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norwegiandoggo · 2021-09-25T07:46:12+00:00

Looking for signs of sexual interest has a tendency to make you appear insecure. You're looking for her validation and coming from an assumption that she has zero sexual interest so you need evidence to prove any sexual interest. It's better to start on the other end. Assume her sexual interest and make this your social reality. Only deviate from that belief if you encounter signs of disinterest. This will make you appear more confident and attractive. Assume she's interested. Assume you're sexy and attractive. Assume she likes you. Even if she shows zero signs of it, this should be your starting assumption. Only if she shows signs that she's not into you should you begin to question those assumptions.

There are many ways you could clarify your romantic intentions, such as:

When you ask her to hang out, use the word "date"
Flirt with her
Escalate physically

gangweedsavedme · 2021-09-25T09:47:26+00:00

Accept you can’t control her feelings for you. Don’t waste your time, it’s better to find someone that already likes you for who you are.

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2021-09-25T07:14:59+00:00

Start realising attraction from her is not a constant.
Be indifferent to the outcome and tell her straight forward what you want from her. It's up to her if and possibly when she wants that with you.

Chuck_MoreAss · 2021-09-25T09:06:30+00:00

Start small. When you go out together, you should go to places with a somewhat romantic setting. Touch her every now and then in a non weird way. You can touch her arm when laughing, put your hand on her back when leading her through a door and you can sit in such a way that your legs touch every now and then. It’s very minor but I feel like that helps initially to make things less weird or uncomfortable moving forward, because you already established that you’re okay with touching her.

When you go out you should use the word date and try to be more flirtatious with her. Be more open and confident about how you feel about her. Girls love that shit, and if she doesn’t, it is what it is.

If she doesn’t reciprocate your feelings then move on. You’ll be hurting yourself by staying friends with someone you don’t want as just a friend.

kbecel · 2021-09-25T10:00:39+00:00

Congratulations, you've made it into the FRIENDZONE

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-09-25T07:07:02+00:00

Talk about sex.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-09-25T15:17:18+00:00

and we had a lot of fun

Fun in a friend way? Where she doesn't see you as anything other than a friend or?

and that was a lot of fun but I feel like there was no romantic interest indicated on her end at all there even though some chemistry was there when we hung out earlier.

Having fun, and not trying to escalate things further is why most guys think they had a good time with the girl.. and then the girl tells the guy a day or two after the date - "it was fun, you're a nice guy, just didn't feel any connection" and you never see her again.

If you're not actively pushing the interaction towards sex.. you'll just end up in the friend zone.

My guess is.. you didn't do anything to show you were interested in her in a sexual way..

And just had a "fun time" because you thought that was enough..

lildudefromXdastreet · 2021-09-25T21:43:07+00:00

You spent five hours with a girl and didn’t make any kind of move OP?….why?

5_7pickup · 2021-09-26T03:32:47+00:00

Does she know you have a penis?

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