A few nights ago I was talking with this woman 9 years older than me and of course, I was hit with the "you're a baby" objection. Usually, I would try to convince her that I am more mature than other people my age (I'm really not) or ignore the objection. This time tho I completely owned it and the difference in reaction was absolutely ridiculous.

I am not gonna bore you with details about the convo we had but I am rather gonna share the key moments where I overcame the objection and hopefully you'll find some value there.

When I told her my age she immediately said: "you're a baby" to which I responded "you know people usually think I am younger than I actually am" which is a pretty neutral response even a bit counterintuitive but again I am owning the fact that I am young. Then I tried guessing her age I was 6 years off which wasn't on purpose because she genuinely looks younger than she is. I was surprised by her actual age so I started teasing her that she probably religiously follows her skincare routine to have such nice skin. She brushed it off saying it's the lighting in the room that makes her look younger. I responded "so I should only be seeing you during the dark hours then" and she was like "yeah that's my strategy I'm like a vampire" or something among the lines.

We talked for a bit more keeping the vibe going and "going out only during the night" came up again. I said something among the lines of "so you're only going out during the night to lure in young boys like me". She kinda shit tested me and said something like "oh I don't go for young boys" or whatever to which I responded, "so you don't like to cuddle". She was kinda taken aback by what I just said (probably you too reading this). Naturally, she was like "what do you mean" and I was like "well young boys don't need a nap after sex so you can actually cuddle with them after" (there was a brief subtle convo about sex before that's why this wasn't coming off too strong although probably still kind of a risky thing to say). Anyways she laughed her ass off when I said that and as I saw that her reaction was that positive I kept making fun of older dudes. I don't really remember what I was saying but essentially I kept on building on how older dudes take naps after sex and that she proly would start hearing him snore 30 seconds after they're done and how she won't be resting her head on a young smooth chest.

Usually, I speak with girls around my age or younger and by default, I almost started trying to connect with her around partying or going out or whatever. Thankfully I caught myself on time and shifted towards connecting around career, investing, etc. The serious part of the convo was mainly around our careers and by showing that I am invested in mine actually created the idea that I am more mature than I actually am.

This was during the week so after talking to her for like 40 minutes I said "it's getting too late I am gonna get going but lemme add you on insta" to which she responded, "oh I don't really use Instagram but what about Facebook?". I immediately broke rapport and said "I don't use Facebook it's for old people" and she looked at me initially with a "can't believe you said that" look and then she laughed it off.

That way I completely changed the frame of the convo. Initially, her frame was "eww young guys, they are babies" but by making fun of older dudes and building up younger dudes, connecting on more mature topics, and giving her a small jab about using Facebook I shifted the frame to "young guys are actually nice especially this one who seemingly have their shit together". Also, all my fundamentals were on point that night (eye contact, well-groomed, deep chest voice, teasing, leading, etc.) which of course helped massively as well.

In the end, she was like "yeah I am gonna keep going as well I gotta get up early tomorrow" so we left at the same time, and outside she was like "I am going this way" (going in a different direction obvs) and I was like "ah cool see you around" and she was like "yeah text me" (I got her number at the end).

So guys, as long as you own the fact you're young and change the frame you'll be freaking golden! Honestly don't try to convince her of anything. Obvs make sure that you calibrate the convo towards her. Don't talk about your 3-day bender but rather talk about what your next career move is when it's time to start connecting. If you keep your frame tho which is that you're an awesome young dude and YOU are actually the one making the exception of talking to her then little by little her frame is gonna start aligning with yours until she's actually attracted and starts considering you as more than just an "attractive guy but young".