Should I lie about being a virgin?

puaCurveBall · 2012-07-09T19:49:14+00:00

Don't lie. Reframe to your advantage.

2012-07-09T18:59:26+00:00

Don't lie. Many girls will find it cute and see you as a challenge. And if you lie about it, they'll figure out pretty quickly once you get into the bedroom.

SpinMyRiki · 2012-07-09T19:57:16+00:00

just don't mention it? if she asks tell her the truth or be vague. Say you're not very experienced.

Being good in bed is a lot like being good at pick up, i.e. be confident and it's gonna be good regardless of your experience., trust me Ive been there too.

leodoestheopposite · 2012-07-09T20:02:01+00:00

Depends. The natural answer would be NO, be honest, don't lie, the truth is that most of us, at least me, lied about it.

I lost my virginity when I was 17, to a 23 yo woman, she had no idea I was a virgin, she thought I was a player. I remember the night we were about to go sleep together, on our way to the hotel she told me something like I am so horny, how long has it been since you had sex?

I was laughing and crying inside, I didn't want to say that I was a virgin, I didn't want her to think I was a player either, so I have one of those genius moments and I said Oh about a month or so.

She didn't ask, I didn't say anything. I know I had a good time, I am sure she has had better lovers than I (she was a MILF, recently divorced etc....), we were a couple for 2-3 months, then... she broke my heart.

crocodileboxer · 2012-07-09T22:16:36+00:00

It's funny, I remember worrying about this dilemma myself, especially when things started to get serious with this one girl. I was 19 and I felt I had a shot but I was so nervous about this, so I never really brought it up. One night, I invited her over for dinner and a movie. We make it about 15 minutes into the movie (as per custom) when we start making out. We eventually make our way to my bedroom, the clothes start to come off and we're fooling around. I was so excited that I was finally going to lose my virginity. We're moving into foreplay, and she's doing a good job, and I move my hand to finger her, and...

Her: Wait.

Me:What's wrong?

Her: So I'm kind of embarrassed, but it's my first time.

Me: That's ok, I've never done this either.

Her: I don't believe that.

Me: Really, it's true.

Anyway, no sex that night, but we did get each other off (though we already rounded third base a week prior). But she called me the next day to ask if she could come over the next night. Turns out she regretted not having sex with me, and the rest is history.

She still didn't believe I was a virgin.

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2012-07-09T20:03:43+00:00

Just tell them it's none of their business.

dkismet · 2012-07-10T03:12:35+00:00

If they ask, why not? I tell girls I'm a virgin all the time. I'm not, but it's always a good line when they ask how many girls i've been with.

I wouldn't bring it up for no reason tho.

Be honest, because you really can say anything. Just frame it as a joke if you're worried it'll kill the mood. If it comes up later, after sex, you can say "see I told you i was a virgin. Thanks for helping me with that..."

What you say doesn't matter. Just don't make a big deal about it, or they'll make a big deal about it. Stay light, avoid being too serious about anything, at least until you've gotten laid.

2012-07-10T03:20:43+00:00

I recommend just avoiding the issue. Redirect artfully or just be indirectly truthful by omission. It's nobody's business what your body count is or sexual experiences, etc.

2012-07-10T12:45:54+00:00

Girl I lost my virginity to didn't know I had been a virgin until the second time she fucked me. If she'd asked, I woulda said, but she didn't, so I didn't.

Don't sweat the small stuff man, you've seen enough porn for being a virgin not to be an issue. You'll know where to stick it in; even if you don't, if she's on top she'll guide it in for you ;D

Babeman12 · 2012-07-10T00:00:15+00:00

Don't say anything unless she's really prying for it. I would lie though. Many girls think less of virgin guys.

2012-07-09T23:41:48+00:00

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Title	Should I lie about being a virgin?
Author	throwaway8b1k
Upvotes	4
Comments	15
Date	July 9, 2012 6:53 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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