Here's an idea: be grateful for rejection

dailymanup · 2019-03-26T22:39:32+00:00

Not only be grateful, but learn to actually ENJOY IT. Enjoy it because of the knowledge that you put yourself out there. Enjoy it because now you'll never have to wonder. You'll never have to kick yourself and think about "what might have happened."

Enjoy rejection because it saves you time and keeps you focused. How does it save time? Because instead of standing around trying to build up courage (i.e. wasting time), you just go find out. Done. Time saved. Now you can move on to the next girl.

How does it keep you focused. Because instead of letting your focus stray to "what might have happened," you already know what happened, so you can learn from it, forget about it and move on, focused on your life, goals and dreams.

When you're ready to start embracing rejection and having some fucking fun with it (so you can move past it and get laid), check out the Fuck It approach and how to Start Conversations with girls you just met.

Murfdigidy · 2019-03-26T21:54:03+00:00

Agree here, I think men have a tough time with this but in many cases men do it to themselves. To your point women hate confrontation, they hate telling a man straight up no because they're not built like men, they're women and women would rather not offend you buy hoping you get the hint, ignoring or ghosting.

Men are more direct women aren't, don't be mad, accept that reality. Just like you can't be mad women don't approach, the reality is that's the man's job like it or not.

Women will attract to men they're attracted to, meaning no amount of extra time put in will help you over another guy. Hence why you see guys who've known a girl for months get ghosted in front of a guy she just met, it's all attraction. If you aren't doing attractive things you won't attract women. That's why this sub is so beneficial because it helps men build attractive traits that get women. It's hard I know, the fix is not over night. I've always maintained seduction takes months years to get good at. It's like working out, you won't get a six pack in 1 month, it takes months and month to get there for most people. Just like working out, guys that stick with it see results, guys that fade away after a month or two fade back to their bad habits.

They say something like 10% of people work out regularly, I'd apply same % to men who are good with women, I'd say less than that actually. Stick with it and see results, don't be the other 90%

Dannen6272 · 2019-03-26T22:40:00+00:00

I actually really appreciate and respect it when a woman is really direct. I don't like ambiguity, just give it to me straight so I can move on. Just recently (within the last year or so now, I guess) I asked a woman out, she said she wasn't interested, end of story.

It's nice because - at least for me - there is no awkwardness afterwards or any thoughts that she might change her mind (they never do btw). We still see each other around and I can honestly say that it was really relieving to get it off my chest, now we can hang out as friends and I don't have to think about it anymore.

fqGmUjDT2GCAmFqN · 2019-03-26T23:28:41+00:00

A woman's incentives if she's not interested are to ghost you, avoid you, be "busy" and find indirect ways to turn you down that will take more of your time and energy.

those are narcissists, a fuck-n-chuck<sup>tm</sup> at best

comu_nacho · 2019-03-27T01:57:09+00:00

I would be grateful if any girl would have rejected me directly like that. never has happened to me. Is this a guy /girl ting? I mean, do gay guys go through the hoops like straight guys when trying to know if they missed their shot?

wolfbee16 · 2019-03-26T22:24:25+00:00

Look at every “rejection” as a learning experience and they’ll never be bad again. If I get rejected I laugh it off and try and find out what I could have done or said differently. You’ll never pull every girl but you can work on getting there!

Title	Here's an idea: be grateful for rejection
Author	innergamedude
Upvotes	53
Comments	12
Date	March 26, 2019 8:10 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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