[FR] I can't believe how well this is working... Amazing

fuckshitwank · 2012-03-18T13:20:27+00:00

My goodness. I like you just from reading that so I don't see why any girl wouldn't.

choc_is_back · 2012-03-18T11:19:14+00:00

Wonderful read. Keep it up, and looking forward to the FR of your next encounter with Miss 10 :-)

ballerina00 · 2012-03-18T10:30:13+00:00

this is great! keep us updated.

TofuTofu · 2012-03-18T21:59:42+00:00

Great FR, man.

I've never been comfortable with what I feel to be 'unwanted advances'

Reframe that limiting belief NOW. Seriously, if you think of them as unwanted then you are saying that you're not a person worthy of getting to know. What does that say about the state of your inner game?

YOU are the prize. Anyone you speak to is lucky for being allowed into your sphere of awesomeness. Not sharing your awesomeness with others makes you a douchebag. Do you want to be a douchebag? :)

Another thing worth pointing out... Be careful about not getting too attached to the thought of seeing these girls again. The hotter & younger the girl, the more likely it is she will flake on you. Be sure to meet lots of girls and keep your options open, abundance mentality is hugely attractive.

JiminyNoogs · 2012-03-18T13:52:33+00:00

Kudos man; keep working on it.

Also as an aspiring PUA, this really boosts my confidence after last night.

Long story short.. opened like a boss all night, but no close. Damn anxiety always kicks in after the first lull.

For-Teh-Lulz · 2012-03-18T17:41:19+00:00

what is conversation threading?

For-Teh-Lulz · 2012-03-18T20:07:08+00:00

I truly hope that what you've learned is to not give a fuck. Don't worry about if she wants to be with you, and don't think about if you want to be with her.

If you're having fun, and you aren't shy about letting girls know that you're interested, but not sold, you're going to be solid.

Those other fucks, who were trying to psyche you out and destroy your game? That's because they were coming up dry and getting frustrated. One of these days, you're going to be in that position, but don't falter like they did.

If you go home alone, but maintained your composure, you didn't fail. You succeed a little with every girl that saw you. If you lose your composure like those fucks did, then you failed.

A perfect example:

There was another guy I worked with who was quite the player, and we played in a band together, but it had since dissolved. There was a girl I was talking to at work and as we wrapped up the conversation, I asked, "What are you doing tonight?"

"I'm going out with <player> to hit the bars."

"I planned on going out, too. I'm hitting <the bar>. <female friend who works as the bartender for said bar> said she wants me to come by. She's a lot of fun."

"Alright, maybe we'll meet up!"

"Good times to be had!"

So I hit the bar. I've already given up on the girl showing (not being sad, just not thinking about it) and instead starting chatting up everyone in the bar. I end up in a conversation with a HB8 and I warn about "I'm supposed to be meeting some friends pretty soon" to move into a #close. The bar is pretty loud, and I periodically check my phone.

My logic is this: the bar is too loud for her to hear a phone vibrate, and this gives me social proof if I run into someone I know, and a convenient duck out of the conversation starts to get stale.

Then luck would have it: the girl and the player from work walk in. Sweetness. Without skipping I beat, I act like those are the friends I've been waiting on (but I never say this). She comes up and gives me a hug, and I give warm regards (handshake and shoulder pat/grab) to the player. There's my social proof.

I ask them to join us, and because they came in together, the HB8 assumes they are "together". Unfortunately, between the girl from work trying to be the center of attention and the player trying to peacock, they shut the HB8 out of the conversation. She decides to rejoin her friends, I've already got her number, but she gives me a hug and I say I'll see her around.

When her group gets up to leave, I see her turn and look back at me, I give her a big smile and a wave. That wasn't all I saw of her. badum-cssh

So now it's the player, the girl, and I. Unfortunately for him, two of his buddies come by and engage him in conversation. I engage the girl.

The player sees my kino and realizes his losing ground, and fast. He tries to get into the conversation, and can't find any footing. Then he tries to highjack the conversation by changing the subject, and when he finishes his point, I simply give him an understanding look and go back to the original conversation.

Now he's getting desperate. Now he's making pitiful attacks and acting snide towards me. This was where I knew I had truly won. He was behaving like a pathetic ass, and I just responded like "I simply don't care about your emotional opinion, but I will give my logical answer."

I notice her reactions during this, and she's making it obvious she's annoyed by his interjections. I go to take a piss, because now all he's going to do is dig himself deeper.

I come back, and as soon as she sees me, she shuts down their conversation and comes to me and says, "Do you mind giving me a ride home?"

"Where do you live?"

"<beautifully along the way>"

"No problem."

"Ok, then I'm going to go use the bathroom real quick. I'm just ready to get out of here."

So I head to the bar while she's using the bathroom to wrap up my tab.

The player confronts me, "Hey, can you do me a favor? You mind taking her home?"

confused look "I'm taking her where she wants to go, what do you mean?"

"Well, I already have a few girls I'm dealing with, so I'll let you have this one."

poker face "Oh, I wanted to ask you, do you still have that 27 inch TV, the one that was in your living room the last time I was over? You know, when we watched Pink Flamingoes?"

confused look "Yeah?"

"Oh, I just wanted to let you know. I've already got a couple of TVs, so I'll let you have that one." sly smile

Like perfect clockwork, she walks up and we leave. We get in my car and I say, "So where do you live again?"

"To be honest, I just wanted to get out of there. It was just too crowded."

"I don't blame you one bit; I'm just ready to chill out. Let's just watch a movie at my place."

"Ok."

F-close.

Absolutely true story, and a good demonstration of how a player, if he loses his composure, will totally fuck up the situation. He got distracted, tried to posture, and then panicked. It was so easy for him to keep control of the situation, but he lost his composure because he was far too worried about the goal.

I didn't give a fuck about the goal, and the prize landed in my lap. All because I had fun and wasn't acting like those fucks you had to deal with.

2012-03-18T15:55:05+00:00

I wish more sedditors were like you-- stop reading, and go out and do it! Kudos to you man.

For-Teh-Lulz · 2012-03-18T18:27:49+00:00

I'm going to have a hard time setting anything up, seeing as she lives in another city, and I just started a new job with crazy hours, but I'll definitely touch base with her tomorrow and invite her back for a date this weekend, and if that is a no-go I'll just tease her a bit about what we talked about and figure it out from there.

0MagicPhil0 · 2012-03-18T15:36:09+00:00

I hope you give us an update soon!

DiscreteOpinion · 2012-03-18T18:17:34+00:00

I hope you don't totally avoid conversation for the "right time" - a girl like that is getting approached daily. Keep your cool and keep the rapport going.

sithyiscool · 2012-03-19T03:22:39+00:00

Great FR!

As for the AA, even Neil Strauss says he STILL gets AA (same with Tyler Durden).

When Tyler is approaching a set, he says he clears is mind and the only three thoughts are allowed when approaching:

OH LET'S SEE IF SHE'S COOL

LET'S EXPAND OUT THIS PARTY

LET'S ASK HER A QUESTION

For myself, I have to say that it never really goes away completely (although, it can change based on situational conditions). What you can do, is get better at just saying Welp, this sucks, Fuck it, lets go. My personal goal is to change the ratio of:

the times I suck it up and go for it: the times I just wallflower and lose state by not approaching

bawss · 2012-03-19T08:12:16+00:00

Nice FR! Just a little curious..how did you start the 'small kino' with her? What'd you say before you started kino-ing?

For-Teh-Lulz · 2012-03-18T18:05:35+00:00

can we get a picture of what you look like.

DanTallTrees · 2012-03-18T21:21:04+00:00

sorry for being uninformed gut wat does AA hb10 and hb7 mean

thesnowflake · 2012-03-18T11:46:40+00:00

So... basically you got a phone #. Still.. keep at it..

Title	[FR] I can't believe how well this is working... Amazing
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Date	March 18, 2012 8:48 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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