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affinitypaw · 2021-10-24T15:27:02+00:00

Your fourth paragraph speaks to resentment.

They don't owe you attention or time. You don't know if this is the tenth time she's been harassed or if she's having the worst day and just wants to be chilling at home. The only thing you know about them is how they look and your perception based on that. Looks are deceiving.

That type of response is exactly the response you need. Think of it as the universe telling you that you're overinvesting in women especially to the point of feeling hurt by a stranger's reaction. What parts of your life aren't up to par? What are more fruitful ways to meet women? The loneliness is real, but there's something there you might be disconnected with that'll help you revitalize yourself and eventually be able to express and share that would lead to better results

CompetitionFair7686 · 2021-10-24T15:40:53+00:00

First of all women don’t owe you anything just because you approach. I know you know this but it still feels like you need to be reminded of this. Women don’t owe you crap no matter how much courage it took. And no they don’t have to factor in anything.

Now if you keep getting shot down so fast, it seems like something about how you come across is creepy to them. Maybe your clothes, maybe your body language, maybe the things you say. Those things can cause this. It’s hard to tell what, because I don’t have that information

Nofapdeity · 2021-10-24T18:40:48+00:00

Women get approached a lot more than you think. So they don’t give a fuck about the “universe” giving them opportunity.

You and I care about that because we don’t get 20 opportunities a day

MOProG2 · 2021-10-26T12:13:32+00:00

Have you ever recorded yourself to evaluate how you're doing? Also with any skill you can overtrain it. Your brain needs time to process so it helps to take some time off and go back if you're in a slump. When I was playing sports I always played with more skill after a break.

Keezymac34 · 2021-10-24T20:49:13+00:00

Wow i feel like im reading somthing right out my own head. I started about a month and a half ago too and feel the same way 60-70 approaches and only 3 first dates and no second ones and 20 somthing numbers that amount to nothing. The name of the game is staying optimistic bro. You have to love the process more then the end goal. A date or girlfriend or sex is the exception not the norm. Take pride in knowing your taking your life into your own hands instead of sitting back and letting what happens happen. Stay with it bro i know it will work out. Think of the 10x time rule if u take 10x as much action as anyone else no matter the disadvantages u have your efforts will work in your favor.

AelfredRex · 2021-10-24T17:03:45+00:00

Are you that desperate to get laid that you run after women to beg them for a date? And you wonder why they reject your advances?

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-10-24T16:40:00+00:00

I can see your problem crystal clear, but since you are into it it will be very hard for you to see it.

The cliff notes are these. Understand that you are not even chasing women so much as chasing a feeling. A feeling of confidence, a feeling of actually liking and respecting yourself. That is what is missing from most guys who struggle with women. They seek out that feeling by going out and trying to get favorable outcomes from approaching. I.e., if a girl responds well, you feel good about yourself, you are the man, but if she doesn't, it means you suck and are a loser and you feel bad.

The issue is that as long as their opinion of you is more important than your own opinion of you, they will mostly reject you. Why? Women have evolved to evaluate our behavior from across the room. They can sense if you are a true alpha or if you are just another guy who is faking it but deep down feels like a loser. It is the same as us guys being able to tell of a girl is hot even if she is across the street and dressed in a potato sack. We have evolved to read thousands of subtle cues and body language that tells us this girl is hot, her hips to waist ration is so and so, etc.

So this is an internal issue nothing to do with women and nothing to do with approaching. The act of approaching is just the medium by which you meet a woman. Approaching out of itself doesn't do anything other than that. If you are not a guy who is arousing to women it doesn't matter if you approach 1,000 times. You will be repelling to them.

So spend some time finding yourself, writing down the things you like about yourself and the things you really respect about yourself. Imagine you met a guy who looks, acts, dresses and has the exact same history as you. Would you like him? Would he be your best friend? If not, why? Figure out why and fix those things on yourself. But be careful not to have extreme conditions. Like, for me to like this guy he has to be a super duper player and have banged 2,000 chicks. The reality is you already have friends (pleas tell me you have friends) you like and admire very much and chances are they don't meet most of these conditions.

As you start to feel good about yourself, women will notice. The more good you feel about yourself the more you will realize women need a guy like you and they are fortunate to be able to enjoy your company. That is true confidences and once you get there everything by else will be easy.

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