How to I Improve My Game and Get Girls Outside of My Race to Want Me

imjustdumbaf · 2021-11-01T04:40:09+00:00

Oddly, I think that this borderline obsession with race may be a scapegoat for a deeper internal issue you haven't addressed such as not being empathic enough or fully accepting of yourself.

Yes, for some, race is a dealbreaker. You don't want any of that imo. I'd even go as far as to say that you don't necessarily want someone who fetishizes you for your race.

There's an entire section towards the end of Models by Mark Manson that I'd say is worth looking into but in general, I found that race isn't as make or break as it can feel like especially in a time period where interracial marriages are on the rise

aerosmith760 · 2021-11-01T05:51:37+00:00

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OneCanvas · 2021-11-01T05:40:05+00:00

You can't really do that last part. If she wants you, she wants you. If she (or they) don't want you and you've shot your best shot, try elsewhere. You've got a lot of qualities that single/dating men strive for already. If they don't see your value, time spent trying to convince someone to be into you is wasted time ultimately.

Even if you get the date, that's a lot of work to be treated decently and like a viable candidate as a partner. There are plenty of people that'll be into you for you. Just continue to expand and define your boundaries/standards for yourself and flow forward.

I say this as a black man who knows exactly what you're talking about and has had the luxury of having connections with women of many races outside of my own.

I had to look elsewhere in some cases. There are just some communities that won't accept you because you're different. Thankfully, this applies to more than just race...so if you think about it, the right people will embrace you and that includes all that you are. They're out there. It's a fact, you might just have to adjust where and how you look.

Best of luck to you and avoid comparison on any criteria with other men. Shoot your unique shot and keep your head up.

2021-11-01T06:25:16+00:00

Social proof and preselection is always key, doubly so when you're trying to date out. It's tough when you're just a random. When I approached Asian women with my good Asian homie, all of a sudden I had an "in" and they were curious. When I entered a bar with a very attractive woman who happened to be white, later on another random woman held onto my hand and smiled. I think there's great benefit as far as enriching your life in having a diverse friend group. But this will also provide some help when it comes to forming relationships with new women.

As far as the nuances of being black and dating out, I can tell you there are levels and layers to this. Not every woman will want to marry us or have something long term with us. But as far as the short-term, I'm still surprised at the range of women who've been interested in me. This was true in college, heck even before (but I had no game). This was true in my 20s. And it's still true now. In my experience, being black can be an advantage with a portion of women. With another portion, it's a disadvantage. But with most, I'd argue, it's either neutral to a slight advantage.

Also black is far too broad. It's 2021 and there are so many different archetypes that women can glob on to from Denzel to Idris to Donald Glover to even Eric Andre. Find your avatar and then the particular women who are drawn to it.

End of the day, the same stuff still applies -- be attractive don't be unattractive. And so on. In college, I would focus on getting yourself in with a social circle that throws the parties with women you want to get to know. Once that trust and connection is built, it's much easier from there. This stuff cuts deeper than race anyway. It's the difference between going to a shitty club with no barriers to entry where everyone is shit testing you. But then all of a sudden you get invited to a high class club that barely anyone gets into, and everyone treating you well once you get inside. Why? Because of the vetting that's already been baked in.

But if you want more details feel free to PM.

imjustdumbaf · 2021-11-01T12:30:36+00:00

Bruhh wtf. White girls go crazy for 6ft black guys. Like you said you got a lot of other good qualities too so there's no reason for them to not like you. Have ever tired to game a girl? If not then that might be your only problem.

aerosmith760 · 2021-11-01T11:05:53+00:00

Me as an Asian male seeking white females, I may or may not be able to understand the struggle. Though, the best piece of advice is to remember whatever race they are, they're still human and still want the same things anyone would in a social interaction. When they speak listen, find common interests, be positive and try to make them laugh, and go from there. Keep in mind, there will be times the vibes are there, other times it will not, you just got to keep trying is all.

artseesloth · 2021-11-01T10:42:23+00:00

1- fuck a rich white or Asian

2- fuck her so good she want to marry you

3- marry into wealth

4- nigga we made it.

If you want the best potential life for yourself, fuck with them, cause even if you don’t marry or get a rich gf, you could learn to things from them as far as money making to better your future.

Also

IF YOU THINK YOU CAN PULL A RICH WHITE OR ASIAN, YOU ARE RIGHT. IF YOU THINK YOU CAN’T PULL A RICH WHITE OR ASIAN, YOU ARE ALSO RIGHT

EducationalPlant173 · 2021-11-01T07:03:29+00:00

My experience after 7 years in college:

When it comes to Asian and Indian girls; very few would date anyone outside their ethnic group because of family pressure.

Likewise with middle eastern women but this was even more intense because of the islamic influence and the judgment from Muslim dudes that see her with a infidel.

Only the really causal Muslims were ok with it which were rarer.

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MA_CA_NV_CA · 2021-11-01T14:13:02+00:00

One more thing to add (white guy) - I game and have been rejected countless times by all races. 99% of the time I don’t know the real reason. Girls rarely give you any reason let alone the truth. Unless she straight up tells you there’s no way to know if it’s racial or a million other possible reasons.

BKLYNBear · 2021-11-01T15:27:40+00:00

This sounds brutal (your situation). I'm sure there are some women who like you but you don't know it yet because you haven't talked to enough of them to know. However - I get your point for sure. Let's be honest here; since you're Black (despite your great qualities) I'm convinced that many of these women assume you may not be in their class / tier / social standing despite being at the same university. Speaking from my own anecdotal experiences and statistics people often behave unconsciously, actively discriminating, but without explicitly admitting it to themselves because it's uncomfortable to admit.

You can't really control how these woman view you, so I'd advise playing the numbers game, which is brutal, it's a bitter pill to shallow since objectively everything should be easier for you (considering it appears you've won the genetic lottery) and it's not working out. Try to stay positive despite the obstacles. Have an abundance-mindset and things will eventually happen (and take breaks some times). Once you find a good one, hold onto her, and keep her. I wouldn't play games.

Also, you didn't seem to mention in your post, are you rich yourself now? like is your family known or wealthy?

christopherames · 2021-11-01T18:24:41+00:00

How do you know it’s your race and not something else? Is it just because you are 6 ft, athletic and have your own place or do the women mention race?

2021-11-01T20:49:25+00:00

Change your view of yourself, instead of asking will she like me, ask , will i like her.this will automatically change your way of interacting with girls in a better way , as playboi carti once said in an interview, the drip is inside you ,you're the prize

CloutComputing · 2021-11-02T01:36:40+00:00

I'm awaiting an answer on this as well as I'm essentially in the same demographic but I feel worse off because I've only had 4 lifetime dates and am a virgin.

Perhaps this has something to do with it. Kindergarten through college has been almost entirely white.

Vibez__ · 2021-11-02T15:04:44+00:00

OP you answered your own question: the girls can tell you have an issue with your race, thus they aren't going to want to be with someone like that.

2021-11-04T23:00:34+00:00

Your focusing and making a big deal out of race when honestly it doesn't matter. If you have game amd are confident with yourself you can sleep with women of any race.

Title	How to I Improve My Game and Get Girls Outside of My Race to Want Me
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Date	November 1, 2021 2:25 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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IF YOU THINK YOU CAN PULL A RICH WHITE OR ASIAN, YOU ARE RIGHT. IF YOU THINK YOU CAN’T PULL A RICH WHITE OR ASIAN, YOU ARE ALSO RIGHT