Before we start this, I'm curious if anyone else is tapping into this. If you have stats of conversions it'd be dope to see how you're finding it.

A lot of people are going on about tinder and other dating apps. I used it a while back as a slightly below average looking guy and it's possible to get dates for anyone don't get me wrong but you need absolute patience and discipline and months. For me, it's inefficient to swipe every day for 300-500 days for 1 date though let's be real here. Your mileage may vary though. It also depends on your willingness to boost your looks and lie a bit which I mean to each their own.

For cold approach, we have lockdown here. Plus - and I truly believe this, some guys are the type who can do 30 approaches a day and commit to going out 3 times a week (for day game or night game). Personally, that's not me. On a good week, I might do 5-10 approaches and it's on and off depending on business and mood. I'm fine with the results of that. Might get 1 date per 15-50 approaches, which could be one scheduled date every month or two months. Pretty trash. Some of you guys are gung ho with cold approach but this is the amount to where I can cope with the stress and shame type shit.

How did I get into trying instagram dm'ing? Back in High School I somehow realized the power of social media when it came to getting dates but had too low of a self-esteem to go on the dates. I have no particular status and I'm average looking but I was a "natural" at realizing the numbers game and just texting something intriguing to a chick and not care whether a specific one responds. I remember getting a bunch of dating and hook-up opportunities and being to shook to act on them.

So I thought about it and did some research, and it looked like there was potential on Instagram. So I turned cold approach into cold dm'ing lol. Here's what I'm finding out.

NOT ALL of the women on instagram or social media are self-absorbed. I was able to screen for the women with fewer than 1k followers and private profiles (and public too). I looked for women in my city (through tags, posts, or recommend followers) and if they seemed attractive and a realistic approach option (not too many followers and not on some "nba players are dming them" type shit).

I'd send them a neutral question like the location "florida?" or whatever else that we can relate on. No sexual charge since I'm screening for even if they're open to the interaction and they can see my profile to get a feel for my vibe. And then I'd send obvious but subtle hints of interest. And then move the interaction like any dating site to what's app and move on from there.

I send 10 cold instagram dms per day (which takes up to 30m-1hr max) but I'm slowly improving how I do it and making it warmer through follows or whatever else. Based on my results so far, the potential range I'm seeing for this is 1-10% reply rate, and 1-10% date rate (the range is so large because I changed my method and profile a lot).

So calculating this, it means if I do this in an absolutely TRASH way, when sending 10 cold dms per day, in the WORST case I'd be getting 1 date in 1000 days lmao. BUT, with improvement of the process, it's able to reach 1 date per 10 days at its PEAK and WITHOUT leveraging fake money or social status. You just need a solid profile and pictures with intrigue and solid text game while playing the numbers game. A more realistic expectation would be one date per month from this. But still, imo, not bad.

This way, even if tinder by itself is trash and can get at most 2 dates per year, or I'm not a cold approach demon I can only get 1 date every month or two, and then instagram dm game is getting me one or two dates a month, it all evens out to maybe solid 2 dates a month but it takes a lot of discipline and patience. NONE of this is night game or in a location where the dating market is easier.