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[–]puremaddafty 4 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
Why dont you just say you're getting lunch after and if she wants to join?
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[–]CompetitionFair7686 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Ok she seems like she doesn’t wanna hang out, but why don’t you just offer her to take lunch?
[–]jumpinrobin 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If she's putting her thighs on you in the middle of class and doing anything she can to eliminate space between you, she's into you man
[–]Snakehead004 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Dude just start flirting..
[–]Snakehead004 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
More touches, hold eye contact a bit longer than usual.. More touching.. You got this
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[–]Snakehead004 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Please do and update us!
[–]WilhelmTrooper 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She has a boyfriend. Move on. If you try to break that up it shows you don’t respect her or her relationship. She mentioned to you that she had a boyfriend, take the hint.
And ya know what? Maybe she is into you. Maybe she wants you. But do you really wanna be with somebody whose willing to cheat on someone else for you?
If she’ll cheat WITH you, she’ll cheat ON you.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You are right you shouldn't pursue a girl with a bf, but as Manson says himself these are just guidlines and not hard and fast rules. Many of these "rules" are context-driven. She is giving some very clear signals of interest. Putting your arm around her is incredibly creepy and you are best off asking her out.
[–]NoDatabase1552 4 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
She's using the comfort & security of being in a relationship to be physical with you. She's living out a fantasy, using her bf in her mind and your body. She has boundaries. If you cross it by asking her out, you'll lose her and her fantasy.
There are 2 scenarios:
I'm going with 30% #1, 70% #2.
[–]Thin_Protection5616 -5 points-4 points-3 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Assume that every girl has both a boyfriend/fwb and 3 other guys whose hopes of a relationship she entertains.
Girls with borefriends are great to fuck. You get to have all the fun while her borefriend has to do the boring shit like emotionally support her and play househusband. Literally the only problem comes when either a) she breaks up with her borefriend and assumes you'll fill in the void (lol no), or b) when the borefriend finds out and, like the beta he is, blames everyone else (but himself) and you especially. Most guys are absolute pussies who have other pussies as friends, so you usually have nothing to worry about.
This chick obviously likes you. Would literally take you one evening date to bang.
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[–]Skizznitt 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
From all that I've read here, it sounds like she maybe is having second thoughts about the long distance thing and likes you and is trying to make it obvious without feeling like she's cheating. I think she's probably testing the waters and would probably respond favorably to you showing a little interest. I mean I could be totally wrong, but there's a lot of signs she's into you happening there. If she really wanted to stay faithful to her bf, and "knows he's the one," I feel like she wouldn't be getting so chummy with some other guy she's close to. Ldr almost never work out dude, it's hard not seeing someone for months and months.
[–]Thin_Protection5616 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
That doesn't change whether or not she wants to sleep with you
[–][deleted] 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
[–]Thin_Protection5616 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Ask what?
[–]Thin_Protection5616 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ok. That's a good idea.
Try to hang out with her alone sometime after 5 or 6pm at a place (or nearby a place) where sex is possible. No cheesy dates at the cinema, expensive restaurants, or skating rink.
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[–]Thin_Protection5616 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ya, you basically ignore or divert away from any topics that set you back from getting laid
It's kinda a golden rule among PUAs that you don't mention a girl's current or ex boyfriend while you're out with them. I break this rule all the time, but I'm really good at framing myself as an exceptional sort of guy and a bit of a fuckboy.
You should just avoid the topic unless she seems like she really wants to talk about it. In that case, you should talk about the red herring (her having a boyfriend yet still being out with you) and dig into the things she's dissatisfied about with her boyfriend or their relationship. Your tone in this shouldn't be a concerned 'wow, I understand and I hope you guys can work it out.' Rather, it should be a somewhat flippant and confident, 'wow, sucks for you.'
She doesn't seem like....
Stop making assumptions that make it more difficult to get laid.
If you ask her out and she doesn't say yes but vaguely indicates a no by mentioning her boyfriend, say, 'I was wondering if you were going to say that,' then don't press too hard to get her out again. Let her start to qualify herself and set herself in a frame of mind for her to get to a yes. It's better when girls feel that decided for themselves rather than they had to be convinced.
[–]PatientAssociation62 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like classic options game to me. Has a BF, things could be on the skids with him, and is possibly looking to line up his replacement. Also the actions show her trying to twat block other girls by projecting the idea of you and her being an item.
Are you interested? Then you should make a move. If you are interested you need to escalate. Now. If you get the "let's just be friends bit" reject her offer and move on.
[–]PatientAssociation62 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
No, I don't think you are overthinking. I've had MANY women give me the mixed signals bit and never really was able to figure out why, should I try to escalate, etc.
Mixed signals almost always equals options game. She probably likes the attention, maybe even has some interest, but wants to decide to date you at her convenience or when it "works out" for her, if even if it ever does. Or maybe likes you but wants to see if she can patch things up with her "main" dude first.
But at the end of the day you are being treated as an option, not a priority.
The twat blocking bit needs to stop. I used to put up with it, no longer. She is keeping you as "her" option by acting as if you are an item when you aren't. Unless she is already "ride or die" with you, then no woman has any claim to your time or attention.
What to do? Talk to her, turn on the charm, and then escalate. Or "polarize" if you will. She will either reject you or bite. If you get the friendzone routine, say "no" and that if she wants to make something happen to get in touch with you.
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