How to ask for a girls number without putting her on pedestal?

TreTheSkater · 2021-04-26T03:27:33+00:00

First ask for their Social Security number. They will look at you like you're fucking stupid. Then say haha just kidding... I meant to say phone number. She'll give it to you quickly because you made a funny joke and now she's attracted to you.

Just kidding. Don't do any of that shit.

If she's attracted to you, she'll give it to you. They know what's up. You know what's up. Cut the bullshit and get to the chase. If she wants you, she'll give you her number. If not, move on. You just saved your precious time.

Do not settle for an Instagram or Facebook friend. You're a man on a mission. You want her number and you want to seduce her. Then do it. If she's not 100% down with your plan, move on.

It's yes or no.

So a good way would be to say Hey what's your number?

Or Hey I'd like to keep contact with you, here's my number.

Ohyarlysmiles · 2021-04-26T03:55:49+00:00

Lol probably because you aren't leading the conversation logically there.

Ex:

You: O u like pizza? Me too. We should eat pizza together sometime lol.

Her: ya totally!

You: I know a great pizza place/my house....let's eat some date/time

Her: totally!

You: cool what's your number.

^ that wouldn't feel weird or awkward

2021-04-26T08:08:05+00:00

Say put your number in my phone like you’re commanding her to do it. In a very assertive way. Feminist wouldn’t agree with it but it works better than asking like a 5th grader.

theseoulplayer · 2021-04-26T09:05:12+00:00

The biggest issue most guys I've seen have when asking for a number is that they don't have a reason for asking for it.

If you're asking for a number because it's a conquest, it's pointless. If you're asking because 'maybe we can link up some time' or whatever, it's a waste of time. If you're asking because you have a legitimate reason to be contacting her in the future to seal the details of whatever you've spoken about, then she'll give it to you without any problem.

You need to create some sort of reason for you to stay in contact during your conversation.

If you have no reason, why would she say yes?

If you have a clear and good reason, why would she say no?

WhiteningMcClean · 2021-04-26T14:26:54+00:00

Just give her a reason for wanting her number. It diffuses the bluntness of it and makes it easier to ask for. “Let me get your number in case you want to do x.” “What’s your number? You seem like you’d be fun to do x with.”

Unless you’re talking to a drunk girl at a club, you want to keep your intentions vague at first so she isn’t bored by the lack of a challenge.

GoCrow · 2021-04-26T02:57:52+00:00

Look internally and try to figure out why you’re devaluing yourself for asking for a woman’s phone number?

GoCrow · 2021-04-26T14:37:32+00:00

I know what you mean. It sometimes takes the tone from friendly banter to "oh this guy is gonna try to take me out".

I think what you're actually feeling is a shit test. Had that from a girl yesterday who is like a 6 haha. Asked for her number and her tone shifted from fun to kind of serious. It's almost a "how will he react if I act not too interested?" They're seeing if you suddenly get nervous, can no longer look them in the eyes, etc.

I'd say talk to more girls and ask for their numbers, including those below what you're interested in. Once you get to a point where it is no problem if they reject you, you will be in the right mentality.

Example: I asked a 6.5 the other day for her number at the gym after we had a good banter.

Me: "in case I don't see you again you should give me your number."

Her: "we work out at the same gym, we'll see each other."

Me: "nah I feel like we won't. I don't usually come at this time."

Her: "I think we will."

Me: "Why are you going to stalk me?" in a flirting tone

Her tone suddenly shifted here. I didn't ask for her number again and I will probably not see her again for a while, but I could def get it next time with some flirting (but probs wont try for a 6.5). I just do not give a fuck. If I was nervous and cared I would have shown it inadvertently with body language. Would have said something like "oh ok" and would have walked away fast or hanging my head. Practice makes perfect.

tundahouse · 2021-04-27T22:13:45+00:00

Give her your number. That way she has the choice to contact you. And if she is interested she will.

Hooosreddit · 2021-04-26T03:55:52+00:00

You are fun. I'd like to get to know you more. You want to swap numbers?

And you ask her to call you and e voila.

mr_Tobbor · 2021-04-26T11:41:11+00:00

Are you attracted to her? Because if you are not attracted then it is awkward to ask for her number! In case you are attracted to her, do you think she knows that? Of course she does. And that is an underestimated critical point: Attraction isn't a choice. She MUST to be attracted to you. If yes then she will make it very easy for you to ask for her number. But if she is not attracted to you, then in deed she would make it difficult.

GoCrow · 2021-04-26T11:58:26+00:00

Tell her you’ve been going to beauty school and you’re great at washing hair. Women are always open to a guy washing their hair when they get their hair done.

2021-04-27T09:01:41+00:00

Stop worrying about value and focus more on building your connection.

2021-08-09T17:09:44+00:00

First start with you, stop Amping yourself up, go in deep, first one you see that sees you, get them when they are not ready, make it fun. Like, write your number down and throw it on the ground, like it fell from the sky or something, then say "oh whats this?'' Then pass her your digits. Or shout out to her from the far end of the aisle like "HEY!?, (wave to her like its urgent) then walk up to her with a striking worried face 😟 and be like "the world can end or i can get in a car wreck, shoot maybe even you, I figured since you were staring at me, we can do this date on our next day and night off, yeah? Please" then big smile after that.

Title	How to ask for a girls number without putting her on pedestal?
Author	GoCrow
Upvotes	10
Comments	24
Date	April 26, 2021 2:50 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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