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KingoftheNorth412 · 2021-10-21T17:19:15+00:00

If you want to be in a relationship with her, then find a way to make things work. I would tell her how you truly feel and your worries. Communication is key in a relationship.

If you don’t want to be in a relationship with her, then I think you should end it. What’s the point of continuing on if her instability and uncertainty aren’t what you’re looking for. Doesn’t sound like that’ll change.

In general, I think the “sweet guy” vibe burns you more than it helps. It’s a shame bc that’s what most guys are lead to believe “works” but it’s not really what keeps women attracted or hooked.

david10277 · 2021-10-21T22:41:05+00:00

First of all..this is typical wishy washy females.. they all do that.

Suffocate them they push you away, pay them no attention they come back. How retarded...but hey we are to understand there ways.

I have a 28 yr old who much younger then me girl who is super flaky and one minute shes seems like she wants to claim me the other minute I dont hear from her for 3 days . Totally retarded. I dont run her down or ask why ..I just leave her.

You see girls get attached to the emotional feeling you provide. As long.as that's something she enjoyed she won't leave unless you fuck up.

Lay off her...let her drown in her emotions and let it settle in for her. She will come around as you can see.

Dont ask her shit ..just see her and pretend like nothing's wrong. Your just hanging. That's my strategy. So you dont know what you want , who cares.. so you do know what you want ..who cares.

Let them work thru there washy washy emotions. You need to remin solid , secure, confident. My good told me just have more patience than they do. Let them sort themselves out . Dont ask, confirm, assess, try to help them , anything . Just be there for a good time. She will answer her own doubts and questions.

Remember the ship lost in a storm always looks for the lighthouse..

AelfredRex · 2021-10-21T18:06:14+00:00

She's still into you. That's obvious. It seems your relationship has hit that point where you're both wondering if like has turned to love.

2021-10-22T03:41:00+00:00

Nah, just go cold.

She will either sprint after you or she won't respond.

Honestly its not going to get better if you stay with her. You have to back off so she really misses you. If you don't do that things won't change. Might get better for a month, but she will keep doing the same things.

If you back off and she chases, she needs to chase for awhile otherwise her behavior won't change.

wallynext · 2021-10-21T17:10:41+00:00

Why is this posted under "seduction"? Sounds like you've already done the seducing...

Unique_Suspect8711 · 2021-10-21T17:54:03+00:00

My 2 cents. You worry too much and overthink her every action. She is a gal, she will be moody and emotional and usually act towards you in a particular moment how she feels in particular moment. Anyone who wants to call me misogynistic, this is the right moment.

If you keep bugging her with “are we ok, is this going anywhere, I’m ok either way bla bla” she will bail. Firstly because you are showing her that her moods affect you (you’re a dude, you are the rock); secondly if you tell her you are fine exclusive or not shows that (this may be harsh) you don’t have your core values in sync…missing little bit of spine. And by putting the ball in her court she makes a decision and u become an option based on her current mood. Big turn off.

My man, you gotta assert little dominance without speaking about it, have a frame and a life she enters not the way around depending on her mood. Be cool, little aloof, have boundaries and not be there whenever she wants to meet and act like a puppy when u see her.

And don’t strategize, the moment u start strategizing and read her reactions you’re doomed, she’ll sense you want her and her approval more than she wants yours and thats a killer.

Anyway, i wish you luck, she sounds like a cool gal, from what i see very feminine that will test your manlyhood constantly to see if she can make u sway or if you’re man enough.

Btw. This comes from my experience with 2 relationships like that. I threw a towel in both; I don’t have time nor patience to fight battles at work, in sports and later in my relationship, that last one needs to be my safe-heaven with a gal by my side to whom I can show little weakness here and there.

I bet the sex is good, always is with this kind:)

One more thing, she says we need to talk…you say “cool I’m free tomorrow at xyz” dont bend in every direction she pushes u.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-10-21T18:21:38+00:00

She has been pulling away and probably feels suffocated and stifled by you. You need to be more easy going snd keep this casual.

Artist-in-Residence- · 2021-10-21T18:55:18+00:00

She likes the other guy more and has regrets about it. Now she's trying to get the other guy back.

harvey_croat · 2021-10-21T22:10:03+00:00

She is obviously avoidant type of personality. Look she has 30 and it that period of time at least you know what do you or don't want.

If you are leader in relationship you should put some rules or boundries and stick to that. If you don't know what is or isn't allowed then she can cross the boundries every single time.

Good luck

anon72849 · 2021-10-22T03:34:35+00:00

If she’s unsure and just keeping you around to have options, assert some real sexy dominance by telling her exactly what you want from her and that’ll show her that she should pick you

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