I don’t have great expectations for this “relationship,” but I’m still curious what people think about the details. So, here goes:

Met a beautiful girl at a meetup. Great first conversation, blah blah blah. She was flirty and touched me a lot. She offered her number. Thought she liked me, I texted her (just “nice to meet you”) and didn’t hear back, so I got discouraged. Later I found out she’s known for her poor texting.

I ended up stumbling into her friend group, through the meetup. They invited me on a daytrip the other weekend, and today to a bar. Both interactions were pretty awkward. First of all, I’ll here mention that they’re all from India, and I’m just another white guy. Plus, they’re almost all in tech, and I’m not. So there were lots of gaps in my ability to follow the conversation. Add that to the fact that I’m just not a group person, and I was very quiet, which they all noticed.

Today at the bar, though, I was invited along again. I learned more about the girl and her status. Apparently she broke up with her boyfriend two months ago, and it was “dramatic.” He “used her” more recently than that for sex, without admitting that he had a new girlfriend. She got sad talking about it. Mostly, though, the conversation was bawdy. The girl got gradually tipsy.

I’ve learned that she’s a pretty physical person, and touches people a lot. She even went so far as to repeatedly hit the pretty boy “alpha” of their group, when he teased her. He apparently broke up with someone recently as well. But she touched the others also.

And yet, she spent almost the entire night with her foot on mine. Our knees touched repeatedly for extended stretches. Okay, she’s a physical “touchy” girl. But what the hell is that? How could she not notice her foot (sometimes both feet!) was resting directly on top of mine? Sometimes pressing squarely into it! Or, tapping on it. Isn’t that odd? Is it an Indian thing? At one point it was up to my ankle. But she never really made any unusual eye contact, and continued the general conversation.

Sometimes she seemed interested in their “alpha,” and sometimes as though she didn’t give a shit in general. She wasn’t unfriendly to me, and at times even acted flirtatious. She asked me if I had a girlfriend, etc. But the group mainly treated me like a guest, or an outsider, which I absolutely was.

At the end she was pretty drunk. She said to me “you’re judging us, I know” because I was quiet and the group was so bawdy. When I left she said “it was nice to meet you” as though we hadn’t met five times already. Again, drunk.

Any thoughts about any of this? Does the foot thing ring any bells? I’m really out of my element here.