I’ve been noticing this cute girl that goes to my gym sometimes around the same hour as I go. The ongoing problem has been that she typically goes with her mom, so approaching with her around has intimidated me. Anyway, today she was working out alone near me for a bit but I didn’t approach her then because one of my pet peeves and other gym goers’ pet peeves is being interrupted mid-workout. I decided to finally approach her as we were heading out to make it less awkward, more natural, and more positive since people tend to experience a dopamine rush post-workout.

I opened with some silly and cocky humor to get her engaged emotionally and she seemed to respond well to the jokes. Rather than ask her lots of generic questions, I made sure to make more statements/assumptions about her, like the type of food she likes, her ethnicity, and other observational things. I also did a bit of push-pull as advised by seducers/PUA.

I was able to close and get her number using some humor and confidence. My little mistake was not sending her a text after getting her number right in front of her to ensure that she got my number. Other than that, I am happy to say that I am proud of myself for conquering one of my fears: to go against the status quo by approaching a girl in a place (the gym) that is typically viewed as a no-go place for pickup.

Literally right after I sent her a text saying it was me with a meme attached, I saw her iMessage text bubbles. I haven’t gotten a reply yet but I am not stressing about it. I’ll send her a follow-up text in a day or so to see if she responds. If nothing happens, I’ll simply move on. I have many more possibilities to meet other women. All I can say is that I feel great for taking action because I don’t have to worry about the pain of regret. Pain is temporary...REGRET IS FOREVER!