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BensonInFL · 2021-12-23T05:37:10+00:00

it gets worst when i remind myself that they on the other hand likely have an army of options.

They have much fewer options than you realize. Did you ever stop and think why 50% of the bar patrons or online dating app members are female? If they could find boyfriends that quick, they would have already, and it would be 99.9% guys.

The biggest mistake men make is thinking that girls want the same things as guys do.

First.. a *Disclaimer*... this is an internet post, not a book that covers every possibility.. I'm talking about the bell curve here...

Guys basically want to score, and yes it takes some effort to do this. Girls can have sex whenever they want, they don't see any value in that. They are looking for a monogamous long term partner that they can confide in, be vulnerable with, who is strong, charming, funny, caring, smart and will support and take care of them. Looking at what each side wants from this lens... it's a lot harder for females to find what they're looking for. Yes, women want a lot more, but this plays nicely for men because it means that *looks* are a lot smaller of a slice and hence overall importance than it is for guys looking for girls.. for us, it is everything... a lot of the other attributes are a lot easier to improve.

How can i tell if someone is legit interisted in me or just being friendly/nice ?

You can tell interest by reading body language, verbal queues, level of attention in real life and texting, her response when you try to escalate, etc. The reason to have heightened social awareness is not so you can cut bait, but so you know exactly where you are and can improve/fix whatever is holding you back to take things to the next level with her.

At some level, it doesn't really matter. I'm a guy in my 40's who sleeps with girls in their early 20's. I can tell you with absolute certainty that exactly 0% of the girls are interested in me when I first approach them, and worse than that, most aren't even friendly or nice. It's a process to make them comfortable, to gain their trust, to be friends with them, to share intimate things, to create attraction and slowly escalate physically.

-B

OrzhovPalatine · 2021-12-23T02:57:26+00:00

Perhaps i'm being pessimistic ?

Answered your own question, yes you are. I can feel it through your message. Bare in mind your title was "I have no options". You at least are self aware you have a problem.

How can i tell if someone is legit interisted in me

Dont worry about that yet, work on being someone interesting and fix that lack of self confidence you have.

If someone is legit interested they're linger around you, wait on your word, etc etc.

Again shouldnt be thinking that far ahead with your defeatist mindset. Fix that first, get some new clothes, work out, cut your hair. Whatever makes you feel confident.

hyxhufchy66666666 · 2021-12-24T22:02:24+00:00

Probably very ugly looking. Sorry bro.

5_7pickup · 2021-12-23T04:29:03+00:00

I really doubt youre putting yourself out there.

Go solo to night clubs 5 days a week to meet girls. Thats putting yourself out there.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-12-23T05:34:47+00:00

Sounds like you aren't very attractive then. Make yourself attractive and then people will be interested in you.

Leviathansplunge · 2021-12-23T18:14:03+00:00

Don't tell yourself u got no options, they just haven't been revealed. Women have millions of options. So do you. You can literally meet anybody anywhere just ask out 10 women a day. If your rejection rate is 99%, u are still pulling 3 per month, it's all a numbers game, make it work for you.

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