This isn't a cure all just something that has really helped me personally become a better man and hopefully it will help at least someone.

First thing to do is buy a journal. (I know it sounds kiddish but hear it out). What you want to do is everyday write out what happened throughout your day. All the decisions you made and why you made them. Include as many feelings and thoughts as possible. Try your hardest to write in (he) form rather than (I) form. I'll explain why in a second. Now once you do that close it up and forget about it. Give it at least one week and read it. Just that day. Read it as if you didn't know the character or you were reading a book. Ponder on why he is making those choices. Should they be different? Now make yourself the character. How did you see yourself?

This may sound confusing so I'll give some examples. "He came home and noticed his bed was unmade and he had a big pile of laundry. He thought its only Wednesday I'll do it tomorrow. No rush and he played ps4." I read that and went wow that dudes a slob. Is that how others see me? Is that how I want to view myself? No. I have also used it with talking to girls. "The gorgeous lady said thank you as he picked up her dropped papers. There was eye contact and he felt a rush of excitement but he froze and didn't know what to say. He tried to be brave enough to ask her to coffee but couldn't and she walked away." I read that and went pussy. Worse case she would have said no.

This won't fix everything in a night. Especially the girl part lol. Over the course of about 3 months though friends and family have noticed a huge difference in the way I act and treat my belongings. I still have a long way to go but I'm becoming the man I want be. Hope this helps at least one person. Thx for reading!

Edit: Wow wasn't really expecting people to comment or upvote this. I'm so happy ya'll like this and I hope it helps all of you.