Am i being used

2022-03-20T16:59:25+00:00

What exactly are you expecting from this FWB situation? Y'all are just having sex. That's what a FWB is. You're not in some kind of unofficial relationship. I don't know what you're looking for, but if you want an actual relationship, don't go looking for one with a FWB.

RedFox457 · 2022-03-20T15:28:36+00:00

Tell him outside of a sexy situation that you want to use protection from now on. Also include an STI screening and other things. Most people when asked for stuff will oblige but if this is a dealbreaker for him then he was never gonna respect you.

SassyDeluxe · 2022-03-20T20:33:28+00:00

A FWB situation is one in which you mutually agree to use each other for sex. So yes, of course you're being used, and so is he. That's the whole deal.

However, you can and absolutely should have boundaries. Consider insisting on condoms. "But you were ok without them before!" Yeah and things have changed. "But I don't like them!" That's too bad- no party hat, no party. "Oh no, I forgot them at home..." Well that's a damn shame, no sex tonight.

If you want more from him, bring it up, but be prepared for him to say no. If he does, it's your decision whether to continue as FWB or cut things off.

Be brave. Get what you want, insist on what you need.

Doctor0z · 2022-03-20T15:22:56+00:00

Why don’t you ask him to see where he thinks you guys stand?

INeedAboutTreeFiddy_ · 2022-03-20T21:31:45+00:00

It's FWB... You're both mutually using each other for benefits. If you don't feel good about aspects of the situation, chat about it. If you don't feel good about being used, end it

SplashOfBlack2020 · 2022-03-20T22:34:39+00:00

There are literally hundreds of guys who will go hang out, grab some drinks and food and go back to your place or theirs and have great sex with you. Just wear condoms because it just a FWB, so you’re not obligated to just have sex with just him. And he’s not exclusively obligated to have sex with just you either. But you can find hundreds of great guys who want that same type of situation you do. And will not have any issues wearing condoms or fulfilling the friends part of the FWB relationship. So if the one you have is acting different, just go with your gut and cut him loose. Find another FWB, until you’re ready to explore a real BF and GF relationship. It’s that simple, don’t complicate it.

mystylejay · 2022-03-21T00:04:10+00:00

As others here just said, FWB is mostly about "sex only".

So yes, you are used, but in the same amount you use him.

FWB works only if you have a good "social portfolio", as I call it. If you have your own life projects, friends, space for social validation, then you can also afford one (or more!) FWB.

But if your life starts orbiting too much around the FWB, you have a problem.

Electrical_Tap_4131 · 2022-03-20T16:24:51+00:00

I would say if you don't want to feel like you're being used for sex you probably shouldn't be in a friends with benefits situation. Maybe an actual relationship is what you want/need.

HelleBell · 2022-03-20T22:17:58+00:00

FWB at its essence is 2 people using each other for sexual needs and not having to emotionally invest. FWB is not some alternate lifestyle. So yes he is using you and yes you are using him. Sounds to melike you want an actual relationship. I recommend you stop with these FWB focus on building yourself and finding an actual partner

heftyearth · 2022-03-20T22:23:05+00:00

FWB is a sexual relationship, a friend who you fuck. It’s not that you’re being used, that’s the deal. I think you’re looking for something more serious

cass2769 · 2022-03-21T08:08:26+00:00

A friends with benefits situation is basically both of you using each other for…well, friendship and Sex

Both pieces are important. If he’s not a good sexual partner for you don’t settle for “meh” sex. And if he’s not a good friend to you then don’t continue to be his friend and please don’t keep sleeping with him.

Title	Am i being used
Author	Additional_Bear_7750
Upvotes	7
Comments	13
Date	March 20, 2022 3:08 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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