Holy shit I’m fucking terrible with women

2019-02-01T22:27:06+00:00

~~username checks out~~

mseand · 2019-02-02T02:18:26+00:00

Guys, there is fuking light at the end of the tunnel. Just make sure you treat every failure as a chance to learn and every success as a boost of confidence.

Set small goals and baby step them towards the big ones. You'll see improvements in your game while you analyze every small detail of every interaction.

I'm not there yet, but I sure as hell know where I'm headed

Tophat_and_Poncho · 2019-02-01T23:24:22+00:00

Vent thread? I'm so bad with women. I genuinely feel bad talking to girls knowing they want someone better looking and more fun.

wowzacowza · 2019-02-02T02:20:01+00:00

Basically every guy realizes this at some point. But here's the thing: you can get better!

My quick tips:

Focus on being high value. High value means you're not trying to impress her, or any girl. You're confident, self-assured, and independent. Nothing she says can affect you. You're used to people hanging off your every word. You're the opposite of needy. Things that generally help your value are to display things you're actually really good at. Smart? Find a way to show it naturally. Funny? Use some humor. Strong? Show off your strength somehow. You get the idea. If you're not good at anything, become good at something. Show ambition.
Learn conversational skills. You can't be high value if you can't hold down a conversation. Don't fire question after question, it's not an interrogation. Ask one question if you must, let her answer, then go off on a tangent about that. An interesting tangent. And don't rely on compliments or flattery to continue the conversation, that makes you needy. Talk about things you're really passionate about. Tell stories you find hilarious or moving.
Get yourself out there. Picture this, two guys we'll call Mike and Joe. Mike is great with women, he gets numbers from 50% of the women he talks to. Joe isn't so great, he gets numbers from only 10%. If Mike talks to 8 women, he will get 4 numbers. So if Joe wants to "do better" than Mike, all he has to do is talk to more than 40 women and he will get more numbers. You can, to some degree, make up for lack of skill by just going for more encounters. Plus, as you do so you'll naturally improve your skill along the way.

Thepath1211 · 2019-02-02T02:03:56+00:00

I keep screwing up with all the girls I do like and getting my heart broken lol. But thankfully have progressively gotten better over time. Like why does the attraction/seduction process involve so much social knowledge, screwing up, learning from mistakes and why can't it be genuine, simple and straightforward? Haha

goodboykane1 · 2019-02-02T06:22:19+00:00

Your screen name, start there. Be true to yourself and show the ladies a fun time

UnleashDaJuice · 2019-02-02T20:31:03+00:00

Acknowledging it is the first step though bro. Alot of guys wont even do that and their pride wont let them be willing to learn. Now all you have to do is begin your journey. The fact that you're here tells me you probably already are. Best of luck man, YOU GOT THIS!

Brohammer53 · 2019-02-02T05:51:38+00:00

lol same I pretty much tossed a perfectly good chick because I have no idea what I'm doing

NilacTheGrim · 2019-02-02T06:00:50+00:00

We all been there man. Keep at it.

PlatinumXCash · 2019-02-02T14:23:49+00:00

2019-02-02T15:07:55+00:00

Honestly I think confronting this feeling about yourself is one of the hardest and most important steps. Its only up from here my dude!

ShongoMcForren · 2019-02-02T15:07:56+00:00

So was I! Then I got a little better. Now I have success sometimes. Not all the time. But sometimes. It's those sometimes that make all the difference. Get just a little better every day. It's like investing. Contribute more now and see exponential returns later.

Title	Holy shit I’m fucking terrible with women
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Upvotes	49
Comments	27
Date	February 1, 2019 10:14 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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