Planning a date collaboratively versus telling them what you’re doing?

PiperBigBell · 2021-06-23T19:02:02+00:00

It's about how you phrase it more than anything else. For one, after I confirm the date and time, and that she's down to go out, I use my secret word, "Let's". Let's grab a bite/drinks at (xyz). Second, you need to hype up the place you're meeting at. "Let's grab drinks at (xyz). I heard they had the greatest live music in (xyz). I've been there before and it's insane."

The goal is to get her out of the house for something simple. Stop giving women the impression that you're going out for food and food alone. A bitch can get food everywhere. But me, I am not everywhere. I'm unique. When I'm inviting a girl for a bite to eat, drinks, the park, my place, she's coming for my unique brand.

What we're doing is inconsequential because her time spent with me provides 50x more value than whatever she eats. Also, you don't just tell her where to be. You have to walk them down a compliance ladder of saying yes to small requests, her gaining trust in you. Walking them down while being dominant looks like this:

Me: So, I have some free time Saturday/Sunday from 5 - 10. I know some super hip places that we can vibe at

Her: That sounds like a nice time actually, sunday works (compliance one, agrees to my general time frame)

Me: Let's do (xyz) in (xyz). All my friends say the drinks are a one way ticket to peace of mind and total fulfillment of the soul

Her: I like that idea, we can do that (compliance two)

Me: Cool, let's do 7:30. I can pick you up if you desire (I'm old school) or we can simply meet at the spot

Her: I'm cool with driving, but thanks ❤ ( compliance 3)

Me: Wear something sexy for the occasion. (Insert dress style) whatever's comfortable.

Her: Ooh I'll try my best, i think i can pull something off (compliance 4, responding to sexual vetting process)

Me: definitely, ill text you the day of in the morning to confirm we're still on

Her: Sounds amazing, looking forward to it.

You increase their buy in. When making plans with new girls you need to walk them down. They could object to any point in your process and you have to decide whether to pull out or address the objection and drive the conversation forward. Girls who counter your location for legit reasons i work with. If they plain don't care for it i ghost them. Those women are either masculine or aren't interested in you.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-06-23T18:50:32+00:00

Always tell her to come to your place.

If you're too much of a puss puss to do that - then inviting for food is boring predictable and beta 99% of the time.

Unless you're throwing a BBQ or something truly unique.

Coffee, 'drinks', restaurant, movie = and the girl will think this guys like all the others - boring and lame no effort. weak with no imagination.

To get the pussy, you can't be a pussy.

Women like men.

Be a man and lead.

Tell her what you're going to be doing - you're already going to be doing something cool - and you're inviting her along for the ride.

There's never a 100% fool proof approach - some girls will, some girls won't, who cares, NEXT.

If she's wishy washy - F her - on to the next.

Title	Planning a date collaboratively versus telling them what you’re doing?
Author	FaithInStrangers94
Upvotes	2
Comments	8
Date	June 23, 2021 6:34 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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