Usually when we’re watching TV or something, I’ll ask for a massage and once they give me one I’ll usually tell them “Nah you’re a little soft, let me show you how to do it right” and I’ll perform it on them an then escalate accordingly (take off your top to make it easier yadda yadda). But I can’t do this every time, so I’m looking for better ideas. If you’re just chilling on the couch watching TV, how do you escalate?