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| 2 | How do you deal with jealousy?haha, yeah i never believe the sleeping on the couch. | /r/seduction | 26/03/13 04:59 PM |
| 0 | How do you deal with jealousy?ahhh.. soo true. Last night when i was chatting up this cute brunette I totally forgot about her... Haha, I guess the problem is that she is often one of the few girls from our class that goes out on the random nights we party at local bars. Thanks! I'll just keep in mind that whenever I find other options, I totally lose jealous feelings. | /r/seduction | 26/03/13 04:33 PM |
| 6 | How do you deal with jealousy?Yeah... thats the thing.. I don't really want a girlfriend, and I like that we are casual... I just hate FEELING jealous when I logically don't want to feel it!! UGH stupid brain. | /r/seduction | 26/03/13 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Any Tips/Tricks to get rid of Approach Anxiety once and for all...In Neil Strauss' IAMA he himself said he still gets AA. It's psychologically built into us (and I hate that!). To quote 60 yr's of challenge, "Opening sucks, it will always suck". For me, I find that taking microsteps and building momentum works the best. | /r/seduction | 19/11/12 09:20 PM |
| 2 | How a girl wants to be picked up at a club"Risk Weird" (open conversation) "Risk Creepy" (touch and physical escalation) "Risk Perverted" (sexually related touch) | /r/seduction | 09/07/12 07:55 PM |
| 2 | How a girl wants to be picked up at a clubYep. Calibration also goes along with this. | /r/seduction | 09/07/12 07:54 PM |
| 1 | I have a hard time openly hitting on girls, not out of fear for rejections, but out of fear of looking like an idiot.Risk Weird (open) Risk Creepy (touch) Risk Perverted (sexual) Gotta do it. That's why random girls at bars are great for practice. | /r/seduction | 08/07/12 11:28 PM |
| 3 | 10 Things every guy can do to become more attractiveEven if you don't have your own place, a CLEAN car, room and BATHROOM are key. And yes, personal transportation, unless you live in a major city, is very desirable (and helpful with logistics!). Or you could end up like in the 40 year old virgin, where you said, "Yea... I ride a bike-bicycle." | /r/seduction | 20/06/12 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Time wasters.I try to be instantly physical whenever possible. If you do it correctly they don't even notice it and only their subconscious is aware of your touch. | /r/seduction | 31/05/12 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Time wasters.I agree with this. As you get more experience you begin to become a better judge at who the good leads are. However, sometimes it can be hard to tell the difference between a time waster and a shy girl. Also, for me, I find that often I can tell that a girl is a time waster, but I am attracted to her/already taking to her that I want to try to convince her to no longer be a time waster. Of course, talking to someone else is much much more productive, albeit you gotta start from scratch. Learn to… | /r/seduction | 31/05/12 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Look fly at all times.r/frugalmalefashion can also be your friend. | /r/seduction | 31/05/12 06:34 AM |
| 16 | My girlfriend's thoughts on gameSame with my last girlfriend. It's like a play or a show. There are tons and tons of behind the scenes work going on, but if you do it well, then they should just be enjoying it, captured in the reality of the moment. And then suddenly we are at my house, alone, like it "just happened" (which is amazing when you later rethink about all the stuff that went right for the pickup to happen) | /r/seduction | 22/05/12 03:45 PM |
| 2 | Girl here. Guys rarely approach me. Seddit, why do you choose the girls you choose?Here's an amazing tip that works really well. when she starts talking..... SHUT UP and listen. If she stops talking, wait patiently and give her a chance to reinitate. I used to think that I always had to do the heavy lifting in the conversation, but then I realized that I always kept cutting the girl off when she was going to some talking! Shutting up and listening as soon as she starts adding to the conversation (as well as slowing down your sentence pauses) has done wonders for me. You just h… | /r/seduction | 21/05/12 10:00 PM |
| 1 | Giving out your card...I tried giving out my number to girls for a while. None have ever called in my years of doing it. So yes, there is a reason you ALWAYS try to get her number ("exchanging" it of course). | /r/seduction | 18/05/12 05:17 AM |
| 2 | Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well"You guys seemed cool/interesting/fun, so I had to come over and say hello" | /r/seduction | 13/05/12 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly wellAnd situational openers help SO much (vs a cold approach) makes a "natural" conversation, even if it is purposely done. | /r/seduction | 13/05/12 10:03 PM |
| 2 | The "Bitch Shield" is just a screenerWith proper calibration, this could hit really well. Actually, anything that is witty typically can go over really well, but you have to have full faith in yourself when you deliver. | /r/seduction | 08/05/12 05:14 AM |
| 3 | The "Bitch Shield" is just a screenerIm definitely gonna do this next time the situation calls for it | /r/seduction | 08/05/12 12:07 AM |
| 10 | The "Bitch Shield" is just a screenerWith enough social dynamic practice all the problems end up coming down to logistics. Logistical problems are best handled with prevention (isolation, knowing an easy way to get back to your house, making friends with her group before hand, getting the girl to really like you), on the spot handling (engaging the friend when she comes to pull her away, or when a girl she she hasn't seen in a while interrupts. I also find that some girls will interrupt bc they subconsciously want a reason to be ab… | /r/seduction | 07/05/12 08:16 PM |
| 4 | The "Bitch Shield" is just a screenerOh, no she definitely did not remember me, and was very surprised when I used her name in the conversation. :-) | /r/seduction | 07/05/12 07:59 PM |
| 3 | Thought this was appropriate for living in the moment. What matters is your friends, your highs, your orgasms. Terence Mckenna 2:00 vidI read about Terence McKenna for the first time last night and this is posted.... Confirmation bias or Synchronicity? Hmmmm But in all seriousness, unplugging from technology and just learning how to be in the moment works amazingly for pickup. If you aren't experiencing a moment with a girl, she will not stay long. | /r/seduction | 07/05/12 06:37 PM |
| 14 | The "Bitch Shield" is just a screenerYep exactly. | /r/seduction | 07/05/12 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Advice from a 40-year-old Vietnamese-American natural: One of the most attractive attributes anyone can have.I think a good takeaway is this: Being present, mindful and in the moment is very important (much more than being on autopilot). And of course, you can be in the moment whether you are feeling high frequency or low frequency! | /r/seduction | 03/05/12 02:13 PM |
| 10 | "If she's still standing next to you, you're doing fine"Attraction spiking is doing/saying things that trigger attraction in the girl. Venusian arts revelations and Mehow-Get the girl both have good lists of attraction switches. examples are: humor, mystery, fun, leader of men, preselection, unreactive, outcome independent, social savvyness, appearance, friendly, assertive/dominant etc. Things that push a girls button. So I might enter a set while talking with another girl (preselection) by saying WOOHOO! (fun), give a guy passing by a high five for … | /r/seduction | 02/05/12 02:12 AM |
| 6 | "If she's still standing next to you, you're doing fine"The more attraction you spike them with, the longer they'll wait for you. Of course, I don't mean to just open and then stand there. I suggest that you want to use the silence effectively to gather new authentic conversational topic (if needed), rather than doing a forced topic. I find authentic always works far better than when you "feel" like it's forced. Basically, they pick up exactly what you feel... for good or bad! This technique also worked a lot more the farther into state I got. with r… | /r/seduction | 02/05/12 12:17 AM |
| 10 | "If she's still standing next to you, you're doing fine"I guess what I was trying to say was the the girls take cues from you. If you feel you are fumbling, they will feel that you are fumbling as well. If you feel totally at ease, calm, sharing a moment outside of time kind of vibe, they will vibe with you. Granted, having a long comfortable silent pause, works better with the more attraction and comfort you've built. if they are into you, they will easily wait to see what you'll do next, as you have the most value at the moment. | /r/seduction | 02/05/12 12:10 AM |
| 1 | 100% is easy. 99% is a death trap.A habit turns into a routine when you feel a rush to finish it as quick as possible to do your next task. Enjoy the moment, and don't rush through it. This can apply to showering, popping, eating dinner, driving to and from work, working out, and meeting people. | /r/seduction | 26/04/12 10:44 PM |
| 2 | Unexpected observations on the road to becoming alpha...Pure truth. Very related to outcome independence as well. If you go out looking to take value from people, they will hide or resist youth. If you are happy, they want to join in your life and happily assist you (everyone wants to be in the warm end of the pool. Be the warmth... no peeing though!). Feel good about yourself, this attracts other people, and sure enough good things will happen! | /r/seduction | 26/04/12 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Unexpected observations on the road to becoming alpha...People definitely have situational confidence. If you believe your friend is awesome when you are just kicking it, they typically are. If you feel like they are going to be a jerk to you when you talk to a girl, they will end up doing that. | /r/seduction | 26/04/12 04:47 AM |
| 2 | Unexpected observations on the road to becoming alpha...I'm learning this as well, some tricks i've learned: Always be positive. It's trite, but you should NEVER have jealously, anger or hatred towards another person. Karma is real When you are changing to an AFC, you should meet new people (who don't know your history), and also hang out with your old social circle in smaller groups. When the big old social circle group hangs out, your shared history can work against you. If you hang out separately, then it's easier to work with your old friends. So… | /r/seduction | 26/04/12 04:45 AM |
| 2 | Tip: Had a girls interest but lost it? Just go away.This also works when you first approach too. I do this all the time at the bar and club. I'll open a set, throw a little a attraction. If it doesn't hit or I feel im starting to run on fumes, I just leave and open a new one. Sure enough, the second time around they are a lot more receptive. It kinda has a built in time constraint, as well as show you are a friendly social person, not some creeper who is gonna hang around them stalkerishly. Note: You should genuinely want to leave and talk to oth… | /r/seduction | 21/04/12 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Girl has sudden, near random interest in me. I think. Has anyone else experienced the same?no condensation was meant. I more meant, learn and help others out in meeting you. | /r/seduction | 21/04/12 04:28 AM |
| 1 | Girl has sudden, near random interest in me. I think. Has anyone else experienced the same?Yep. maybe she has been anxious the entire semester and hasn't found a good way to open conversation(without help from the OP) Suddenly she saw an opener and ran with it. THIS IS A PERFECT EXAMPLE OF WHY YOU MUST BE THE ACTIVE PERSON. Many girls are waiting for YOU to open! | /r/seduction | 20/04/12 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with the "One-Upper"When friends do the one upping they risk blowing you out as well, bc guilt by association. | /r/seduction | 20/04/12 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with the "One-Upper"When friends do this they risk blowing you out as well, bc guilt by association. | /r/seduction | 20/04/12 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with the "One-Upper"Solutions: Sometimes you feel you becoming one uppish, just genuinely listen to their conversation. I've done this with girls, where im instantly thinking of some related story to tell as soon as she talks about a subject. Just throw your thoughts out the window while they talk. You should be focusing on THEM. (unless its a insanely crazy story) Share common bonds. They are talking about a diving trip and you've had a great diving trip as well? Share the commonalities you enjoyed. I think we all… | /r/seduction | 20/04/12 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Not in the entre of attention? When not DHVing becomes a DHVThere always seems to be some confusion about DHVing. DHVing is not boasting. Yes, most ppl associate DHVs with storytelling, or actively saying things that make you appear higher value. But in actuality, it is the meaning and the message behind the words, not the words themselves. It really can be done anytime and always is going on. DHVing is really when you "subcommunicate" your attractive qualities through storytelling, actions, conversational snippets, bodylanguage, and the VERY important: … | /r/seduction | 20/04/12 03:11 AM |
| 2 | The Great ExperimentThat AA doesn't go away was the best info I got from the Strauss iama | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 11:43 PM |
| 1 | The Great Experimentyea user post history is pretty obvious. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 11:42 PM |
| 3 | The Great ExperimentYou can easily add 1 or 2 days during the work week for night game. Just don't drink heavily. Go out on a Thursday or Wednesday. night. I just did last night. Went to bed at 3:30 and got up 6:30. i work 7:30-4:30. I took a mini nap during my lunch break at a nearby park. it was awesome. I put on some comfy clothes and laid out a blanket on the grass in the shade. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 11:06 PM |
| 1 | "I like your style", An easy IOI that still leaves room for qualificationThis exactly what I meant. Thanks for adding depth. | /r/seduction | 19/04/12 05:43 PM |
| 6 | "I like your style", An easy IOI that still leaves room for qualificationLove the idea of it as an opener. Somewhat related: I like to give girls IOIs on things about them that stand out, but recently I've been noticing that if I feel the urge to give her a verbal IOI, I really should just be escalating , especially nonverbally instead. I noticed that sometimes i feel like saying "You're awesome!" to the girl. But after thinking about this, I realized it often was a way to try gauge her interest, aka, How does she respond to my IOI. This is quite the opposite of "ass… | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 10:31 PM |
| 4 | Why Girls Flake (And the Long-Game)Read the person's post history. They often don't add positive /insightful/helpful posts to this community, and just jump om and complain at any post that was already controversial to begin with. | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 10:17 PM |
| 2 | Why Girls Flake (And the Long-Game)There is a HUGE difference between the fun flirty person, and the sexually tries to advance on everyone person. Flirting correctly will have everyone enjoying your company and being attracted to you | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Why Girls Flake (And the Long-Game)Long/Mid term game is necessary for social circle house parties. FLIRT WITH EVERYONE. Especially if there are multiple leads. Social circles are great for meeting ppl, but also present logistical problems (she doesn't want to hardcore flirt with you at the party or a ONS bc her friends will hound her about it/jeopardize social standing/introduce drama. This is also why isolation/plausible deniability is important for social circle game) That second time you see them can be very successful for se… | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 10:00 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Don't buy girls drinks.. lesson learned!WARNING ADVANCED GAME: Some girls are very sly. They don't pull the "buy me a drink!" Instead they say *"let's get drinks!" * Of course (most of the time) they really mean, YOU should get the drinks (plausible deniability) I don't recommend saying no, as it can really be a mood killer, and she will most likely leave, get a drink, and the set's over. I typically say "Sure!" and then walk up to being nearby the bar but not directly touching it so she sees I have no intention of ordering anything. … | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 09:40 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Don't buy girls drinks.. lesson learned!I love getting a pivot to do this to me If she says "guys always buy me drinks!" Ill say, good then Im drinking for free tonight too! | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Hey you. Stop trying to cure your approach anxiety. Stop that shit.http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20727420/ns/health-mental_health/t/even-stars-get-stage-fright/ | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 03:53 PM |
| 3 | Hey you. Stop trying to cure your approach anxiety. Stop that shit.Also, read the Neil Strauss IAMA: when asked if he still gets AA (even with his years of approaching experience)- ~"Yes, and it increased as ppl learned of my skills" Realizing that AA with always be there, and opening just usually sucks anyways (60 yrs of challenge) did wonders for me. | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Some consequences of the greater field of vision of womenActually, read the other post that responds to mine. Their rate of accidents per mile is higher, but men have more total accidents due to more drivers and driving more miles. | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 02:02 PM |
| 1 | For those who fear approach, perhaps a silent approach has already been made?I've opened plenty of conversations with a hip check or a glass cheers. | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 01:58 PM |
| 1 | For those who fear approach, perhaps a silent approach has already been made?Proximity interest is 100% real. If you have been standing in an area for a while (aka you didn't just walk up to the group) and suddenly feel that you are really "noticing the girl next to you", then she probably wants you to open her. I've noticed that girls who are shy or aren't stereotypically attractive will pull this move. Open with a non verbal opener. See 60 years of challenges book for some solid nonverbal opener ideas. | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 04:47 AM |
| 3 | "Take a hairpin, leave a hairpin" to let girls know it's a one-time thingI've accidently done the same thing with hair ties. I like this a little better than having a girl's shoe like in the lovedrop apartment makeover video | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 04:41 AM |
| 2 | Some consequences of the greater field of vision of womenI got the quote directly out of a National Highway Safety Administration report. But I can see now how I misread it. | /r/seduction | 17/04/12 07:13 PM |
| 4 | What to say when your soloing and a girl ask where you friends areExactly. The girl knows you have friends from your response, but are confident enough to do what you want wherever. | /r/seduction | 17/04/12 05:02 PM |
| 5 | What is the best compliment that you ever received from a woman?Hearing my name screamed during sex. | /r/seduction | 17/04/12 04:56 PM |
| 6 | My main fear in approaching women is having a dull conversation/running out of things to say.You will be stuck at this fear until you learn that: It doesnt always happen The awkward silence doesn't effect you a 10th as much as these fear of the awkward silence Seriously, until you say I don't give a fuck, and approach, you will be stuck like I was at this phase for a few years (and thus only focused on social circle game and everything downstream of opening). And you gotta keep at it, you will most likely ALWAYS EXPERIENCE APPROACH ANXIETY. Just like you might always get nervous before … | /r/seduction | 17/04/12 04:28 PM |
| 12 | My main fear in approaching women is having a dull conversation/running out of things to say.This is what I've learned: When you are worried you will have nothing to say: your brain shuts down and you wont have anything to say. And more accurately, you do have something to say, and its "I don't have anything to say" bc that's what your brain is focused on. Shit, during my first few approaches of the night I might be stuck in this mentally and yes, it is sometimes awkward. Oh well fuck it, you can leave and never see them again. However, sometimes the girl is very open and helps a lot, s… | /r/seduction | 17/04/12 04:20 PM |
| 2 | Some consequences of the greater field of vision of womenActually, men don't crash more than women at all. "Men had a higher risk than women of experiencing a fatal crash, while women had higher rates of involvement in injury crashes and all police-reported crashes " -NHTSA Women also have 2/3rds of the pedal misapplication crashes -NHTSA The reason men pay higher insurance is that they typically drive faster, so when they crash it costs a lot more. | /r/seduction | 17/04/12 03:57 PM |
| 0 | Facebook Contact Exchange Tip - Have an easy custom urlIf you do get friend added from a girl you're interested in (ie from social circle), You could add her, but not allow them to see your pictures, or wall posts from others. This is what lists are for! I have several levels: All access (close friends)-can see all Mid level-can see wall and info Basically blocked-can see profile pic and message me. Also, when I upload an album, or make a status update, you can easily choose what lists can see these things. A Vegas trip albums that only the ppl on t… | /r/seduction | 17/04/12 02:17 PM |
| 1 | 30 Ways to become the Most Interesting Person You KnowYea, being better than your competitors is probably the minimum that you need to be successful. A lot of pick up situations is really relative and not absolute. Sometimes it's great to DHV succesfully, othertimes throwing well placed spikes is all that is needed. I can remember once sitting at a table playing drinking games with 2 other guys and 2 girls. What I noticed was that I only had to add a few good timely comments, and the rest of the time let the other guys just blow themselves out. Obv… | /r/seduction | 16/04/12 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Best way to spin this into something positive?: Girl I'm into found out about me hooking up with some one elsedefinitely agree. | /r/seduction | 16/04/12 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Tucker Max’s Guide to Good Game (must read)A related experience of mine: I met a girl from a friend at a bar. We hit it off, kissed and could tell we were attracted to eachother. So her friend wants a smoke so we go outside and some guy starts talking to her. While some some guys would have gotten jealous, nervous she was gonna leave or you'll lose the set. Instead I honestly didn't care. sure she is talking to a guy ... so what, she still is attracted to me. I remained calm and didn't give a fuck and continued to have fun. Sure enough, … | /r/seduction | 16/04/12 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Going to the bar with a bunch of girls and just me. Need some good tips from you guys.Average frustrated chump | /r/seduction | 16/04/12 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Facebook Contact Exchange Tip - Have an easy custom urlFacebook is what you make of it. I find that it works great for social circle game, or house parties where ppl kinda know a friend of a friend. Or when you are working on one target, and want to progress with another from a separate group of friends and cant do an isolated number pull But yes, its not like im telling every random person at a bar my info. Like I said, you should have an easy username link, another tool for your toolbox, if needed | /r/seduction | 16/04/12 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Facebook Contact Exchange Tip - Have an easy custom urlI have multiple levels of privacy for various groups of people. So all they can see is my profile pic if I want. Not that horrible. | /r/seduction | 16/04/12 05:17 PM |
| 2 | The Toxic 10 scale: 7 Reasons Ditch It CompletelyNot to mention that if you are ever talking to guy friends about a girls number no one will ever agree unless the girl is a real hottie with a great body and you say 9 Otherwise when discussing, half the guys will either undervalue a girl so they appear to have higher standards, or overvalue a somewhat attractive girl (this especially happens with the super plastic fake tan bad porn looking girls) | /r/seduction | 16/04/12 05:08 PM |
| 1 | [The Definitive Guide] Taking Requests!Yes, start this guide, and ill add to it. | /r/seduction | 16/04/12 05:00 PM |
| 2 | Going to the bar with a bunch of girls and just me. Need some good tips from you guys.I second this.... sometimes an afc wing is worse than no wing. | /r/seduction | 16/04/12 04:59 PM |
| 6 | The Toxic 10 scale: 7 Reasons Ditch It CompletelyHahaha I was just talking about this with a friend of mine. I actually really like the binary system.... especially since the HB1-10 impossible to really have. Everyone has a different opinion. Anything less than a 6-7 is never used. | /r/seduction | 16/04/12 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Women Have Changed Considerably in the last 10-20 years. An Older Player's Perspective...I agree that flaking is crap... but I can also say that I've done the guy equivalent: gotten a girl's number with no desire to call her. Either for # close practice or she really wants my number. (Though I've learned not to directly promise to call if I don't want to after getting called out on it once), and instead phrase it more along the lines that we might hangout in the future. | /r/seduction | 16/04/12 04:18 PM |
| 9 | Women Have Changed Considerably in the last 10-20 years. An Older Player's Perspective..."Improvise, Adapt, Overcome" That's really all we need to know. Realize that technology is going to grow at an ever changing pace. With that, there will be new logistical hurdles, as well as new opportunities. Evolve with the technology, or be left behind (like grandma/mom who can't use a vcr and now the dvd player) Sure, maybe texting has made it so she can easily get validation from an orbiter. However, attraction is still attraction, and she still want that seductive sexual guy. I've definite… | /r/seduction | 16/04/12 04:05 PM |
| 0 | Facebook/IM/Online “Game”: avoid it!Yeah that isn't the full ebook i'm referring to. http://www.scribd.com/doc/23534969/10SSA | /r/seduction | 15/04/12 07:12 PM |
| 4 | How to Stop Flaking - My System (Input Appreciated)Good ideas for text progressions. Can be applied to whenever you get any number or a new facebook friend add too. The trick here is the first initial texts/msgs where you don't want to be too needy or scare them off, and want them to invest. As others have said, extending your initial meeting and instant dates can help (don't be afraid to show physical interest! ). As for your post talking about your 2hr instant date, it could be that through that time you eventually cock blocked yourself by not… | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Tempted to go out and game tonight, but I will be on my own...Yea. As long as you aren't standing by yourself in the middle of a room you aren't noticeable. Be in a convo, or walk around slowly. Now you aren't "alone" you're going somewhere or talking to people. | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 04:58 PM |
| 4 | Tempted to go out and game tonight, but I will be on my own...Umm........ ? there was 80+ upvoted post less than one day ago that said that talked about how going solo is no big deal. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/s7qe7/for_all_you_guys_worried_about_going_out_solo/ | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Proposal: a weekly thread tl;dr of the good information learned that week from seddit to archive them for later use.Lolol! I know what you mean, but I was just trying to say that while these ideas seem popular, most ppl don't really help out and add to it (or maybe, it doesn't get front page and seen when posted by me, so the snowball doesn't start rolling) | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Proposal: a weekly thread tl;dr of the good information learned that week from seddit to archive them for later use.I posted a "what did you learn this week?" On EVERY Sunday for like two months. Not many ppl replied. I don't think I got more than 5-25 upvotes. The fact is that while there are 50k subscribers, the most are not active posters. I don't think most subscribers actively practice pick up either (more like keyboard jockies that want a quick fix). Hell, most days there are only 1-5 qualilty double digit upvoted posts, but most have less than 12 comments. Every few days you'll see a post blow up with … | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 08:26 AM |
| 2 | Drugs and pickup.cocaine, adderrall, marijuana, alcohol, caffeine, mdma, etc all can have beneficial social effects. The trick is finding the proper dose for the social effects. It is usually far lower than the typical dose (ie take a third of a hit of weed where you become aware and socialable rather than socially retarded and stoned) Yes being sober can be great because you can kept your head on your shoulders and wit intact. But that doesn't mean that being slightly impaired doesn't help either. Also, learn t… | /r/seduction | 14/04/12 04:22 AM |
| 2 | Need some quick tips for dancefloor game!Don't dip your toes into the pool. Jump right in Get rejected at least once, and early in the evening (meaning, don't wait an hour and a half to approach one girl timidly and be mad that she blows you off). On to the next one! | /r/seduction | 13/04/12 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Facebook/IM/Online “Game”: avoid it!I know many groups of girls who go from party to party, weekend to weekend, taking the exact same pic, with the exact same pose. "OOH LET'S take a pic of our group pose by the bar, Oo now by the chair, Oo by the street!' The purpose? To find the next profile pic that can make them look more attractive (yes, and to document the fun night with their besties) This is also why girls will l give you 4 different cameras and phones to take the picture even though they can instantly share it, bc they kn… | /r/seduction | 13/04/12 07:40 PM |
| 1 | Facebook/IM/Online “Game”: avoid it!Its a pdf and audio book on the internet. Im sure if you are internet savvy you will figure out how to get it. | /r/seduction | 13/04/12 07:29 PM |
| 2 | Movies like "The Notebook" have brainwashed men, ruining our success with women. Look at this example."We are a generation of men raised by women" | /r/seduction | 13/04/12 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Facebook/IM/Online “Game”: avoid it!Like everyone has said, its another tool in your tool box. Text and facebook game is here to stay for the rest of your life. The problem with online game is it is easy to appear needy. Also, you can't calibrate as well. However, as a guy who has been using online game since ICQ and AIM, I know that you can definitely build attraction, comfort, and sexual talk over online and text game. But, typically the problem is most guys will come off as needy. If you get super excited that she responded to … | /r/seduction | 13/04/12 03:51 PM |
| 2 | Facebook/IM/Online “Game”: avoid it!You should be aiming for responses like LOLLOL! OMG!!!!! You're such a dick ! LOL! Hahahhaha :-) if you aren't having convos that generate these responses you are likely having a logical boring conversation. Check out 10 second sexual attraction by mehow. While the program is designed for actual conversations, the information in it can directly be put to text game My advice is: Shorten your responses. Have more quips and witty silly funny responses. | /r/seduction | 13/04/12 03:42 PM |
| 4 | for all you guys worried about going out solo, DONT BE :)This is funny, but I find that the larger group of guys you roll out to the bars with, the more the purpose of going out is to pick up, rather than just have fun. after 2-3 guy friends the purpose becomes let's get as drunk as possible so we have the courage to meet women. | /r/seduction | 13/04/12 03:37 PM |
| 12 | for all you guys worried about going out solo, DONT BE :)When you are in a conversation with a stranger you can quickly make new friends and BAM, you are no longer alone. I used to be hesitant about going out alone, but then I realized whenever I go out with friends I want to branch out from our comfort circle anyways. If I go with a group of my guy friends i like to do a lap alone, or be on the outside of the main afc crystal, so I can sarge alone, but pull in a friend if I need a wing. Seriously, cutting down on the number of guys you roll with defi… | /r/seduction | 13/04/12 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Changed my "job," got a great response.Im a therapist | /r/seduction | 13/04/12 05:37 AM |
| 1 | great at general conversation how do i make it flirty and switch it to the topic of sex without coming off as a creeper??Ill also add: never have I ever 50/50 | /r/seduction | 12/04/12 08:53 PM |
| 1 | great at general conversation how do i make it flirty and switch it to the topic of sex without coming off as a creeper??10 second sexual attraction by Mehow has a bunch of examples and tips for this | /r/seduction | 12/04/12 08:52 PM |
| 2 | What was your biggest fail, and what did you learn from it?Ill add that its more than just showing up. Its taking shots (cue gretzky quote) Biggest fail: Any night that I went out with the goal of approaching a girl, not doing it (only socializing with friends) and then going home defeated, frustrated that friday/saturday was once again a week away. I spent several years barely making direct approaches, only using social circle game (which can work well during college). Alas, once you start doing direct approaches it becomes a lot more fun and isn't as … | /r/seduction | 12/04/12 08:43 PM |
| 5 | When asking a girl out.. (works great)I do the same. When the rapport and attraction is low ill put an invite out "we are going here to xxxx, you must come" (You can be very direct, but you might just get the, oh no we can't come). Sometimes she'll really open up or so interest that wasn't there before. If its midwarm or high you just go direct. Sometimes its wise to put up a layup to bait her into taking it, sometimes you gotta tell her she's doing it. Read and calibrate (err on the side of dominance). You can do the same for numbe… | /r/seduction | 12/04/12 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Changed my "job," got a great response.An (afc) friend of mine needs to learn this. He always drops the medical school/doctor line, but when he is drunk he'll drop it too hard (or afc wings drop it way too hard). While he can get good responses, it's SO MUCH BETTER when it comes out organically than from a boasting, "look at me" way (im afraid he might just continue to drop it harder and harder). He will likely marry the first attractive nurse that puts out for him. He has great PUA potential bc he sometimes can not give a single fuc… | /r/seduction | 12/04/12 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Awesome ways to get in-stateI'll second this. I do take fish oils as they have some proven science and definitely reduce joint pain/inflammation after a workout. | /r/seduction | 12/04/12 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Awesome ways to get in-stateBasically when you avoid doing little things you want to do. You don't want to push forward to the crowded bar, so you wait. You want a glass of water but avoid asking the bartender and order a beer instead. You want extra cheese on your chipotle burrito but feel you are taking too long so you hurry up. Basically when you are shrinking. instead expanding. | /r/seduction | 12/04/12 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Awesome ways to get in-stateIll second this. Or at least don't masturbate as much (try waiting till after the weekend). You'll find that you'll get aroused/sexual mood in more occasions than just hardcore visual porn. I gotta avoid reading the posts on r/sex bc sometimes the posts themselves are more arousing than r/nswf_gifs | /r/seduction | 12/04/12 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Awesome ways to get in-stateWhat I do: Take a nap/lay down for 20-40 mins before going out. Don't think about having to sarge tonight, just relax Listen to my In-State playlist. These are the songs that pump you up, you sing along. I love the songs: Bitches-by Hollywood Unread, Don't stop the music by Rhianna, Lose Yourself -by Eminem, etc Avoid Microavoidance behaviors: Do this the entire day. Caffeine. About 200mg works well for me. Enter house/pregame/happy hour and ENGAGE! Open your mouth and say something. The first w… | /r/seduction | 12/04/12 04:53 PM |
| 15 | Changed my "job," got a great response.Ted Mosby - Architect. But in all seriousness, EVERYONE must have something that can make ppl laugh when you tell them what you do. If you straight up just tell them what you do in a boring manner you are missing out on SO MUCH FLIRTING. I do all of my work in a cubical, so I have plenty of ways to tell that or make ppl laugh. I.e., I work in a cubical, but I switched my chair for a big bouncy ball I get paid to surf on facebook and the internet. I've seen the entire internet Id say in a given w… | /r/seduction | 12/04/12 04:26 PM |
| 3 | Changed my "job," got a great response.Hey, I know you're busy but you can always spend 30 minutes and sarge at the grocery store or Target whenever you need to go to those stores. Also, go to the bar for an hour or so and don't drink. | /r/seduction | 12/04/12 04:16 PM |
| 1 | "Given time, societal conventions can trump our natural self-interest." - Titantic vs Lusitania sinkingI just heard this on NPR and it made me think about how you can use instinct, or social order to your advantage (or disadvantage). For example, during an approach, you might get AMOGed or bitch shielded (instinct). But if you remain calm, unreactive, friendly, social conventions take over (as long as you AREN'T a social violator). This can be using social conventions to your benefit. Maybe you want to use instinct for your advantage? Act quick, on emotional points, isolated away from other peopl… | /r/seduction | 12/04/12 04:03 PM |
| 1 | The 3-second rule - a rule made to be broken?After reading your post about oogling the other day I actually just started to apply it. My logic is that some ppl get pleasure from just being voyeurs (thus why some ppl go to trendy bars, to look at attractive ppl). If I have no intention of approaching a girl, I wont grant myself the experience the pleasure from just watching an attractive person for an extended period. It makes me want to approach more. It helps break me out of AFCing early in the bar evening, where it can become easy to be … | /r/seduction | 11/04/12 08:07 PM |
| 1 | The 3-second rule - a rule made to be broken?As others have said, its more to help you jump out of the plane before the fear builds and your brain comes up with a reason not to do it. Of course as with anything, timing and logistics can be important. Maybe you want to wait until there is a better and easier opening break. Nevertheless, waiting, standing out alone, trying to build confidence can drop your value. I always suggest to be involved in a convo or doing something fun. | /r/seduction | 11/04/12 05:24 PM |
| 2 | The 3-second rule - a rule made to be broken?The "Chode crystal" -Tyler Durden They are "value scanning" | /r/seduction | 11/04/12 05:20 PM |
| 3 | Quicktips I find Important"How many girls have you fucked" "What do you make in a year?" | /r/seduction | 11/04/12 05:14 PM |
| 3 | Quicktips I find ImportantIt can be effectively used as an IOD, or a FTC However, don't do it because you feel the convo stall (they are getting bored). This usually brings to their consciousness that they want to leave and find a better environment that is more fun. | /r/seduction | 11/04/12 05:12 PM |
| 1 | I don't get it, I never see people meeting in publicType messages on your phone. | /r/seduction | 11/04/12 03:52 AM |
| 2 | A nice reminder: Be flirty, always. Anything could be a shit test.Yes exactly. You can recognize that the flirting is ON when a girl responds back to your quip with a zinger of her own. | /r/seduction | 11/04/12 01:45 AM |
| 0 | A nice reminder: Be flirty, always. Anything could be a shit test.Solid submission. The numerous examples posted are great for showing guys that you can (and should) be flirty WITH EVERYTHING. For people who go, "Ugh, why didn't I think of that before hand!" you just need to practice. Do it with everything and anyone. Hell, try saying funny comebacks to thoughts you have while watching TV. These funny quips are the VERY ESSENCE of flirting. For anyone looking for a good outline/breakdown of these types of elements, I strongly suggest 10 Second Sexual Attractio… | /r/seduction | 11/04/12 01:43 AM |
| 5 | I don't get it, I never see people meeting in publicYep. 99% of people wait for someone else to open. However, if the person opens, they are generally very receptive. It's similar to how you can be on a bus/airplane/bar stool/elevator/food service line next to a stranger and not say a single word to eachother, or you can acknowledge them and talk the entire time. When I was younger, I used to always go, "I never have anything to say, but if someone starts talking to me, I can talk with a stranger endlessly". Then I realized I do have things to sa… | /r/seduction | 10/04/12 04:16 AM |
| 2 | "Are you gay?" AMOG destroyerI call the guy a "bra". Its subtle and feminizing | /r/seduction | 09/04/12 08:38 PM |
| 4 | "Are you gay?" AMOG destroyerThis is also where AMOG strength comes from: His instant aggression towards you is a lot of the time a bluff, or only a 1 liner. He wants you to believe the girl is his and you'll get beaten up if you dont leave. Granted, you should be able to calibrate and notice the difference between a guy LOOKING for a fight, and an AMOG who is bluffing. | /r/seduction | 09/04/12 04:29 PM |
| 39 | "Are you gay?" AMOG destroyerLook, for everyone saying "you're lucky he didn't beat the shit out if you," I have to say this is very unlikely (although repeated touching is not needed, verbal would work). Even if he did want to fight, it is not likely at all that he would instantly throw a punch. Having seen many bar fights, they go through several stages: First, you get rude AMOG comments, bluffing and trying to dick swing/scare you off state. This is where unreative and positive friendly quips win out. Social and friendly… | /r/seduction | 09/04/12 04:24 PM |
| 8 | Simple trick to give your wingman some confidence when in fieldJokes aside, the lifting shirt for skin contact, and starting fingering from behind are excellent tips that work well (field tested) | /r/seduction | 09/04/12 05:20 AM |
| 10 | The 5 Second Countdown Habit for AATL;DR: Apply the 5 second rule to anything and everything you are hesitant about doing. (This really does help for approaches, because you learn to stop doing micro-avoidances in all other aspects of your life. Helps build social momentum and discipline.) | /r/seduction | 09/04/12 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Has pickup made you loose faith in women ?It has a ton of downvotes also, but you just can't see them without RES 54|40 right now. So yes, there are a lot of downvotes as well. | /r/seduction | 09/04/12 12:21 AM |
| 2 | Has pickup made you loose faith in women ?Because they read 1 comment that appears to have a misogynist attitude and ignore the 30 other comments that doesn't have that same attitude? And then they ignore the fact that the above comment is quite controversial with (at this time) 54upvotes to 40 downvotes? | /r/seduction | 09/04/12 12:19 AM |
| 3 | Has pickup made you loose faith in women ?Even if it's true, the salesman can make you hyper aware of this issue and tailor to their advantage anyway. | /r/seduction | 09/04/12 12:15 AM |
| 2 | Has pickup made you loose faith in women ?Well sometimes it's hard to tell the difference between Novelty accounts and people who just like to choose unique user names. Especially if the comments seems to imply a novelty account. | /r/seduction | 09/04/12 12:13 AM |
| 1 | 7 more TL;DRs to celebrate Seddit at 50k.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Expectancy_violations_theory | /r/seduction | 09/04/12 12:07 AM |
| 1 | 7 more TL;DRs to celebrate Seddit at 50k.I love the link for Violation Theory. Basically: If you violate social norms and rules, then other people are allowed to drop the norms also and blow you out. However, if you don't violate the rules, and they violate them, then they blow themselves out. Be friendly, nice, polite and unreactive, you typically don't violate rules and will be allowed to plow up to a certain extent. I've definitely seen it in field. Many times I've seen it play out is when a random guy comes up and starts talking to… | /r/seduction | 08/04/12 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Can we stop trying to help foreveralone now?True, I agree. I just had just read a lot of really disturbing posts on Reddit in the last day and was somewhat venting. | /r/seduction | 08/04/12 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Can we stop trying to help foreveralone now?And right below I mention how awesome Redditors can be. | /r/seduction | 08/04/12 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Can we stop trying to help foreveralone now?You're probably right. Just, sometimes trolls are the loudest voices. Also, a thread can have way different types of posts upvoted until it hits a threshold audience or the front page. | /r/seduction | 08/04/12 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Can we stop trying to help foreveralone now?I don't care if someone enjoys starcraft and is happy sitting home all day. Shit, I love Counterstrike with all my heart. I love a funny awkward penguin meme. What makes me sad is people the ppl who constantly complain about things in their posts who then never want to improve their lives. Or when a "girl" posts on Reddit, and the creepy stalkerish posts get upvoted, or the white knights come out. | /r/seduction | 08/04/12 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Oh hey seddit, girl here. How do /I/ seduce men?The same seduction tactics can be applied to men as well. Kino and displaying your interest to him is a lot of of it (lets face it, many men are clueless about when a girl is into him). If you can recognize when a man is attracted to you, and help push him along the attraction, that will do wonders. | /r/seduction | 08/04/12 12:16 AM |
| 10 | Can we stop trying to help foreveralone now?Yep, 100% agree. Also, keep in mind that a good part of Reddit seems to be full of socially awkward males, who would rather complain about their current situation in life than make active (and sometimes difficult) choices to improve themselves. One of the things I hate/love about Reddit is that you can find like minded people. This can lead to personal growth, but it also lead to people becoming stagnant, as someone with a lot of self hate can find encouragement from other self haters. While I'm… | /r/seduction | 07/04/12 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Game Against Alpha JoeI feel the same way as your bf. I go out to have a good time and don't care for ppl trying to have a pissing contest to try to boost their ego by bringing others down. The reason he gets upset is because he knows that ppl don't need to act like that, and its much better to bring value than take it. My advice for him is to just acknowledge the shitty things ppl do in the world, but focus on the good that does exist. Negativity breeds negativity. | /r/seduction | 05/04/12 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Game Against Alpha JoeMant AMOG fights are won/lost with either: The aggressor gets the defended to become reactionary, or just give up. The defender defuses the attacks with high emotional value comebacks (you dont win with logic alone!) Or dodges punches long enough that the aggressor looks like a tool | /r/seduction | 05/04/12 07:00 PM |
| 5 | Game Against Alpha JoeIn my experience, I can usually tell/feel the difference when a guy is being interested vs when they are trying to AMOG you. It's a feeling, and typically occurs when you do something that makes the other person feel threatened (subconsciously). Can be as simple as starting a conversation with their sister, hitting on a girl they like, or stepping up to lead a group. This does exist. Though, 9/10, the battle doesn't occur (one side never fights or gives up instantly) or ends after a few words. T… | /r/seduction | 05/04/12 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Game Against Alpha JoeRemember: Guys use logic to try to out game eachother, and girls respond to emotion. If you are in a situation where a guy is aggressively challenging you with a logical conversation: Don't feel the need to always answer just bc they asked Answer, but not the question they asked Turn the conversation to emotional: use humor, fun, etc to move off topic. The observers are looking to see how you respond emotionally to the challenge. Alpha guys are good at using the logical traps to get you to fuck … | /r/seduction | 05/04/12 06:43 PM |
| 2 | AMA request- naturalsThe naturals I've met and seen have this in common: They don't feel constrained by the invisible social boundaries/rules that we all fear breaking. They just act and l know thay these social fences never really existed in the first place. If they do get a bad reaction, they shrug it off, remove any negative feeling and continue. | /r/seduction | 05/04/12 04:58 PM |
| 2 | How to Sit like a BadassI agree, but sometimes ppl seek comfort bc they are uncomfortable in the situation (stress relief). Learning/noticing the difference helps! As I posted above, I used to always put my hands in my pockets bc "I noticed I was cold". Well, i realized the reason I noticed I "was cold" (even though I had them outside my pockets for many minutes beforehand) is that the some situation would make me uncomfortable and id notice allthe uncomfortable feelings in my body. | /r/seduction | 05/04/12 04:47 PM |
| 1 | How to Sit like a BadassI second this. When you foot that is draping your leg is facing towards her it is more natural to lean/face in that direction (like if you were twisting), and makes it easier to roll on top of her if you start fooling around on a couch. Otherwise, you can get an odd contortion if you are trying to talk to her next to you on the opposite side | /r/seduction | 05/04/12 04:42 PM |
| 1 | The Alpha Bitch"It's after 6 o'clock Lemon. What am I, a farmer?" | /r/seduction | 05/04/12 02:33 AM |
| 16 | How to Sit like a BadassNotice how expansive his wing span is. As for the crossing legs tightly/not tightly. I feel its a matter of comfort and however you shouldnt be tightly closed because insecurity. A key point in these pics is to have your body comfortable. I have had guys try to amog me for crossing my legs "like a girl" and that "that has to hurt my nuts". I reply calmly, "im comfortable like this" (I think I like it bc I can feel the warmth from my legs when they are together. Then again, when im out, I sometim… | /r/seduction | 04/04/12 10:09 PM |
| 0 | The Alpha BitchI agree with you. When im at the bar I screen for good leads. Flirty fun girls. Ppl who are like me, enjoying life. So I don't waste my time on bad leads. of course, when options are limited (such as a house party), im more inclined to give girls a second chance to impress me. Alas, you can still hook up with someone who don't like, but you probably wont hook up with someone you hate. I think you were smart by giving her a second chance , and then moved on to other prospects. | /r/seduction | 04/04/12 06:32 PM |
| 5 | The Alpha BitchIll agree with this. In moments like this, everyone will all say, "wait, you hated that person too? I thought it was just me!" | /r/seduction | 04/04/12 06:20 PM |
| 17 | The Alpha BitchI agree. There is a difference between an alpha and some one with a huge ego. However: having a big ego can often make someone appear/act alpha on the surface. Infact, many ppl who appear to alphas in the group are ppl with huge egos and others just let them take an alpha position. True alphas bring value. Fake ones will take it from others. | /r/seduction | 04/04/12 06:18 PM |
| 22 | The Alpha BitchMy experience with Alpha Bitches (or more like insecure ppl with an overwhelming sense of entitlement): Note: This type of person exists for both males and females. Its their hugely inflated ego that you have to work with. This person has learned that if they push with enough force, they can do what they want most of the time, bc guys are constantly supplicating to them. Living in a fraternity house, these girls go from room to room demanding drinks. If you say, oh no more, they'll grab it anywa… | /r/seduction | 04/04/12 06:10 PM |
| 0 | How do you hook up with people at parties?I've had sex on the bathroom floor, my car, and the honors dorm study room. Any place you can get privacy will work. | /r/seduction | 03/04/12 03:07 PM |
| 1 | What are some things I should do on a getting to know you type coffee date to escalate?Always choose a square table, sit next to eachother on the corners | /r/seduction | 02/04/12 08:53 PM |
| 2 | saw a girl in the library ive been trying to talk to, what is the best way to get her to study with me?Askseddit | /r/seduction | 02/04/12 08:51 PM |
| 2 | "The Game - the movie" (based off Neil Strauss's book) now has an empty Imdb page. Question is, how far will this go and how will it impact the PUA community?Even after the movie I still see a lot of AFCs still being chodes. They might spit a few canned lines at the the bar, but they will not have the balls to keep with it, or do more than a few very awkward approaches. They wont naturally converse with ppl | /r/seduction | 02/04/12 08:47 PM |
| 7 | It's getting hard to sort the good content (FRs, PUA material) from the shit (very specific questions, people asking opinions). If you have a question, go to r/askseddit.Fittit does this on Mondays and it works great. I suggest this day as well, especially as ppl might have questions from the weekend. | /r/seduction | 02/04/12 03:39 PM |
| 1 | how i make exchanging numbers fun for girlsA big thing to pick up out of this: When you get their number, give them your number through a text! You can start the callback humor, as well as people tend to look at their text message list more than their missed call list (if you were to call them to give them your number). | /r/seduction | 02/04/12 02:19 AM |
| 20 | how i make exchanging numbers fun for girlsAs a flirtatious guy, my field experience has shown me that many many women will allow you to put your arm around them after they start to like you and you make the kino natural/comfortable feeling. | /r/seduction | 02/04/12 02:17 AM |
| 1 | [FR] K-close and ConfidenceLots of physical escalation without sexual escalation can lead to the "are you gay?" Do some more sexually temping physical escalation: pull on the back on the hair, ass squeeze/slap, etc. Sexually suggestive conversational topics can also do this. | /r/seduction | 02/04/12 12:57 AM |
| 21 | A better way to look at your chances of rejectionThe club/bar is a FUCKING JOKE. Nothing matters tomorrow. Hell, did anything that you did last weekend at the bar impact your life at all? No. So, remember this if you are wallflowering at the bar bar tomorrow. | /r/seduction | 30/03/12 03:20 AM |
| 1 | The 3 FearsThe 60 years of challenge ebook (part 3 &4) could be very helpful for explaining sexual guilt, etc. It can be a little harsh, but its solid. Vin dicarlo kino escalation ladder. Beyond words by lovesystems also has some sexual escalation demonstrations | /r/seduction | 29/03/12 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Quit nodding your head down | Generation NihilismSolid analysis. I second this. | /r/seduction | 29/03/12 07:57 PM |
| 3 | Just some classic Wygant that hit home today...Here is a concept for qualifying: Whoever is talking is usually qualifying. So when you get the girl to open up and start talking: SHUT UP. Want to match her story with a related one? SHUT UP Thinking of what to say next? SHUT UP YOUR INNER VOICE. JUST LISTEN I tested this yesterday, and it was amazing how the girl kept filling in the conversation where id typically join in. So easy, and I got to learn a lot about her from her just doing the talking. | /r/seduction | 29/03/12 06:40 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Successfully used the "He's Not Coming" opener from Barney Stinson's Playbook, got called out on being a PUA, and still got the girl :)Many ppl are self centered/selfish. When they aren't in in the party or fun, some would rather have everyone not having a good time than only some of them. I've seen it plenty of times with guys, who fight over a girl and try to blow it up for everyone than just let a friend get the girl who wasn't interested in them anyways. Petty stuff. We all have child like qualities, both good and bad. | /r/seduction | 29/03/12 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Direct game and less than pretty girlsI agree with ignore the past. This can also apply to the girl at the bar you have been looking at for 10 mins (or a house party, group dinner etc) Ignore the past, you are starting NOW. You don't want to bring up the past, as they might then experience negative feelings from your AFCing. | /r/seduction | 28/03/12 04:44 PM |
| 2 | 7 unique TL;DRs.When my attention opens up to other people instead of the speaker? Damn you loose vs lose! :-) | /r/seduction | 28/03/12 02:06 PM |
| 3 | 7 unique TL;DRs.Yeah I get ya. Many people won't upvote a good post, but a feel good post will get lots of upvotes. I guess people upvote what matches them, and at this point a lot of people are at the beginner stage. /r/fitness has the same problem sometimes. Makes me wonder if an advanced seddit would be beneficial, or maybe some more targeted posts brought on by the moderators. | /r/seduction | 28/03/12 03:25 AM |
| 3 | 7 unique TL;DRs.Got a link for the DIY instructions? (if available) | /r/seduction | 28/03/12 03:19 AM |
| 3 | 7 unique TL;DRs.Do your part and help post good stuff. | /r/seduction | 28/03/12 03:15 AM |
| 1 | okay. Can I actually have a platonic female best friend?I have platonic female friends. However, every once in a while when they are super drunk they will try to kiss me (and I'm sure I've started hitting on them, but I always stop myself doing anything past a little sexual flirting). Definitely have turned them down several times over the years, and steered them towards a guy they should bang. | /r/seduction | 28/03/12 03:13 AM |
| 3 | 7 unique TL;DRs.For telling interesting stories, briefing the other person with a suspensful TL:DR is a GREAT idea. SMALLER BITES! I think we ALL have a friend who tells the worst stories, mainly because they emphasize all the unimportant background crap, loosing our attention so the climax doesn't hit right. | /r/seduction | 27/03/12 10:37 PM |
| 3 | Answer to this shit test: "Is this a date?"-sly smile | /r/seduction | 27/03/12 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Guys, I just did it, my third direct approachKeep it up. In university I never did direct approaches because I used social circle game (and it made me fearfully nervous), and it definitely set me back. Now post college I gotta do direct at the bars and it was like learning a whole new skill set | /r/seduction | 26/03/12 10:58 PM |
| 4 | What to answer to girl who says shes really good in bed?I use "respect" and then give a fist bump all the time. Works excellently | /r/seduction | 26/03/12 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Sunday Reflection. What did you learn this week?Thoughts from this weekend: Make eye contact with everyone. If you arrive early enough (and are not shit faced), you actually start recognizing people as they do laps. Use this to your advantage with openers. It also helps cut down the bar's craziness, as you get a mental organization of the bar's patrons. When the bar is empty or it's still early, it is good to go around and open people (doing a "lap"). However, once the bar gets really flowing, it can be AWESOME to just find a high traffic are… | /r/seduction | 26/03/12 01:33 AM |
| 6 | Sunday Reflection. What did you learn this week?I've posted it every sunday for the past month or so. :-) | /r/seduction | 26/03/12 01:22 AM |
| 2 | "You always wear the same clothes"I would also suggest r/frugalmalefashion I got a pair of dark unwashed jeans from H&M for $20. I get complements on them all the time, and the way they look on the surface is the same as a pair of $200 APCs. | /r/seduction | 25/03/12 08:04 PM |
| 1 | [FR] - Don't blow yourself out and break those limiting beliefs. F-Close HB-9 with fabulous tits.If you escalate, you'll learn how good it feels when the hot girl you are talking to leans into you, touches your chest, or flirtateously flips her hair. | /r/seduction | 23/03/12 06:20 AM |
| 2 | Alternatives to bars and clubs for people who can't tolerate the typical "bar and club" music?There's a dueling piano bar in my town that's popular. Some wine bars can also get popping. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Conveying Sexual Intent Early On: How to Avoid the FriendzoneAs for the statue of the Michelangelo, I LOVE this. Get it from Cajun in beyond words by love systems? The stance is kinda like the footing if you were going to box. One foot in front of the other. Open legs. And turned at a 45 degreeish angle towards person you are talking to. Weight on back fooT. It adds depth to your frame, and also gives you stability. Plus, its harder for you to get pushed backwards at a crowded place. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 02:24 PM |
| 3 | Conveying Sexual Intent Early On: How to Avoid the FriendzoneI have GTasks on my phone with a short list (3 things) I want to accomplish/do when im outcome in field. Ill read it before I go out, or so ill see it whenever I check my phone. My current list is: KINO Don't eject quickly! Sly smile | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 02:19 PM |
| 4 | What are some things on game you've heard and then later discovered are false?I'll agree with others and say IOIs, while initially were helpful, eventually became more unnecessary (and sometimes you can drive yourself crazy interpreting every little action as an IOI or IOD). Also, you sometimes someone is really attracted to you without giving you any IOI's. Instead of focusing on just "OMG did she just touch her hair?", what became important was focusing on the entire conversation, the OVERALL sense I got (and to press on anyways). Sometimes you need to step back to see … | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 11:53 PM |
| 5 | [FR] Fingerblasting a girl within a minute of meeting herSpring break and other random trips. When people visit mexico, they tend to forget that they have laws. Stuff like this LOL this was a pic a guy I knew took with my camera (picture is not of me), and totally noticed it about a year later. People doing coke on bar tables. People having sex at foam parties, in the foam. Also, I've definitely pulled what you did, albeit it was at a house party in high school. Fucked her on the bathroom floor later that night LOL. Tend to think of it, it also was du… | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 11:42 PM |
| 4 | [FR] Fingerblasting a girl within a minute of meeting herAhhhh that makes me think of Mexico... So much dirty crap happening in plain sight. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 10:22 PM |
| 1 | [FR] This is a mini-FR but it's mostly a Thank You to this subreddit, which I admittedly was bitter towards for a long time. But I get it now.Ill second this. It's for people with an unhealthy sense of entitlement. Also, its fair to use on guys and girls alike. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 10:19 PM |
| 4 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?It's on 14.mp3, 47 minutes. Really good and funny segment The gist is, comfort and dislike of change. if they say they want to learn pick up, then they would have to admit to theirself that they arent good at it. Also, guys spend a lot of time bonding by "talking about girls", but not actually doing anything with them (Damn she's fine! Id hit that). | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 09:01 PM |
| 8 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?For me, these materials gave me various epiphanies The Game by Neil Straus: Initial paradigm shift. Opened my eyes to social dynamics and the matrix of socialization. The idea of an underlying order and dance to socializing and pick up. Learn the dance, master the dance. The Mystery Method: The Game, but in a cliff notes/study guide type style. Got an intro idea about the stages people go through from Open to Sex Vin Dicarlo Escalation Ladder - Different types of kino, how touch is used and the … | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 07:20 PM |
| 10 | There's so much PUA material out there what would you rank as the MUST-reads/watch?I listen to it about once a year, or a segment once a month. Each time I get more from it. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Social Momentum: Why You MUST Go OutAs someone who visits target a lot, the $1 section at the front of the store has girls stopping at it all the time... and the wide range of random things is golden for openers. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 06:23 PM |
| 2 | Weekday day game?If you live in the suburbs, find a large food/shopping center. If they have a Chipotle, Starbucks, etc, I'm sure there will be people there. Because I'm a Chipotle addict, I'll sometimes end up there before it opens at 11:00, and sure enough there are other people waiting outside I can talk to. For grocery stores, I'd suggest Whole Foods. Try to think of places that good looking women would visit throughout the week. Lol, stop by a gas station on the way home. You really never know. Also, take t… | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 02:28 AM |
| 4 | Social Momentum: Why You MUST Go OutIn the Blueprint, Tyler says that he noticed that naturals go into state far more often than most people, enter it quite easily, and stay in it for longer. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 02:20 AM |
| 38 | Social Momentum: Why You MUST Go OutFor anyone who says "Well, I have work early in the morning...." The field is more than the bars and clubs (although they are target rich). Stop by a Starbucks on your way home, or a happy hour. I go to a popular food center/shopping area every day during my work lunch. Anyone who is in university are lucky, just go out to the main mall. Also, sometimes it's fun to go out mid week. You'd be surprised on the amount of ppl that might go to a concert, and if you don't drink heavily, you'll survive … | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 12:17 AM |
| 1 | Any Advice for an AFC trying to develop his game?Also, it's a lifelong journey. You can grow by leaps and bounds in a short time, but it should be something to improve on throughout the rest of your life. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Ranking the best holidays for pickup. My listIf you get a chance, go to Newport Beach or San Diego for 4th of July.... I've had an amazing time during the entire weekend (lol, probably why I listed it so highly) | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Ranking the best holidays for pickup. My listA friend of mine has done this with an RVCA shirt he has. While he has been quite successful while wearing the shirt recently, confirmation bias definitely plays into it, as well as settling for some lesser quality gals. But props still on his streak. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 07:48 PM |
| 49 | Advice from an experienced, natural 68 year old man. Never divorced with a wife who is still dreamy-eyed for him.I wanted to add something about controling emotions: Nearly any fight I had with my ex gf, I eventually would loose control of my emotions due to frustration. She often would be very mad and still say "omg this isnt a big deal why are you upset?' (Knowing full well that by playing dumb that "she wasn't upset" would just further piss me off). It was a HUGE frustration trigger for me when she'd be yelling and claim that "I was the one who was mad". Only when I calmed down would I gain the upper ha… | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 03:53 PM |
| 1 | A Sunday Reflection Thread: What did you learn this week?I love clubs because if the convo runs dry, you can go back into dance mode and then restart whenever. what I learned though, is it important to know a few quieter areas for rapport building. I just sometimes forget to do a move to the other areas. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 02:12 PM |
| 2 | A Sunday Reflection Thread: What did you learn this week?Next time she's on facebook (online for chat), post on her wall about something. If she is immediately responds, continue wall topic on chat, then plan a meetup and go for #. Works for me. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 02:08 PM |
| 1 | [FR] I can't believe how well this is working... AmazingGreat FR! As for the AA, even Neil Strauss says he STILL gets AA (same with Tyler Durden). When Tyler is approaching a set, he says he clears is mind and the only three thoughts are allowed when approaching: OH LET'S SEE IF SHE'S COOL LET'S EXPAND OUT THIS PARTY LET'S ASK HER A QUESTION For myself, I have to say that it never really goes away completely (although, it can change based on situational conditions). What you can do, is get better at just saying Welp, this sucks, Fuck it, lets go. My … | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 03:22 AM |
| 3 | Why are most PUA against drinking/drugs?Drinking can be a great time. And for some occasions, getting really drunk is quite fun! However.... What I find, is that often when you are drinking, and you allow yourself to enter state, and you associate being "in-state" with being drunk. When you discover that you can enter "state" when you are less drunk, it can be just as fun! Especially when you also realize that when you drink you start slurring your words, or mixing up your phrases, having a harder time being as witty. Go to a bar sobe… | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 03:07 AM |
| 6 | [FR] Absolutely epic night. Four-way with porn star, crime scene investigator & ex-cheerleader MILFThis is so true. In my experience, I have success when I just open my fucking mouth and say/do what is in my head, and I will fail/not approach when I don't do anything. Each weekday and weekend I get better at just "going for it" (unless I'm on MDMA, oh lord) when things pop in my head, but I'm still holding back, especially when I'm out of state. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 02:49 AM |
| 6 | Using lucid dreaming to practice seduction?I've done pick up in dreams before. However, the other person's responses isn't based on them... it's based on you, as it's in your brain. So sure, you can create a person, walk up to them and say hi, and before you know it they are taking off their pants (you can also have them slap you and scream at you). While dreaming is fun, remember it's you that is the other person, so thus RL is much better. But that doesn't mean you couldn't use imagination and dreaming for fun meditation/confidence bui… | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 02:39 AM |
| 1 | A Sunday Reflection Thread: What did you learn this week?I used to drink monster, but instead I got these I'll take 1 or 2 throughout the evening and it works great. Far cheaper, more effective, and doesn't fill my stomach up with alcohol. I only take them on Friday/Saturdays, or if I'm going out on a random day (so it isn't a daily thing). | /r/seduction | 18/03/12 11:59 PM |
| 4 | A Sunday Reflection Thread: What did you learn this week?Over the weekend, I definitely noticed how proxemics play out during conversation. The overriding theme for how close someone gets to you is determined by a variety of factors, such as comfort, environmental situation, and attraction. Furthermore, if you instantly bounce to a new location (i.e, ANY location outside of the initial opening area, the person will instantly be more comfortable with being closer to you). An image of proxemics | /r/seduction | 18/03/12 07:06 PM |
| 3 | My review of the Simple Pickup guys and Tyler Durden (RSD) after having seen both in field during the past weekIll second denver as well as Scottsdale az, and Vegas of course. | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 09:07 PM |
| 8 | My review of the Simple Pickup guys and Tyler Durden (RSD) after having seen both in field during the past weekI just wanted to remind ppl that Tyler has repeated said that anyone can learn this. He doesn't believe he is "cut from a different cloth". We all can learn these social skills ! | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 09:03 PM |
| 6 | [FR] TofuTofu & TheEngDude pick up two 20 year olds in Pizzeria -> f-closed 'em both like bossesI'll second this. If the guys are goodlooking enough and you hit a stumble point, the girls themselves might open the guys and branch off before you have a chance to cement yourself into their graces. | /r/seduction | 16/03/12 03:27 AM |
| 2 | Seddit, my ex wants to see me for coffee tonight... What do?For me, I ended up dating her for another 4-5 months, and in the end I realized (as I realized before I started it up again) that "WE BROKE UP FOR A REASON". | /r/seduction | 15/03/12 02:48 AM |
| 15 | AFC Friends are preventing me from ApproachingIf they don't prop you up, they are pulling you down. Go out alone. Have a different social sarging circle. Or learn to not give a fuck and boost your inner game enough that their downvotes don't effect you. Also, reverse that shit. Call them lil bitches/pussies when they don't make approaches. /hatersgonnahate | /r/seduction | 15/03/12 02:47 AM |
| 3 | Forcing Momentum: How to get over approach apathyThis phenomenon is the same as when you get tired of going to the gym. Sometimes, you gotta take a break and do a new activity (find a new venue), sometimes it's great to get a new workout partner (wingman), and sometimes you just gotta suck it up and work out (push through it). | /r/seduction | 15/03/12 02:43 AM |
| 1 | It's Sunday: What did you learn this week?I relearned: the importance of having a smirk/smile on your face rather than a neutral emotion. Really does help conversations flow, especially when combined with small nods (if they are talking). | /r/seduction | 11/03/12 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Sometimed /b/tards give the best advice. Got this off of 4chan...Best seduction guide I have ever seen.I remember my history teacher in high school getting telling us how offended she was when a guy did this to her. Granted it was a first date and he didn't know what she liked. He just ordered her meal . | /r/seduction | 09/03/12 09:01 PM |
| 1 | The hivemind doesn't think too highly of usYep. Also, imagine the response of reddit if the panels overall stance on pickup was positive? Ppl like xkcd, so they will tend to support its view before they form their own opinion. | /r/seduction | 09/03/12 06:34 PM |
| 1 | The hivemind doesn't think too highly of usI feel ya... but maybe its good to also learn not to give a fuck. Stupid ppl annoy me but sometimes I just gotta give up. Especially to randoms on the internet. | /r/seduction | 09/03/12 06:31 PM |
| 2 | The hivemind doesn't think too highly of usThis happens everytime. Forget about the ppl who are ignorant. The one major thing I took from The Game was that socializing is a skill that can be improved. Look, we know that our goal is to improve our social abilities and confidence in all walks of life. We are improving ourselves and others choose to be an insecure person. | /r/seduction | 09/03/12 06:29 PM |
| 5 | "You try too hard to 1. get people to like you 2. be funny." I need to fix this, and I want your help.Any recommendations for some good ones to listen to? | /r/seduction | 07/03/12 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Ladies/gentlemen of seddit: I'm a woman who would like your advice on how to get asked out more.Initate conversations and be the one to keep them going. TOUCH! | /r/seduction | 06/03/12 04:07 PM |
| 1 | How do you have open and inviting body language?Mehow's get the girl ebook has a good section on open body language when approaching. | /r/seduction | 05/03/12 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Went to a college party, horrible time, I had some questions."Situational confidence" | /r/seduction | 04/03/12 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Went to a college party, horrible time, I had some questions.Definitely a good idea to expand your comfort zone! | /r/seduction | 04/03/12 10:08 PM |
| 8 | Sunday Reflection Thread: What did you learn this weekend?I rediscovered how important it is to talk to everyone in a group, including the guys. Talking to some of the dudes in the group helped me warm up, enter state easier, and meet some cool people! | /r/seduction | 04/03/12 10:01 PM |
| 11 | How I Destroyed Daytime AAHigh fives are for anyone. I see people do it naturally all the time when there is an excited agreement reached. Yes. Even the elderly. | /r/seduction | 01/03/12 04:05 PM |
| 1 | It's Sunday... So what did you learn this weekend?Trying to force state is definitely a state killer. Sometimes you just gotta roll with the fact that you are out of it, and then all of a sudden BLAM you are back into state. | /r/seduction | 26/02/12 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Hi guys, not looking to troll the Seddit community but have been looking around and have been kind of disgusted by some of the sexism, the objectification of women.The vast majority of Seddit is about improving ourselves to be the best person we can be. | /r/seduction | 26/02/12 05:39 PM |
| 4 | It's Sunday... So what did you learn this weekend?I've recently been trying to drink less when I go out. When I went out this weekend I only had 3 beers during the pregame (drank them pretty quickly)... However, soon after I finished drinking them, I ended up getting tired an hour or so later in the field. Next time I'm either not going to drink, or drink them slower. Also, a Friday early evening nap for a few hours would be beneficial. Nothing more I hate than getting into field, and yawning like crazy at 11:30PM (I wake up at 6:30 am every da… | /r/seduction | 26/02/12 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Seddit's Most Recommended: Books, Videos, and WebsitesI actually like Mehow's Get The Girl, and 10 Second Sexual Attraction. The Mystery Method, as well as Venusian Arts -Revelations have some good content as well. | /r/seduction | 25/02/12 07:53 AM |
| 6 | Seddit, what are your favorite places to go out alone and meet new people?Well, for being the most popular store in the united states, you'll find all types of people. Including some women who will meet your standards. They need to buy shampoo and basic items too. | /r/seduction | 25/02/12 07:50 AM |
| 9 | Seddit, what are your favorite places to go out alone and meet new people?Im in the process of finding places that aren't bars. Right now any place where ppl shop seems to work (mall, walmart, bookstore) | /r/seduction | 25/02/12 01:15 AM |
| 0 | Advice on getting AFC friends to support PU/become wings?http://lmgtfy.com/?q=blueprint+decoded+torrent | /r/seduction | 24/02/12 03:59 AM |
| 1 | How old is she? Any guides/links to help knowing someone's age?Yeah basically Elbows are really something that shows a lot of wrinkles as they age... | /r/seduction | 24/02/12 03:56 AM |
| 1 | How old is she? Any guides/links to help knowing someone's age?I've actually found that the back of the elbows is a good guide to show age... albeit it's a better indicator the older someone is. | /r/seduction | 23/02/12 06:14 PM |
| 3 | Advice on getting AFC friends to support PU/become wings?This is what I've found when introducing people to seduction: The vast major of guys go, "Yeah, I don't need that", or "That shit doesn't work/can't work". Especially if you try to get them to read "The Game" However, if you slyly teach them these things, such as just giving them basic knowledge of body language (from a, hey check this out), or call them out on being wallflowers etc, they are more likely to become involved/improve. If you have downloaded the Blueprint by RSD, check out 14.mp3, a… | /r/seduction | 23/02/12 04:26 PM |
| 3 | Advice on getting AFC friends to support PU/become wings?Use peer pressure. | /r/seduction | 23/02/12 04:22 PM |
| 2 | I keep putting myself out there but I'm just too shy and quiet.Some drills I'm currently doing: Building eye contact confidence Everyday I go out after work and bike ride/walk. I make eye contact with all the drivers heading towards me. At rush hour, you can get desensitized really easily. I am also trying to make eye contact with anyone I meet out in the field... Now, the field can be as simple as going to a random Walmart and browsing the isles. Try this with old people, they are generally unthreatening and will make eye contact back with you. The field i… | /r/seduction | 23/02/12 04:00 PM |
| 1 | A Short Beginners' Guide to Seduction (Probably all you need to get started!)For the most part, I don't like people submitting links to their own blogspam. If it's good info, then maybe someone who isn't the author will submit a link on their own. | /r/seduction | 22/02/12 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Perpetually out of state. Lacking motivation to practice my game. How do you get motivated?You'll go through phases. I read the game in winter of 2007-2008. Since then, my interest has peaked and fallen several times (especially during relationships). But, for me, I personally find social dynamics very exciting (also, I like to party with friends). I often get renewed in the spring, peak during the summer, and wane by mid fall. It is definitely like going to the gym.. Some days I just don't want to go, and you have to push through it. Or, sometimes I'll switch my routine from running … | /r/seduction | 21/02/12 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Sunday Reflection Thread - What did you learn this weekend?Once you know a bar well, you'll know the "high traffic areas". Obviously, this tactic works well when the bar has a good amount of people in it. Also, have fun! You'll find that people actually gravitate towards the areas with the most value, "the warm area of the pool" idea. | /r/seduction | 20/02/12 02:58 PM |
| 1 | What was the single most useful thing in your life to improving to improving your game?Some people find this through: Mediation, therapy, MDMA, mushrooms/LSD, or just acknowledging your fears/weaknesses/strengths. Being Honest with yourself. | /r/seduction | 20/02/12 02:55 PM |
| 2 | What was the single most useful thing in your life to improving to improving your game?For me, what helped was redefining meditation as : Being in the moment, or "Mindfulness" (search on reddit for that). "Allowing the water to settle so you can see beneath the waves". Instead of constantly listening to the voice in your head, allowing it to stop talking and just being in the environment outside of yourself. Another person helped with this: Slow down, Breathe, Relax, Have Fun. There's a thread about this somewhere. | /r/seduction | 20/02/12 02:52 PM |
| 2 | What was the single most useful thing in your life to improving to improving your game?http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Microexpression -Microexpressions: fleeting subconscious expressions of emotion that people make, most often outside their own knowledge. http://www.scribd.com/doc/52564138/4/MICRoLooP-THEoRY-BASICS -It's a way of explaining a conversation thread between people, where sentences/movements/kino etc are broken down into small pieces, or loops. | /r/seduction | 20/02/12 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Shit pick-up Artists say.Buying temperature. | /r/seduction | 20/02/12 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Bought audio recorder, analyzed interactions; found sticking points.What thing did you use to record? where'd you place it. | /r/seduction | 20/02/12 03:49 AM |
| 12 | What was the single most useful thing in your life to improving to improving your game?For me, these materials gave me various epiphanies (and in the order that I would suggest them): The Game by Neil Straus: Initial paradigm shift.Opened my eyes to social dynamics and the matrix of socialization. The idea of an underlying order and dance to socializing and pick up. Learn the dance, master the dance. The Mystery Method: The Game, but in a cliff notes/study guide type style. Got an intro idea about the stages people go through from Open to Sex Vin Dicarlo Escalation Ladder - Differ… | /r/seduction | 20/02/12 03:46 AM |
| 2 | Sunday Reflection Thread - What did you learn this weekend?It can be really easy to get into state, however, you can easily fall out of it. If you fall out of state, whatever, just push through and take the opportunity to jump back into it. For me, I fall out of state when I don't follow my "instincts", and get left with a feeling of "ugh, I should have done this/that". | /r/seduction | 20/02/12 02:56 AM |
| 1 | Sunday Reflection Thread - What did you learn this weekend?I also find that when I post up, I get a better sense of the people in the bar. I'll remember faces, especially if people end up passing by me several times throughout the night. | /r/seduction | 20/02/12 02:54 AM |
| 3 | Guys, it works (FR#3)It's amazing how you can be out of state for a good portion of the night, but when you see an opening and TAKE IT ON IMPULSE, everything switches in your body. (There has to be some biological influence on it, kinda like how if you are relaxed and driving, and then suddenly see cop lights, BOOM you're awake). I like how you mentioned doing a lap. Sometimes when I'm out of state, staying in the same environment breeds resistance, so I'll take a lap to the dance floor when a good song comes on, an… | /r/seduction | 19/02/12 08:10 PM |
| 1 | [STUDY] Nonverbal Courtship Patterns in WomenWhen she's checking you out: The glancing behavior called the type II glance (the short darting glance) was asolicitation behavior that appeared directed at a particular man. The woman directed hergaze at the man, then quickly away (within 3 seconds). The target axis of the horizontalrotation of the head was approximately 25-45 degrees. This behavior was usuallyrepeated in bouts, with three glances the average number per bout | /r/seduction | 18/02/12 09:53 PM |
| 2 | [STUDY] Eye Contact, Intimacy, and Physical ProximityLOL | /r/seduction | 18/02/12 09:47 PM |
| 3 | Why is Pickup so fucking frustrating and depressing? What is my problem? Why am I SO scared?Once you move, don't get trapped into the same habits. It's wonderful to get the "FUCK IT I"M LEAVING THIS PLACE" feeling, but once you settle into your new environment, it's easy to return to old habits. | /r/seduction | 18/02/12 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Why is Pickup so fucking frustrating and depressing? What is my problem? Why am I SO scared?Been there... still there.... But.. you'll find that resistance only breeds resistance. TOUCH as soon as the thought enters your head. Start with the smallest kino. Use the back of your hand to touch the back of their hand, or shoulder etc. Don't look to be instantly giving people hugs, instead, look to make small, fading touches while talking with your hands. | /r/seduction | 18/02/12 06:43 PM |
| 6 | [STUDY] Nonverbal Courtship Patterns in WomenDecided to order the image in most frequently done. That might be helpful for people learning about IOI's, so you can detect the most obvious to least performed. ** Facial/Head Patterns** smile 511 room encompassing glance 253 short darting glance 222 laugh 249 hair flip 139 gaze fixate 117 head toss 102 head nod 66 giggle 61 whisper 60 neck presentation 58 lip lick 48 pout 27 coy smile 20 face to face 9 kiss 6 eyebrow flash 4 lipstick apply 1 ** Gestures** gesticulation 62 object caress 56 prim… | /r/seduction | 17/02/12 09:03 PM |
| 5 | [STUDY] Nonverbal Courtship Patterns in WomenHere's the bulk of the data, for the lazy/people who can't read. http://htmlimg3.scribdassets.com/68g5bsm6yoom663/images/5-eb0eb50236.jpg | /r/seduction | 17/02/12 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Indirect game dead?You should be able to vibe and be spontaneous However, it's good to have some go to openers or mid convo restarters. | /r/seduction | 16/02/12 10:09 PM |
| 1 | How many of you have quit all drugs for seduction purposes?Definitely true. As for the "lonely habit" I stated, I meant it as if you get into the habit, you might end up smoking all the time. | /r/seduction | 16/02/12 09:00 PM |
| 1 | How many of you have quit all drugs for seduction purposes?For cost purposes, I'd suggest just buying some caffeine pills (you can also get B12 if you believe in it's efficacy) http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0011865IQ/ref=oh_o06_s01_i00_details $5.70 for 100 of them. I take a single pill before going out (usually at 10PM), and I'm good to go. I save SO much money. | /r/seduction | 16/02/12 06:10 PM |
| 2 | How many of you have quit all drugs for seduction purposes?MDMA- Light use is helpful. Unless you are at a venue where people are supposed to be rolling balls Cocaine - You'll be in the bathroom the whole time. Also it wears off quickly and gets people way jittery Weed - A half of a hit when you have a small alcohol buzz can get you awake and social, but more often than not it's really easy to over do it and be too baked to function Psychedelics - Oh god no. You hear every conversation in the entire venue all placed on top of eachother, without them dro… | /r/seduction | 16/02/12 06:04 PM |
| 3 | My Personal Summary from the Neil Strauss IAMANLP really isn't as dramatic as some people can make it out to be, however there are things that are real within it. You gotta find an NLP source that is more towards psychology and provable things, than the metaphysical. I found that Eye Accessing Cues do have some truth to them, especially when I notice myself doing it. http://www.pualingo.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/eyecues.png Microexpressions, facial itches, also. | /r/seduction | 16/02/12 03:20 AM |
| 0 | What are some good techniques to get past LMR when a girl says to you "You can come home with me, but we are not having sex"?This person posts to shitredditsays. Might be trolling. | /r/seduction | 15/02/12 10:04 PM |
| 7 | My Personal Summary from the Neil Strauss IAMAAdded those in. | /r/seduction | 15/02/12 09:28 PM |
| 4 | [RESEARCH] Help her out, being ignored hurts. Make eye contact! (Original source: Psychological Science Journal)A lot of the time I'll find myself looking at the pavement. I find that the repetitive look to the concrete causes my visual system to kinda phase out and I'll get lost in my thoughts | /r/seduction | 15/02/12 09:18 PM |
| 2 | How often do you guys go sarging?I go out to the bars on the weekend, Friday and Saturday nights. But, I'm also trying to be more social in general at grocery store lines, gas stations, etc. | /r/seduction | 15/02/12 05:37 PM |
| 4 | I AMA request: Someone who has taken a boot camp.What was the most important thing you learned from the bootcamp? What techniques did you learn to fight against approach anxiety? Did the training focus on direct or indirect approaches? Did you learn tactics on how to get into a social/talkative mood? How and what were you taught about kino/touch? Favorite place to meet people? | /r/seduction | 15/02/12 04:07 PM |
| 3 | I AMA request: Someone who has taken a boot camp.What was the most important thing you learned from the bootcamp? What techniques did you learn to fight against approach anxiety? Did the training focus on direct or indirect approaches? Did you learn tactics on how to get into a social/talkative mood? How and what were you taught about kino/touch? Favorite place to meet people? | /r/seduction | 15/02/12 04:06 PM |
| 17 | Is it too late for me?-Michael Scott | /r/seduction | 08/02/12 06:04 PM |
| 33 | Tonight gentlemen, I'll test what you've not tested yourself.Give high fives with your fingers wide open. Clasp hands and pull her into you. You'll be amazed on how the girl will nearly always also have her fingers open if you do it. | /r/seduction | 03/02/12 04:05 PM |
| 5 | Life hacks/Pro Tips/Bro TipsI'd also suggest to keep a few cans of diet soda. But, don't just assume she wants diet. I usually ask. | /r/seduction | 25/01/12 05:28 PM |
| 20 | Life hacks/Pro Tips/Bro TipsKeep a spare set of “going out clothes” in a bag or backpack in your car. Several times I’ve been asked to meet up with friends, and was happy to have a set of clothes that are bar/social scene acceptable. Have a dimmer switch/lamp in your room. Mood lighting helps, especially if it’s set at a “medium/low” setting when you initially turn it on. Some girls are hesitant to hook up in full light, or can get turned off if you drastically lower the light. Sometimes I’ll leave good ambient music runni… | /r/seduction | 25/01/12 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Are you lurking? I am no longer and here's why.I'll second this. There are situations where I am confident, and others when im SAP. My goal is to increase the situations where im confident, but its a slow progress. | /r/seduction | 09/12/11 02:59 PM |
| 2 | What's your best first date greeting/intro?I like to be at tables where we can be on the corners, rather than straight across. Straight across interview style sucks.... | /r/seduction | 21/11/11 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Girl here: Things I learned this week in the realm of seduction.I'm big on the hand squeeze. Especially if they squeeze back. | /r/seduction | 21/11/11 04:38 PM |
| 3 | Girl here: Things I learned this week in the realm of seduction.I'll second this. And many girls will wait for the guy to make a move. So even if they are really hot and want to sleep with a guy, if neither make a move, nothing happens! | /r/seduction | 21/11/11 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Seduction, I have no knowledge of your ways. I'm a poor 27 year old college student, average looks and social skills. I drive a shitty car. I have sex with various women 2 to 4 times a week.thanks for your response | /r/seduction | 18/11/11 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Seduction, I have no knowledge of your ways. I'm a poor 27 year old college student, average looks and social skills. I drive a shitty car. I have sex with various women 2 to 4 times a week.great blog | /r/seduction | 18/11/11 03:35 PM |
| 9 | Seduction, I have no knowledge of your ways. I'm a poor 27 year old college student, average looks and social skills. I drive a shitty car. I have sex with various women 2 to 4 times a week.It's to get used to human interaction and get better at physical touch in general. | /r/seduction | 17/11/11 09:16 PM |
| 3 | Seduction, I have no knowledge of your ways. I'm a poor 27 year old college student, average looks and social skills. I drive a shitty car. I have sex with various women 2 to 4 times a week.Date ideas : CCCCC : cheap, convenient, covert, control, conversation. By the way that's exactly what you're doing. Never heard this before, love it. | /r/seduction | 17/11/11 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Seduction, I have no knowledge of your ways. I'm a poor 27 year old college student, average looks and social skills. I drive a shitty car. I have sex with various women 2 to 4 times a week.If you weren't in a situation where you had a good stream of social circle contacts, what would you do to meet women (as if you were starting from scratch)? Could you see yourself approaching random people in bars/clubs and succeeding? | /r/seduction | 17/11/11 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Approach and Open - What helps gets you into a set?when you are out in a social scene and see a group of people (a set), some people recommend to start talking to them within 3 seconds of being aware they exist so that social anxiety doesn't kick in. | /r/seduction | 17/11/11 02:56 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Recovering AFC here who was skeptical of Attraction Assumption.I'm going to start trying this. With text, my goals are: Short and sweet Emotionally charged No direct questions, but statements that actually end up getting them to answer | /r/seduction | 14/11/11 01:32 AM |
| 2 | Thanks Seddit! A few tips to help you along the way!Outcomes - If you are thinking about doing or saying something, stop thinking and do it. It puts you out of frame and in a funk. Being in the moment is one of the most important and difficult tasks to conquer. | /r/seduction | 07/11/11 04:34 PM |
| 1 | A couple realizations: Kino. Smiles & Humor.I'm on a kino mission too and things I've learned: It's all about being comfortable. If you are uncomfortable, hesitant, etc, kino comes off as ill timed, fake, or awkward. If you strive towards being comfortable: in the situation, setting, person, group of people, etc, kino flies a lot more smoothly (and you aren't afraid of rejection/doing something out of social boundaries) This is also why, as you get to know people and your comfort levels go up, you are more apt to give full hugs, have soli… | /r/seduction | 07/11/11 04:32 PM |
| 3 | A couple realizations: Kino. Smiles & Humor.I love it when I notice a woman is laughing at something i said... and it wasn't funny at all... But she can't help but laugh because she becoming attracted to me | /r/seduction | 07/11/11 04:29 PM |
| 2 | A couple realizations: Kino. Smiles & Humor.I agree with this. There's a difference between smiling when there is relevant situation (joking around, laughing, enjoying the moment, human emotional enjoyment smiling), and resorting to smiling as a default "Like me please!!!" In primates, showing teeth is an indicator of fear and submissiveness. | /r/seduction | 07/11/11 04:28 PM |
| 7 | ON GIVING VALUE: Why you're not being invited out to do cool thingsDon't be cheap This is a good one. Don't be the guy who never has any cash, doesn't ever pay for the taxi, asks friends to help pay for cover, never buys any drinks but always takes it if offered, steals late night food or doesn't give their fair share. Going out costs money. Expect it. | /r/seduction | 18/10/11 05:58 PM |
| -1 | How do I talk to a girl passing by?On campus asking for directions is great. I always got asked for directions by women on campus. Ask for the way to the bookstore, financial aid, library, gym, food, etc. Also, asking about places to park for free, | /r/seduction | 17/09/11 04:52 PM |
| 2 | How do I talk to a girl passing by?On campus asking for directions is great. I always got asked for directions by women on campus. Ask for the way to the bookstore, financial aid, library, gym, food, etc. Also, asking about places to park for free, | /r/seduction | 17/09/11 04:52 PM |
| 5 | What is the PUA dress code?MFA posts tend to go towards the preppy/very dressed style, whereas if you are just cruising the bars, a more urban casual style would work. Like the above poster wrote, FIT is the the most important thing. I would also suggest learning about denim (get a dark unwashed/unfaded pair of jeans. Doesn't have to be expensive, as I got a $20 pair of grey Levi's and $20 pair of indigo H&M), color matching, and some basic rules (black shoes and brown belt are a no no). | /r/seduction | 01/08/11 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Rookie mistake #28: long online messages.Fit idea to one sentence | /r/seduction | 31/07/11 07:28 PM |
| 1 | 10 Surprising Rules on How to Be a WingmanDefinitely one of the better blogs out there. | /r/seduction | 28/07/11 03:21 PM |
| 5 | The worst case of 'one-itis' I've ever read. Don't be this guy - he regrets not telling her how he felt as if he ever had a chance. It's quite clear she was never attracted to him in the first place."We hate most in others that which we [saw] in ourselves" | /r/seduction | 25/07/11 05:19 PM |
| 3 | Don't allow yourself to be phased by anything.Being able to drop a negative thought/idea/situation is so important. Many times something crappy will hit you, and you just gotta roll with the punches. Defintely a skill that always can be improved upon. | /r/seduction | 25/07/11 05:13 PM |
| 2 | How To Be An Alpha Male Without Becoming A StereotypeI imagine that within your own social circle you'd want to be alpha... if you are meeting random sets, then nomad . Or a combination. | /r/seduction | 21/07/11 05:54 AM |
| 8 | How can I stop getting instant friend zoned?What I've also noticed is that the longer time that elapses between you two hanging out, the more the "friend" relationship gets reset. Throw in another girl attracted to you (jealously + social proof), and some evidence that she can't push you around anymore (alpha) and BOOM you are out of the friend zone. | /r/seduction | 19/07/11 10:10 PM |
| 2 | How can I stop getting instant friend zoned?You don't have to be an asshole, but you should be cocky/funny/alpha etc. | /r/seduction | 19/07/11 10:06 PM |
| 4 | How can I stop getting instant friend zoned?If she opens the window, and you don't jump through it, are too afraid or hesistant to go through it, or don't even notice it, the window can close quite quickly. | /r/seduction | 19/07/11 10:05 PM |
| 3 | Got over my AA last Thursday...It's all about progress. Expand your comfort zone. When I started socializing way back in the day I probably wouldn't have joined my friend in a conversation, or been able to keep it going after he left. Always taking steps forward are key. In 6-12 months look back at your progress. | /r/seduction | 18/07/11 10:30 PM |
| 1 | I think this is something most of Seddit has to deal with. How do you handle your atheism around women?If someone asks me, I'll tell them, "I'm not religious, but I am a Spiritual person." | /r/seduction | 18/07/11 10:25 PM |
| 2 | I think this is something most of Seddit has to deal with. How do you handle your atheism around women?I'll tell people, "I'm not religious, but I am a Spiritual person." | /r/seduction | 18/07/11 10:25 PM |
| 2 | Got over my AA last Thursday...Good job at talking to a set. But it doesn't sound like you got over AA, as your friends were the ones that approached the girls, opened them, and then joined you in. Nevertheless, good job at joining the conversation. | /r/seduction | 18/07/11 10:22 PM |
| 2 | a long thread of people criticizing seddit on redditReddit is an interesting place. It is full of people from all sorts of demographics, cultures, and ages.... But then it also has a strong bell curve demographic to a younger, white, tech savy male who is likely to be an AFC. Take for example, the popularity of the "Socially Ackward Penguin" meme. | /r/seduction | 18/07/11 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Fundamentals: body language 101There is a difference between putting your hands in your pockets out of a nervous gesture, and because it is comfortable and you are being relaxed. Although overall, the hands in pockets isn't recommended. There are a ton of body language positions when standing. Here is list I came up with when I asked this question a few weeks ago. In the end, any position works, as long as it's comfortable to you. If you feel comfortable with your arms at your side, then do it. If you feel awkward with your a… | /r/seduction | 18/07/11 05:11 PM |
| 3 | How do I get the creep out of me?Having a friend evaluate you is probably the best way for you to identify these behaviors. Keep in mind, they might not be the best for accurately describing what the behaviors are, but they can point you in the right direction. | /r/seduction | 18/07/11 04:38 PM |
| 12 | How do I get the creep out of me?A lot of time creepy is also used to describe someone who is pushing into another person's comfort zone. Usually this is caused by you wanting to do a behavior (talk, touch, eye contact), and then either not acting, or acting in a forced and unsocially acceptablemanner There is a fine line between being normal and creepy, with things such as: Being too close to someone, when they aren't comfortable with you standing there Repeatedly reengaging a conversation with someone who doesn't want you to … | /r/seduction | 18/07/11 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Getting over beta behavior?Go on vacation to a crowded place. In Vegas, I try to make eye contact with everyone I pass. It turns into a fun game. | /r/seduction | 15/07/11 01:00 AM |
| 2 | Getting over beta behavior?Everyone is human, just like you. NO one is cut from a different cloth. I still have trouble sometimes making solid eye contact with people on the street, especially if I'm in an extremely logical headspace. I'm in the 50-50 zone right now for being alpha in eye contact. Things I'm working on: Listening to the blueprint decoded, tyler says: "The halfway point between fear (beta) and confidence (alpha), is indifference. Don't try to go for the confidence. Try not to care. Say fuck it, I WILL NEVE… | /r/seduction | 15/07/11 12:59 AM |
| 3 | Beta behavior to avoidI'm sure there is a side to you that is confident. Maybe not in social situations, but maybe it is at work. Maybe it is teaching someone about a subject you know in depthly. Maybe you have no problem talking to the customer service person on the phone. Identify areas in your life where you have "situational confidence". You'll find that in these areas, you never run out things to say, you could talk for hours. Then it is the process of spreading that confident person you are in that role, to unk… | /r/seduction | 15/07/11 12:47 AM |
| 2 | Beta behavior to avoidIdentifying beta behaviors is helpful in realizing that you do them, so you can adjust accordingly. Agreed, some suggestions on how to change them might be also helpful. | /r/seduction | 15/07/11 12:43 AM |
| 6 | Beta behavior to avoidSituational openers are golden. Yeah, sometimes the conversation will fall flat. That happens... But you know what? Until you say "Hello!" you never know what SHE might say. Maybe she goes, "Hi! I love your shirt! Where did you get it?" and then boom, you instantly go into a conversation about where you got it, maybe a story of your favorite pair of jeans that got ripped when you ran from the cops in highschool. As FucksWithHiveMind said: Conversations never go the way you would expect them to. | /r/seduction | 15/07/11 12:39 AM |
| 3 | Beta behavior to avoidand I will never change. Change as in something that happens instantly, no, probably not. But that doesn't mean you can't grow into a more confident, alpha person. As a kid, I'd be nervous about placing an order at fast food place, and always had my parents do it for me. Now a days, that seems just silly. Change happens, progress towards your goal. I can't make a decision because I want to be sure it's the best one. Often, there are multiple "best" decisions. Learn to quickly size up the availab… | /r/seduction | 15/07/11 12:32 AM |
| 4 | Why are women so against being seen as "sluts"?The guys I see slut shaming the most are the same guys who wanted the girl, didn't get her, and now are jealous that she "gets with sooo many guys" (and not meeee!). | /r/seduction | 14/07/11 06:50 PM |
| 1 | The Magic Pill to getting better at Pickup FASTWhether your write FR, document it in a journal, or just go over it verbally/mentally with yourself, the personal reflection about last night is the important part. | /r/seduction | 14/07/11 06:47 PM |
| 1 | The Magic Pill to getting better at Pickup FASTAlso: Prepared to get some harsh rejections. At the time, they suck, they hurt, and they frustrate you. But then an hour, a day, a week later, you don't give a shit because you are most likely never seeing that person again. (had a roughhhhhh one this last weekend, and after the next day, I hadn't thought about it till now) | /r/seduction | 14/07/11 06:46 PM |
| 1 | The Magic Pill to getting better at Pickup FASTUse a long lunch break (if you have it). Go to happy hours. Go out, but don't drink and come home relatively early. There is a lot of time you can practice social dynamics outside the Friday/Saturday 10PM-2AM window. Also, have you have befriended a group or three, you don't even notice your friends aren't there because you are having a lot of fun with your NEW friends. | /r/seduction | 14/07/11 06:44 PM |
| 8 | Hey Seddit, what are your favorite rapport building lines/questions?"Whats your favorite vacation?" | /r/seduction | 14/07/11 06:42 PM |
| 9 | Beta behavior to avoidI have a guy friend who doesn't close well, and whenever I throw a girl in his lap he is like, "She's not that hot". By disqualifying the girl, he doesn't have to have his ego bruised if "a lower quality girl" rejects him. "You can't lose if you don't play." | /r/seduction | 14/07/11 06:39 PM |
| 13 | Beta behavior to avoidWon't go out unless they are with a large group of people they are comfortable with. (i.e, "Dude, I'm asking if you want to go with me to the bars, you shouldn't have to rely on so and so to be there for you to want to go") Can't make a decision. "Everything from which bar to go to next?", "Which restaurant?", "Should we take a taxi?" Also, looks to others to see if they are siding with their choice before they fully commit to it. Also, basically anything that Socially Ackward Penguin does. | /r/seduction | 14/07/11 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Beta behavior to avoidMake progress every weekend. I set myself a goal before I go out at night/day. It's nice to look back in a week/month/year etc and see the differences in your skills. | /r/seduction | 14/07/11 05:45 PM |
| 11 | Wondering what thoughts are on this specific situation and general how-to: What do you do when you see an attractive girl passing by on the street or in public transportation?Break it down into steps. Do you have the balls to make eye contact? Or do you purposely make yourself look away? Can you muster a smile? Can you say hi? | /r/seduction | 12/07/11 06:22 PM |
| 15 | A post on the "alpha-male", confidence building, and the age-old "what to say" question.Gotta remember that when you speak freely, people have no idea about how your thought process progressed. When you speak freely with people, give them a little background and it won't come as weird/random. --If I'm at the bar and I look at a bottle of vodka and think, "That's a pretty bottle", and then that leads me to think about plastic bottles with cheap vodka, and then I think about how some people filter cheap vodka through brita filters I can say each of these thoughts and all could come o… | /r/seduction | 11/07/11 05:14 AM |
| 2 | My natural friend objects to Game. Here was my email response.You overanalyze this way too much. Yep... and after a while it becomes second nature as you integrate it. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_stages_of_competence | /r/seduction | 11/07/11 01:44 AM |
| 3 | Going out alone...I feel that I am better at approaching girls when I am by myself. I don't rely on my friends, and don't feel social pressure or prying eyes. Use this to your advantage! | /r/seduction | 10/07/11 01:12 AM |
| 2 | [FR] AFC mode to life of the party in 30 minutes. Oorah!because they were afcs... | /r/seduction | 08/07/11 10:56 PM |
| 2 | Good pick up openers for the beach? Also, I am a foreigner, maybe some foreigner openers?Do you have any suntan lotion I could borrow? | /r/seduction | 08/07/11 10:53 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Never toking before a party again (Long-ish post)I find that a 1/3rd of a hit (NOT FROM A BONG), combined with 4+ beers is excellent. It gives you the social lubricrant from booze, and then the bud's ability to peer below the surface.. of course, it is waaayyy to easy to smoke too much. | /r/seduction | 08/07/11 10:52 PM |
| 10 | I'm TofuTofu. Ask Me Anything about Japanese girls.Likewise, Korean girls are freaks. I highly recommend you go that route if you're into Asian girls :) I'll second that. | /r/seduction | 08/07/11 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Eye Contacthttp://www.pualingo.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/eyecues.png | /r/seduction | 07/07/11 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Acting on ImpulseYea, spontaneous is a better word to describe this idea. | /r/seduction | 06/07/11 08:50 PM |
| 2 | Eye ContactEyebrows add dimension too. This is why the Mona Lisa has such a debate if she is smiling or not. She doesn't have eyebrows. | /r/seduction | 06/07/11 04:18 PM |
| 2 | Eye ContactOpen your eyes as wide as you can. Give the HUGE stare look. This is at the intense side of the spectrum. Now lower your eyes into a relaxed mode. Like you just woke up or are tired (but eyes still are opened). Find a reasonable middle | /r/seduction | 06/07/11 04:13 PM |
| 8 | Eye ContactMost people will break eye contact with you. If you now start thinking about eye contact, you'll probably over think it for the next few weeks. This is normal, as the normal subconscious acts of breaking eye contact is now in your mind. Anyways, use this to your advantage for a while and talk to more people. You'll find that most people, in a conversation, will break eye contact a lot. They'll hold it for 15 seconds, break, look back etc. They'll hold it for 5 seconds, break, look back. When the… | /r/seduction | 06/07/11 05:15 AM |
| 6 | What are your best closing lines / excuses to bring her home?I live at home. It doesn't matter. Anyways, for our age, more and more people are living at home (hey, SHE might live at home TOO). Unless you specifically tell her "I live with my parents" and make a big deal of it, she won't know. I'd just bring her back to your house and carry out anyways. If I do somehow talk about living at home, I make it funny. "I live with a married couple. They are a little bit older, but they are awesome. I mean, they always go out and buy groceries for me! It's awesom… | /r/seduction | 06/07/11 03:20 AM |
| 20 | Let's play the non reactive game (version 1. Game 1)And I have a math test. | /r/seduction | 01/07/11 03:17 AM |
| 3 | IAMA Mark Manson of Practical Pick Up Q&A!I added your RSS feed after an article that was posted on reddit from your website. Great stuff! | /r/seduction | 29/06/11 05:24 AM |
| 1 | IAMA Mark Manson of Practical Pick Up Q&A!This is great advice here... It's amazing how something can feel so awkward and embarrassing in one moment, and then in the next minute, hour, day, you don't feel anything anymore. | /r/seduction | 29/06/11 04:47 AM |
| 2 | How do you Stand?I'm more thinking about when you are in a group having a conversation. This is more of a survey, than, "whats the best pose!?" | /r/seduction | 28/06/11 05:49 AM |
| 5 | If you meet eyes with a girl, what reaction from her tells you that shes interested?The, "Oh shit I just got caught looking" look away. She is being submissive and you should show alphaness. However, keep in mind there might be differences between: if you make the initial eye contact and she looks away when notices you, or if you catch her peeping at you. | /r/seduction | 28/06/11 04:56 AM |
| 10 | If you meet eyes with a girl, what reaction from her tells you that shes interested?Extended eye contact, Touches her hair, throws her hair over her shoulders, protrudes her breasts, Sometimes if she looks down or looks away quickly, smiles or usually it's just a microexpression of a smile (subconscious mini smile). If you are out and about at a bar and she just "stares" back-she might be doing the lusty/eye fuck, so approach. Overall: Approach. If you always approach, you wont get caught off guard when a cute girl passes you and smiles. | /r/seduction | 28/06/11 04:49 AM |
| 3 | I can't help, but feel beta. Any free links to books for my inner game. It's really taking over. I know I have one girl-itisFor me, the biggest fix for my inner game issues was just allowing me to accept that other girls could be attracted to me. My one-itis stemed from the fact that I didn't feel like there was any other girl that liked me. Once I met more and more and more women, in general, I gradually accepted that: There are a LOT OF FUCKING WOMEN OUT THERE Some of them will like you! Many of them are way better than the current oneitis. I agree with many of the links people posted here.. they are great resource… | /r/seduction | 28/06/11 02:19 AM |
| 4 | How to overcome fear and approach a girl?Side story: I used to always to do Karaoke. I would read through the books of list of people and come out with several songs I wanted to sing. I'd write them down on a piece of paper. But I'd never turn it in. I'd pussy out. Over and over again. Finally one time, I submitted the form. Baby Got Back - Sir Mix a Lot. I was SO FUCKING nervous about doing it. Finally I just fucking did it. After that... it hasn't been that bad EVER again. Whenever there is a chance to Karaoke I always want to turn i… | /r/seduction | 27/06/11 05:14 AM |
| 1 | I need to share my epiphany with you, Seddit. It is extremely related to inner game, confidence, and me not getting into a club last night.Favorite/Best anti-anxiety technique? | /r/seduction | 27/06/11 04:27 AM |
| 1 | I need to share my epiphany with you, Seddit. It is extremely related to inner game, confidence, and me not getting into a club last night.I went out Friday night without my standard group of friends. Had a fucking blast (almost too much fun, damn vodka sodas). It's amazing how you can easily have fun without your standard group, and how eye opening it is. | /r/seduction | 27/06/11 04:25 AM |
| 2 | When you wake up and realize you actually gave the shocker to a married woman last night how do you feel?The feeling fades. After a week, a month, etc, you wont even think about it. | /r/seduction | 27/06/11 04:22 AM |
| 8 | How to overcome fear and approach a girl?Trust me, this is still a sticking point of mine. Some weekends I'll approach or start random convos. However, most times I'll just do the "bar lap" over and over and over again and stick with my social circle. In reality... you just gotta jump out of the fucking plane. No easy solution. Things that help me jump out the plane: Approaching as soon or before you get into the bar... Once you enter the bar, your odds of approaching decrease Going out alone, or going out in another city. Telling myse… | /r/seduction | 27/06/11 04:07 AM |
| 3 | im so shitty at closing. very frustrated.This is my problem too... My current solution: Kino and escalate. I hold a conversation and flirt, but I don't PHYSICALLY ESCALATE. Also, it is helpful to add some more edge and sexual innuendo to your conversation. If you physcially escalate, the moment appears. http://www.vindicarlo.com/DiCarlo%20Escalation%20Ladder%20-%20vindicarlo.com.pdf Summary: Class 1: Hands, Arms Class 2: Legs, Body Class 3: Neck, Face When you are talking to a girl, which part of the ladder to stall at? How high do you… | /r/seduction | 27/06/11 04:01 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Street game success HB8. Mentality failure HB9. Also: blown away by a natural.SOLID FR. Keep the tips from the natural coming. From a few of the naturals I know, they have a combination of: Don't give a fuck. I'm the prize. KINO. As for kino... when you are tuned into kino really well, it's amazing how the girl's words might not show a lot of interest, but their body language and touch is on fire. | /r/seduction | 27/06/11 03:00 AM |
| 5 | First steps to conquering AA (My first ever FR)If she doesn't text back, maybe try a day or two later, or you can also just let it slide and perhaps run into her again at this place (if she's a regular) and start it up again (this sometimes can work better than burning your bridge by trying too much at the start). | /r/seduction | 27/06/11 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Being beta with alpha friend(s)You might not be pulling the trigger when you should. I find that if I'm talking with a bunch of girls, and I don't escalate, they'll go for my other friends. Are you escalating or do you just end up betaing yourself? | /r/seduction | 27/06/11 02:38 AM |
| 1 | Being beta with alpha friend(s)If you open the set, you should get first choice. Bro code them on it. If it's a social circle girl, well shit, it's the jungle out there. | /r/seduction | 27/06/11 02:37 AM |
| 2 | I'll randomly get in state when I'm in a good mood and feel invincible.I have gotten in state multiple times so far, so I'll try describe my experiences I've gotten instate on several drugs, such as adderall and MDMA. The most important part of becoming instate during these drugs was because I they helped me gain the attitude of "I don't care, I'm having fun", and acting on impulse! However, I don't recommend using drugs as a crutch, although they can be a helpful learning tool (think training wheels). MDMA is the drug where I've felt truly felt SOCIAL GOD MODE (I'… | /r/seduction | 21/06/11 12:29 AM |
| 2 | I'll randomly get in state when I'm in a good mood and feel invincible."Anytime you want to do something social and you do it you build positive social momentum. Avoiding social opportunities builds negative momentum. Don't avoid any opportuinties to be social, no matter how insignificant it may seem at the time (ie. introducing yourself to people around you)." Truth right here fellow Sedditors. | /r/seduction | 20/06/11 11:55 PM |
| 1 | I'll randomly get in state when I'm in a good mood and feel invincible.Try to "un-stiffle yourself".. You literally try to scream out as loud as you can caveman style. It's kinda like how at a library, you will automatically be quieter, your subconscious mind adopts certain social rules in various environments. What you do is break through that barrier by doing something that isn't "socially" acceptable (although, you can easily get away with the caveman roar at a club/bar). | /r/seduction | 20/06/11 11:43 PM |
| 0 | Is there any differences when trying seduction on college women compared to older women?If you decide to join a frat, check out this post. I replied to it with all my thoughts about fraternity game. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/fz977/fraternity_game/ | /r/seduction | 16/06/11 02:31 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Bar last nightFalse time constraints are helpful to buy you an extra few minutes to hook. Also, don't be afraid to eject if need be, and then reopen later in the evening. I find that if I open several groups, some of them will even open me later in the evening. | /r/seduction | 15/06/11 07:03 PM |
| 1 | I'm not old but why do I feel time is running out?When I first started game, I said to myself, UGH I WISH I KNEW THIS AT 16! But alas, I've finally found some good info and now I'm applying it. Time is going to pass whether you want it or not. In 5 or 10 years, are you going to look back and go, I'm so glad that I've been working at improving my game. | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 05:08 AM |
| 2 | What to do at a bar/club if dancing simply isnt an option?Club: A bar with a dance floor. Go socialize at the bar area, outside with the smokers, or any of the pathways outside of the main dance area. At a club, most of the space inside isn't just the dance floor. Shit, at a really crowded club, a lot of the people on the dance floor area aren't dancing even (save Vegas) | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 04:10 AM |
| 3 | It's so fucking simple.I don't necessarily agree with that. Plenty of people I've randomly started talking to will add to the conversation by talking about things in the environment.... At a club, it's a lot more likely that it is on you to be the conversation holder in the beginning, but in the non club environment, people are usually decently social. | /r/seduction | 10/06/11 08:02 PM |
| 3 | Start approaching nowQuestions I"ll ask: How do you two know eachother? I"ll bring the conversation towards holidays etc, talk about trips or my favorite vacations. | /r/seduction | 10/06/11 07:57 PM |
| 2 | Start approaching nowHere's a fun exercise... approach some of your friends, and start a random conversation... see how you end up naturally vibing and conversation flows from topic to topic. While you can't apply everything learned from this exercise to random people, it can give insight. | /r/seduction | 10/06/11 05:17 PM |
| 3 | [FR] F-close 2 girls HB7 and HB8I've definitely let a girl on the hook too long during a party while I sarged other options and ended up watching her leave with another guy, while my options dissipated. | /r/seduction | 09/06/11 11:29 PM |
| 6 | Seduction charthttp://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/05/magazine/nate-silver-wednesday-night-is-right-for-loving.html Data comes from OkCupid. | /r/seduction | 09/06/11 06:06 PM |
| 1 | IAMA PUA who works for Neil Strauss.Join a club, make friends with regulars at the bar. If you are into sports, go to a sports bar and make friends with the guys there. Males and sports are the women and gossip about celebrities equivalent | /r/seduction | 07/06/11 05:41 PM |
| 2 | IAMA PUA who works for Neil Strauss.Great advice on mini isolations... Too many times pulling a large isolation event is too difficult/costly, whereas if you just split your target from the general group conversation you two are psychologically (as well as mini-physcially) isolated. | /r/seduction | 07/06/11 05:36 PM |
| 7 | So who here has actually read "The Game"?I read the entire thing. I actually like the story and that's why I couldn't put it down. | /r/seduction | 07/06/11 06:05 AM |
| 3 | IAMA PUA who works for Neil Strauss.So you basically make it a habit to converse with everyone you meet? Sometimes I don't care to make small talk with the old lady in line at the grocery store, other times I'm chatty. Trying to decide if it is better to attempt to always be social (even with those you don't want to), or to be able to learn how to summon that social mode quickly. | /r/seduction | 07/06/11 05:54 AM |
| 2 | IAMA PUA who works for Neil Strauss.What tricks do you use to get into a social mode (or instate?). Any specific tactics, or do you just force yourself to talk? I can be a very social person, but sometimes it's hard for me to get into the "talking zone" | /r/seduction | 07/06/11 05:36 AM |
| 3 | The dreaded "So, how many women have you slept with?"I didn't have sex till 18. Then I had sex with 7 girls before college in a period of like 6 months. And then I had sex with only 2 girls for the first 4 years of college. Then 6 in my graduate year.... For me, it came in waves. And actually, the biggest thing was just MEETING A LOT MORE WOMEN. The more women you know, the more chances. | /r/seduction | 07/06/11 05:21 AM |
| 5 | The dreaded "So, how many women have you slept with?"Ways to handle it: Be brutally truthful Make a joke out of it and change the subject Lie, but say something closer to the average number for someone of your age (a 40 year old will have more partners than an 18 year old) I used to use the joke out of it and change subject, but with some girls it would make me look douchey and hiding something IF YOU DON'T DO IT WELL. I will suggest that no matter what, if she brings this up, tell her that she needs to tell you first. If she declines to answer, t… | /r/seduction | 07/06/11 02:19 AM |
| 4 | Not Giving a Fuck.I'll second this. All social barriers are removed. Of course, you gotta control yourself, because, ahem, you might get carried away with your new found freedom from social fears :-D | /r/seduction | 06/06/11 02:07 AM |
| 4 | Not Giving a Fuck.I bought these shoes several years ago and I'd get: Compliments/questions/interest from women And 75% of guys would make jokes, 25% would be interested For me? I just don't give a fuck. I like them. They are comfy. That's what matters to me. Any guy who tries to give you crap about what you are wearing typically is the guy who would never be caught dead wearing them because he would be so self conscious about it. These people project their insecurities. | /r/seduction | 06/06/11 02:05 AM |
| 9 | Tips on Dancing for the TRUE beginnersSomeone once posted this: "Pay attention to your shoulders and chest. They should be upright and not slouchy, and you want to accomplish about 70% of your movement with your shoulders, and about 30% with your hips/waist. This is the biggest error that I tend to see, is that guys think the waist/hips are everything. Dancing from the hips is for GIRLS. GUYS look better when they dance with their shoulders, as it's a more forward, masculine movement. Don't neglect the waist and hips - you've still … | /r/seduction | 03/06/11 07:03 PM |
| 2 | The one who got away (before you mastered the art)I realized I absolutely did not want her, and I had gotten far better girls since her. | /r/seduction | 01/06/11 07:08 PM |
| 1 | MaysonNSS of New Social Systems Q&AMost of my SNL's have pretty much been textbook sequence of events, meet, attraction, comfort, escalate, isolate... And in the end it was successful mostly because the logistics worked out great. Most recent one: Met group of girls at bar. We all had fun and bounced to club. Escalated with some attraction/fun. Went to smoking area and got to know each other. Escalated sexually on dance floor. Bounced to my house (it was very helpful to have both of the girls liking me and the guy I was with). On… | /r/seduction | 01/06/11 06:27 AM |
| 1 | MaysonNSS of New Social Systems Q&AHookah has hooked me up with ladies so many times. From teaching her how to blow smoke o's, to "shotgunning" | /r/seduction | 01/06/11 05:57 AM |
| 1 | Whats a good way to calmly get rid of an amog who's trying to pick up a girl I'm on a date with?It's best to try to prevent the move in the first place. Just keep your body language solid and always add value to the conversations. What happens to me is that I might look away and stop adding value and unintentionally slightly step out, and the guy will then nudge in. If a guy senses weakness, he'll step in. Think of it as a military attack. There are many different tactical paths. You can literally do anything. You can apply situations from driving your car, playing starcraft, etc. However,… | /r/seduction | 01/06/11 01:45 AM |
| 2 | Seddit, it's summer time, what are some good tips for approaching women on the beach?Make friends with people doing social events. I often have met many cool people by asking to join their soccer or volleyball game. | /r/seduction | 31/05/11 11:00 PM |
| 3 | Whats a good way to calmly get rid of an amog who's trying to pick up a girl I'm on a date with?Most of my AMOG tactics involve: * Being calm, cool and collected * Don't take the bait * Make them seem try hard/fool/silly/stupid Amogs often tend to either try to piss you off/get your upset and aggrevated (these physical cues). Or they try to out maneuver you with intellect/making fun of you etc. Most AMOGs are more physical/horsing around with their tactics, whereas more betas will try to AMOG you with tactics, logistics, and creeper stuff (they just wont leave, even if the girl doesn't lik… | /r/seduction | 31/05/11 06:22 AM |
| 1 | Men, what do you wear when you go out on Friday nights?Jeans, dress sneaker shoes or some vans, and either a button down shirt (by someone like 7-Diamonds), or a graphic tee (most of mine were bought 2 years ago at Buckle). | /r/seduction | 31/05/11 05:37 AM |
| 2 | Grooming body hair (chest, back)I trim it. | /r/seduction | 31/05/11 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Grooming body hair (chest, back)I have a hairy chest, pretty much the same as yours. It used to make me very subconscious, so I have shaved my chest in the past, but it gave me horrible razor burn. So this is what I do. I got a Norleco Body groomer, and I trim the front chest and stomach to a 2 or 3. I then shave any hair on my shoulders and back. I also trim my hair down there. From my experience: Overall, girls don't find shoulder, neck, and back hair attractive. I try to keep it trimmed/shaved, especially if I know i'm goin… | /r/seduction | 31/05/11 03:29 AM |
| 3 | mini TIP: Sitting at the tableI always try to sit in a table with 4 chairs, and just sit kiddy corner. | /r/seduction | 27/05/11 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Female here: Is this a seduction technique, I am so confused?"Ugh, I want to say hi, but I can't. Maybe if I stand close to her, then by some off chance she'll start talking to me" | /r/seduction | 23/05/11 09:26 PM |
| 2 | Tip: How to increase the chances of a response in a # closeI definitely recommend trying to get text game started as soon as reasonably possible once you get her phone number. If you can make it funny/fun etc, she'll enjoy the texts and respond back. However, don't make the mistake of sending the first text at 2:30AM a few hours after you met with a "Whatchu doing"... High high risk, and can creep her out (though, it has worked before.) I've definitely had more success with getting text game started the same night, or the next day. Remember: Calibration… | /r/seduction | 23/05/11 09:23 PM |
| 2 | My TL;DR (PUA outline)Just keep in mind that you MUST go out in the field and see how they play out in real life social situations. That's when you get your OMFG moments and laugh as you start to be able to see the matrix. I'll probably post my study guides/notes as well to Seduction in the next couple days. | /r/seduction | 23/05/11 09:01 PM |
| 20 | My TL;DR (PUA outline)It's great that you have gotten into game! I first read "The Game" Winter 2007-2008. Just keep in mind it's a long journey, and The Game is like a Intro to Seduction 101 auditing class. The best way to solidify your new knowledge is field time after learning a new concept. I listd a lot of material below that gave me epiphanies and radical new ideas about seduction, but I always went out in field and saw how they ACTUALLY WORKED IN REAL SITUATIONS. This solidified the material more than anything… | /r/seduction | 23/05/11 06:07 AM |
| 35 | How do you deal with friends who stop on the street to chat?"So, how do you two know eachother" is a sentence I ask to everyone. My favorite. | /r/seduction | 22/05/11 06:08 PM |
| 13 | How do you deal with friends who stop on the street to chat?I either: Look the stranger in the eye, and when they look at me back, I say Hello and nod. If the girl is not a social idiot (and it isn't just a super quick hello), she'll introduce you to them. This works best early in the conversation, not 1-2 minutes after they have been talking. If I'm in a place where I can do something else, as soon as I realize that she is going to have a convo with someone random, I'll start doing something else (if in a store, I'll browse). This works best as a fluid … | /r/seduction | 22/05/11 06:07 PM |
| 1 | This Changed My Game ForeverIf you had to summarize one topic/technique/skill set/piece of knowledge from the book that had the most powerful impact for you, What would it be? | /r/seduction | 25/04/11 09:41 PM |
| 3 | HB says "You're sexy", you say ....?"Damn right" | /r/seduction | 11/04/11 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Vegas, Baby, VegasDefinitely call around to the 2-3 hottest clubs that night. Bottle rates widely vary, same with specials... But it's definitely worth it to spend more at the better club, than get an extra bottle at a club with crappy patrons. | /r/seduction | 07/04/11 06:36 PM |
| 2 | Vegas, Baby, VegasAlways ask the concierge, they know their shit. And aren't trying to sell you anything (except maybe the club in their hotel). Taxi drivers can be helpful too, but they are 50/50, bc half of them are trying to peddle you some wristband. Whatever casino has the hottest club that night will probably also have the hottest tail walking around it at night. On Fri/Sat, probably XS at Encore. http://www.vegas.com/nightclubs/ Here is a list. If you click on the club, it'll state which day it is open. In… | /r/seduction | 07/04/11 06:33 PM |
| 8 | Vegas, Baby, VegasOnce you are on the strip, make eye contact with every girl you see. It'll get you in the groove. If she holds it, GO IN TO TALK. Do this with every person you can. YOU WILL NEVER SEE ANY OF THESE PEOPLE EVER AGAIN!!! My Vegas opener: Hi, how's Vegas treating you? MEET GIRLS DURING THE DAY: Set up a meet up later that night at so and so club. During the day the girls are at the pool, shopping, walking the strip. Various casinos have various demographics. For example, MGM is full of people of all… | /r/seduction | 07/04/11 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Songs to get in state?Bitches - Hollywood Undead | /r/seduction | 05/04/11 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Songs to get in state?haha Hey Mister is such a great song, I forgot about it. | /r/seduction | 05/04/11 05:18 PM |
| 2 | I think this is the first and most important thing to remember...I'll second this. As long as you are talking and confident about what you are saying, people don't doubt it. But, as soon as you start getting in your head, or rethinking what you just said, or don't fully believe in yourself, the other people catch on to it. For example: I was telling a long story, and everyone was into it. But about halfway through telling it, I started thinking to myself "Wait, am I being coherent? Am I rambling? Do I need to be more concise?" at that exact moment I started t… | /r/seduction | 28/03/11 07:38 PM |
| 3 | 7 Club Tips:One dance move that I do sometimes: While dancing with a girl (and her back is to me) and she is really getting into it, I'll put my hands on her hips, and all of a sudden, spin her very quickly by putting my hands on her hips and rotating her 180 degrees so she is facing me. The first time I ever did this, the girl later told me that my agressive/smoothness of motion is when she was suddenly smacked with a "omg that was so hot". Also: DONT KEEP DOING THE MOVE. It works better as a climax, not a… | /r/seduction | 28/03/11 07:32 PM |
| 0 | How to start with maintaining eye contactHmm, but the only porn I watch is amateur porn.... :-D | /r/seduction | 21/03/11 04:28 AM |
| 13 | fraternity gameThis is my experience: You are more likely to see the same girl again. This is GREAT for building a social net full of girls. This is also bad if you come off as a creeper. The easiest way to avoid looking like a creeper is to: Don't focus intently on one girl during parties, and don't overly hit on every single person instantly. You should learn to use a girl's social circle for meeting people as well as your own bros. Meet a ton of girls through their other sorority sisters. Girl houses tend t… | /r/seduction | 07/03/11 11:54 PM |
| 6 | Simple steps to take to get out of the friendzone.This worked for me. Stopped hanging out with her. Stopped talking to her. Hung out with new girl I liked. Saw her at a party a month or so later and had sexy time that night | /r/seduction | 06/03/11 01:26 AM |
| 2 | Science of Sex Appeal (Some notes from this documentary)And this cologne is called? | /r/seduction | 05/03/11 12:58 AM |
| 1 | Howard Stern on The Daily Show - Even as the interviewee, He leads.I just watched this clip. I like watching Howard Stern because he has such a commanding present when he is talking, always leading, pushing forward. Of course, he was able to translate his talents to radio, but he is a good example of being conversationally alpha. | /r/seduction | 01/03/11 05:53 PM |
| 1 | RANT: Do you have a genuine passion for learning about seduction? If not, LEAVE.I imagine that learning from both the striker and the goalie would be beneficial. The striker will teach you how to score the goal, whereas you can learn from the goalie about the tells which give you away (on all those times the goalie stops the ball). | /r/seduction | 28/02/11 10:48 PM |
| 10 | A quick example of how I beat out a 'nice guy' and why he lostGreat report. I can remember back when I'd say, "what about mee!", as if showing that I was nice and super available was the trick to get a girl to like me. I was recently watching 40 Year Old Virgin and I love with quote Andy Stitzer: This doesn't feel right. Jay: Of course it don't feel right! What has felt right for you doesn't work! You need to try some wrong, dawg. | /r/seduction | 28/02/11 05:13 PM |
| 3 | Lesson 2: Alpha Body Language & Tonality AND MORE (from RSD)I agree. The best way to think about this is to just go out and have fun... but don't be the beta guy trying to win other people's approval. Be your own self and in control of your emotions, don't let others control your emotions. | /r/seduction | 21/02/11 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Refresher on Passing Shit Tests - Agree and Amplify and WHY IT WORKSAgree and amplify works well.. but don't amplify too quickly. The 3.5 sexual partners is golden... Saying, "One million" would be a crappy response. | /r/seduction | 21/02/11 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Refresher on Passing Shit Tests - Agree and Amplify and WHY IT WORKSThis would work for "SHIT TESTS", but when she just asks a question, you can can goof once or twice, but then be real. | /r/seduction | 21/02/11 08:22 PM |
| 3 | Lesson 2: Alpha Body Language & Tonality AND MORE (from RSD)One will eventually submit. Usually the duels that last the longest are with people who think that they are going to be the dominant one. Come up with more ways that you can convey dominance/alpha and you'll win quicker. Try this. Have a staring contest with a dog. They will hold your graze for a long long time.. but eventually break. But overall, about unreactivity. Try to think of it more about being in control of your emotions. She doesn't control whether you feel good, sad, happy, frustrated… | /r/seduction | 21/02/11 08:20 PM |
| 3 | Lesson 2: Alpha Body Language & Tonality AND MORE (from RSD)In this post, I think it is more specifically referring to your emotions being effected by girl. She says something to make you think your interaction is going great and you feel awesome, she starts being rude and you suddenly feel down and depressed. She controls your emotions because you are invested in her response. She will do things to "push" against you to see how you respond emotionally. It can be a touch on the arm (do you suddenly start agreeing with her, doing what she wants?), or a se… | /r/seduction | 21/02/11 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Do you wish you knew about PUA guide's when you were a teen?I agree. Kino escalation ladder and body language would have been very helpful too. | /r/seduction | 16/02/11 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, what is your fastest pickup story?Met her at a fraternity party for about 5 minutes at like 2AM. 10 minutes later she came in my room and crawled into my bed. | /r/seduction | 21/01/11 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Ongoing Journal of my experience with the "30 Day Challenge" as described in the book "Rules of the Game," by Neil Strauss.I like to think about disqualifying women in another way: I don't want their looks to make me feel that i'm not qualified to be with them. Don't be attracted to them off the get go.. Find something about them that you don't find attractive and focus on that. Helps me go from "Oooh she is really really cute, to, man she has a big big nose" | /r/seduction | 05/03/10 05:49 AM |
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