Late 30s fat woman re-entering the dating pool

Live-Ad-6309 · 2022-06-20T08:36:53+00:00

Will you have luck? Yes. There are men out there willing to date fat women

Will those men be the ones you want? Probably not.

For best results, lose the weight.

sexsex69420irl · 2022-06-20T06:16:30+00:00

I mean this might be wrong sub,but sure some men will date you,if you are fun to talk to and fun in general sure.

potatoeswithfries · 2022-06-20T07:26:58+00:00

Knowing how Tinder looked like for my female friend who is 30-ish, overweight and who suffered three strokes (and is not fully abled because of that) - you'll have plenty to choose from. Unless you're ridiculously picky, that is.

Tinder is a different experience for women than it is for men from what I've seen, you probably have nothing to worry about.

DestinyChitChat · 2022-06-20T10:14:07+00:00

I tend to notice that there is a risk of someone in your position appearing too "try hard." So just avoid that and remind yourself to play a little hard to get. Other than that I think you're good to go. Men will notice your awesome traits on their own.

Also online can be a downer at times so I wouldn't use that as the ONLY way you meet men.

cass2769 · 2022-06-20T07:53:38+00:00

sure lots of guys like fat women. i am not one of them. but i hold myself to the same standards and didnt date when i was overweight. but that is your only barrier to entry as i see it

i dont know why you dont want to be "fetishized"? you are fat and looking for people to date. there are dudes who like fat women and want to date you. what the problem is?

TheFreakish · 2022-06-20T07:00:10+00:00

You'll be swamped with prospects. Seriously it doesn't matter if you're overweight, there's shallow guys, but just ignore them. Watch out for hot guys, statisically they're probably fucking everyone.

Imo.. find some average looking dude that treats you with respect, and shows interest in you as a person, and then tell them what you want from a relationship, if they can't give it, move on.

2022-06-20T07:40:37+00:00

Anyway, your looks have nothing to do with being able to attract men. Men like quantity and variety over quality - and if you are pleasant to be around and open-minded sexually I don't really see a problem there. Nobody likes to be fetishized, but everyone has one anyway. That's something everyone has to deal with.

You're going to find it tough getting the long-term relationship - or something serious you want - but it's not impossible past 30+ years. You are coming up against the wall - age wise - where male attention is likely going to drop off. I don't say this to be mean. I say this so you wisely evaluate how you use your time from here on out because the stats don't really lie about this. There are some hard physical age limits on having children - so even while attitudes have changed about the age of 30 - people's bodies just don't.

Men aren't going to care very much that you have your life together. I see this all the time - with women saying that they have a good job, they have their life in order, they make good money, etc. , have their own apartment, and even look great still - so where are the men?

Men don't really care about those things in a partner. Those are the things women care about in a man - but not the things that men care about in women.

Long-term - at your age - should involve children somewhere in the very near future. THAT will keep a man in a long-term relationship IF he really wants to have them. The problem I see with most women is that they are desperate to have family and kids BUT they can't let go of the idea that the man must be CONTROLLED into marriage otherwise having a family is just not happening for them. You really need to loosen up that idea if you ever had it. At some point you will have to choose between being alone for the rest of your life, or being a single mother. Optimally you want the husband too, but don't ever assume that's a given. Life is brutal and the shining white knight may not even show up. Heck, some women can't even have children - if we want to talk about life being brutal.

The irony is that mentally preparing yourself to be a single mother may be the very thing that encourages a man to think that being married to you isn't a bad thing - because you give him all the freedom he wants. More to the point though - you need to be capable of raising a child yourself should something ever happen to him anyway. As an additional bonus, deciding on (possibly) being a single mother, basically lets you choose whatever man you want (assuming his availability) for a one-time fling if you're direct about it.

If the whole children thing scares you, then good luck with the long-term relationship. You may find a few good guys to hook up with now and then, but they may well be playing the field themselves - so you will have to build a bridge and get over that if and when that occurs.

godzmack · 2022-06-20T09:57:14+00:00

Just don't have only close up pictures of your face to hide it.

ihasagi2urdicc · 2022-06-20T10:02:43+00:00

I believe you’re on your way to become more attractive than ever

poly_nerdy_panda · 2022-06-20T16:19:46+00:00

yeah your on the wrong subreddit but in general own your body plenty of guys like BBW just look at any subreddit with BBWs.. you will get plenty of love in any of those subreddits .

Title	Late 30s fat woman re-entering the dating pool
Author	cass2769
Upvotes	1
Comments	28
Date	June 20, 2022 6:10 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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