I will be honest as there is not much text and it's simple, i am 20M, recently single, and i employed a core strategy here that people underutilize,

"You grab them early before they have much time to form inflated standards",

I managed to mantain my first relationship for 4 years, it was a lot of blood sweet and tears, because i was never much into her but i had a good amount of sex with a girl i would say a little below me in ranking, but who i didn't love at first but learned to love with time,

It was very toxic all round, and needless to say it ended when she decided to withold sex,

Now that i'm back into the market i realized 2 things, the whole codependency dynamic of LTR's that i hate, and that i am 20 and not having luck dating with my age match,

The thing is, people say it get's better as you get older but from my POV it seems bullshit, because if i start having success at 30, it will either be with age gaps, or with obviously 30 singles,

Now since i have the goal to be father early, and not date exactly, i would feel really bad if i get ignored all my 20's and only starts getting results after 30's when you are usually financially stable, has house, car, money, shit, etc., and i really don't want to do sugar esque dating,

Especially as women are settling down too, this would be like the ultimate defeat ever for me, and i already feel a bunch of people my age are fucking childish or hyper irrational/overall dumb and oblivious to alot of things,

I am for now doing gym 4 times a week and struggling with a very stressful diet, joining college to get more social interaction, and job hunting so i can own my own cave,

Sure those things have other more direct benefits, but dating RN is my only biggest gripe, not dating, just intimacy in general,

And i fear to be doing the grind now and offer them later, because i will either be getting people not on their best, or dating in age gaps what is just weird for me,

So my only way out seems to be to start having some 20's success, it is now the only situation where i think i can't avoid the grasp of:

Not fear of missing out, but fear of having missed out,

Like i won't miss hooking up per say, it is that i will never in the future feel confortable with a woman who did, for innumerous reasons i can list on replies,

I don't want 3 things to happen, to date/marry a promiscuous women much more than i am myself, becoming a sugar daddy who seeks after women in their prime, and ending up settling with a very not promiscuous girl just because i myself am not,

This is a real gripe i have i'm trying to break myself from, to improve my outcome independence,

Like i would totally hookup with older, chubbier, hoe-ish, absolute sluts, sainted, shy, etc.,

For a hookup is irrelevant, but i don't think i will ever tolerate dealing with those 3 things without having some baggage to back me up, if i had the backup from having been a player too, a women doing her fun too would be ok, now me being a total failure in dating in my 20's, i would feel like i would be getting leftovers from life,

Not a good prospect, and it ultimately puts a clock on me, and i really don't want these things to have a chance to happen, success in the now would avoid these future dillemas, i already deal with a bunch if consequence from the past,

Much inclines me to just resist my sexual urges and ignore women altogether, i however fear being more unhappy than i am trying, and that i will not be able to hold it forever and when i decide to try again it would be again too late,

Flame me all you want, but those 3 things are a recurring nightmare for me, having to settle overall is bad but settling being an inevitable situation is terrifying,

Please shed some light on the topic i need some opinions!

Thanks in advance.

PS: There is a lot of text, i usually write gargantuan posts and this felt small