Why does everybody hates neediness?

letsgetrandy · 2015-11-28T19:50:10+00:00

Needy people drag you down, eat up all your time, get super jealous, cause fights, and become a major pain in the ass.

exhibitionistcouplez · 2015-11-28T20:49:03+00:00

Neediness is a demand. You can't turn down a need without provoking a negative reaction because someone's needs weren't met.

When someone is needy immediately it shows they have issues with meeting their own needs as an independent adult. Neediness happens in established relationships plenty. At that point there is an agreement of interdependence whether it's spoken or unspoken (or there should be) but when you get slapped with it right out the gate you see that this person in front of you is not sitting with you because they like specific things about you that cause them to choose to have you in their life. Instead you are confronted with a person who will tug you in because you provide them something they didn't have and need and any relationship is going to start out based in that unequal dynamic.

And yeah that's repellant to anyone looking for a normal emotionally healthy interdependent relationship. Because you can't walk into "I need I need I need" and feel like there's space for you to eventually say "yeah, well I need too right now can the next few hours be about me?" and they respond with some kinda shit like you're invalidating their needs or you don't care about their problems.

This goes for anyone who's needy not just women.

ValuePrestige · 2015-11-28T20:44:34+00:00

I think I am the only person who likes it when girls are needy towards me. Probably because it almost never happens. But if a girl has a huge desire or need for me, I find that pretty hot. But I'm really weird I guess

supermanshazam · 2015-11-29T17:37:12+00:00

Imagine a clearance sale. All stock must go. Prices of all the rubbish that the store couldn't sell are marked down to a very low price, and ads are in your face begging for you to buy it. You know they are selling rubbish. Your mind is associating her with rubbish because she's shoving way too much in your face.

Title	Why does everybody hates neediness?
Author	Lichewitz
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	November 28, 2015 7:05 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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