How long to wait before escalating on 1st date with a girls whos DTF?

Empodocles · 2018-08-07T00:35:06+00:00

I personally never do dinner man for potential plates/FwB. It just reinforces the BF/GF setting too much.

I'd propose (but in an assertive manner) to grab some drinks somewhere. If she's down to fuck and your frame is okay, she will go home with you.

NewYorkGuy41 · 2018-08-07T01:35:06+00:00

Lol did you pull that not wanting to waste her time (I’m very respectful) etc... off r/tinder? I posted that shit I’m gonna be so happy if I helped a brother out

teentrp2000 · 2018-08-07T01:14:31+00:00

Is the text where OP opens up and tells her the truth a good idea? Wouldn't it be better to keep the plausible deniability so she doesn't feel like a slut and so sex "just happens."

OfficerWade · 2018-08-07T02:27:39+00:00

I once asked a girl how she would feel going to a second bar after we left the first one. She was DTF and by the way people talk about moving around I thought it would be ok just tell her let’s go back to my house and drink instead because there’s less noise.

As for the kissing, the best code of conduct is to save it for the moment you can potentially fuck. If she has any resistance to you getting your hands on her she will tell you right away. Don’t fuck up and tell her to go home like I see many guys do. It’s the type of mentality that leaves you with nothing. Keep pushing for the win.

Zanford · 2018-08-07T01:04:16+00:00

Dinner's bad for dates anyway.

'ice cream' where the exchange is at, is decent, as is 'drinks', 'coffee' etc. esp if the logistics are good (Very close to her place).

CainPrice · 2018-08-07T02:35:41+00:00

Within the first 10 seconds. Hug her hello. If she doesn't pull away after a few seconds, keep touching when you sit back down.

If a girl is meeting you past 9:00 PM, that's not really a date. It's just an hour getting drinks for you guys to screen each other for potential craziness before going home to fuck. A dinner date is silly for a hook-up. You should be getting drinks at 9.

DownyGall · 2018-08-07T01:17:31+00:00

How is she DTF?

latinasonly · 2018-08-07T03:14:31+00:00

hey guys I have a question that is related to this topic. I cannot invite girls to my current house because my family is always home. I would like to invite myself to their house. How would you recommend I go about doing that? It feels a lot more pushy to say "hey why don't you invite me over to your place", or is there nothing wrong with that, or should I pick a location close to their place and then escalate and try to pull to there pad ?

HurricaneHugues · 2018-08-07T06:08:30+00:00

When u meet up, give her a kiss on the cheek, dont hug her. Kino throughout the date. Pick a different ice cream flavor than she does, then offer her to lick from your cone and vice versa. Or take one bowl wih different flavors and use one spoon. Just get her co fotable with touch and body fluid exchange. By the time u get home, your hormones and natural instincts should be primed for reproductive activity.

DadOnDabs · 2018-08-07T17:13:02+00:00

She's looking for you to pay for her meal, don't.

To carry on with that you start escalation from the moment you see her. Greet with a hug, do playful pushes and teasing touches, as soon as you can isolate go for the kiss. Then simply make an excuse to go back to your place.

kidkidkid123321 · 2018-08-07T20:39:22+00:00

Don't show any interest when you're with her. Play it casual. As though you've never met her. She'll go fucking crazy for you.

MisterDSTP · 2018-08-08T04:10:17+00:00

So how does OP shift out of the dinner date that he already agreed to?

bigburgerboy · 2018-08-07T04:04:38+00:00

Well this sucks. She said she googled the town i live in & its an hr drive away. I said, “if you still wanna come out ill make it worth it” with a tongue to the side emoji. Like id eat that pussy rral good lol.

She said shed rather us meet in the middle 1st time we hang out. Sunnova

Retstortion · 2018-08-07T00:41:01+00:00

Bro you live with your parents. Nobody is gonna fuck you

casemodz · 2018-08-07T08:00:14+00:00

Wait for that when you're in a room together.

Honestly if she's willing to go home with you or bring you to hers, she's dtf. Just gotta put a movie on, get her a drink. Have some bulls bullshit convo about the movie, etc. Put your arm around her. Brush her hair next to her ear. Tell her she looks really cute...if she looks at you or turns her head, smile and slowly lean in for a kiss. Even married chicks need some attention and want to feel pretty...especially with "strangers". That's why you'll have more luck with a girl you don't know over a girl you've known for a while.

Title	How long to wait before escalating on 1st date with a girls whos DTF?
Author	bigburgerboy
Upvotes	8
Comments	45
Date	August 6, 2018 11:38 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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