me. When there is group of girls, vast majority of times atleast one or two girls stare at me. If girl is alone, she wont even look at me in 90% of cases.

ShiftReasonable4066 · 2022-06-21T15:05:36+00:00

Guys are there most attractive in their 30s. I hardly ever got eye contact before. Now being 30, girls give me contact every now and then. Your body just matures and you start looking more like a man

Iamnotthatguypall · 2022-06-21T22:50:51+00:00

Girls are very sneaky here’s an example back when i was in high school this cute girl who i had class with who i never talked to had a crush on me wanna know how i found out? I was passing by her and her friend and her friend yelled at me “yo my friend has a crush on you” she never looked at my mind you in class or maybe she did when I wasn’t paying attention

Quick_Watercress_932 · 2022-06-21T13:30:56+00:00

Idk cause a distraction, make a fool of your self or something. “Make” eye contact, most men are invisible if they don’t find a way to distinguish themselves from the others. Be noticeable.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-06-21T16:06:44+00:00

you read the advice wrong. It’s abo it holding eye contact while you are already talking with her. If you haven’t even started the conversation then there is no point in eye contact you just have to approach directly in less than 2 seconds even if the girl hasn’t given you any signs

Title	You often hear you have to hold eye contact with a girl and smile, but I never find girls looking at me
Author	Jobdriaan
Upvotes	7
Comments	11
Date	June 21, 2022 12:41 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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