I know I'm attractive but I have no game whatsoever

AFL-NOEL · 2019-09-01T08:15:53+00:00

Bro it’s all about getting in a good mood and having a good time letting your mouth flow with whatever your brain gives you.. combine that with more life experience and you’re good.. NOBODY in here had any game before they got enough life experiences, so don’t be hard on yourself, appreciate the fact you’re smart and good looking (huge advantage but the above applies whether you have those advantages or not) and just have a blast enjoying the process of evolving as you gain experience.. here’s some new daygame for added inspiration, sending you positive vibes bro! https://youtu.be/KWXC2XhaOWs

Buullred · 2019-09-01T09:03:35+00:00

Tinder is basically made for good looking guys with bad game. If you truly are handsome then you shouldn't have a problem getting girls over to your place without much talking.

stevenmarkryan · 2019-09-01T14:50:09+00:00

Good-looking is one thing (how you look).

Attractive is another (how you make women FEEL).

Every women on the planet (unless something is broken) finds confidence attractive. You lack it. You are unattractive to women. Build up your confidence, create and awesome life for yourself, take some risks, fail, learn, grow, improve, pursue a clear mission/purpose, and the confidence will come.

farfar336 · 2019-09-01T14:09:49+00:00

Talk slower, it gives you more time to convert your thoughts into words.

TaeKwonPiccolo · 2019-09-02T04:12:56+00:00

I'm an articulate black guy too. I hate when people think we're all ghetto ass clowns...

2019-09-01T08:59:04+00:00

I’m in the same position bro, you just need to talk. Girls will listen to whatever stupid shit u say if u are hot.

salex100m · 2019-09-01T15:36:07+00:00

my dude, sounds like you have some serious self-esteem issues to work on, bordering on self resentment about being black.

I'm sure that your hesitation and self doubt is what is fucking up your game, not your personal way of being.

Learn to love yourself the way you want someone else to love your style and your new found confidence will shine through.

Here's an example of a possible interaction to help you learn how to deal with the potential racial confusion you think you are suffering from:

Girl: "hey"

you: Hi, I'm Ernie (whatever your name is)

Girl: Ernie? I was expecting you to say Tyrone or something!

(this exchange exemplifies your racial confusion right?. This is how you deal with it...)

You: Well, you know, I'm like Ernie in the streets, but Tyrone in the sheets!

sounds corny, but it turns your racial anxiety into a bonus, while also turning the convo into the right direction.

Try doing it with some real life examples you've encountered. Develop an arsenal of comebacks for your situation to turn the convos to your advantage.

here's another one for example:

girl: (says something dumb)

you: Well I may sound like a white boy, but I'm black where it counts lol.

2019-09-01T07:25:04+00:00

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RuleBreakerrz · 2019-09-02T01:14:30+00:00

I used to be just like you man. Good looking, guys in school thought I was getting more girls than I was actually getting because I was attractive. Thing is we Men are not like women. Women can just be good looking and nothing else. Because we men value looks over everything else. For a woman, a good looking man is about half the battle. The other half is being able to display masculinity via confidence, and conversation. Once I learned that my looks was not enough to get a woman to be into me, and I started working on the confidence and social skills when dealing with women, it was OVER! I had the game on lock. It takes practice man, and it takes experience.

Checkout /r/Alpha_Male_Dating to get more confident with women, and understanding how to get in the right set.

KungFuKieran · 2019-09-01T16:34:15+00:00

PM me bro. I'm an older (31) good-looking introverted black guy who has tons of success. But even when I was at my least confident, I'd never internalize the "white guy in a black guys body" nonsense. Sounds like you're in the U.K. where the racial dynamics can be different, but end of the day, if you don't get this part of your inner game straight you'll always struggle.

KungFuKieran · 2019-09-01T17:17:15+00:00

I will say this for anyone still watching this thread: out of the 3 girls I've been with, only one of them I approached and I did it with pure confidence. It felt hella good I'm trying to get to that point with every girl I talk to.

getyourlifeplease · 2019-09-01T17:43:48+00:00

Im mixed (F) and grew up in the suburbs - so yeah, always heard the "you talk white" line. And it used to bother me, but the older you get the more ypu learn to love yourself - all of you - even how you speak. You being confident is EVERYTHING...seriously. And dont let some nit wit girls who think that all black guys are supposed to sound hood and talk in rap verses - hahaha. If you are as attractive as you say, and you get approached, then use that to your advantage. Do you have a sense of humor? Can you br sarcastic? A lil bit of humor can always cut a dumb comment down and throw it back at the person.

Title	I know I'm attractive but I have no game whatsoever
Author	KungFuKieran
Upvotes	43
Comments	26
Date	September 1, 2019 7:22 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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