My main problem used to be approach anxiety, and also transitioning from approaches to full conversations. While I still have this problem to an extent, I'm starting to over come it and get deeper into some sets.

The thing is I now start getting blown out mid set and I don't know what the fucks going on. Seddit brothers, I need you.

Here's the set:

My wing and I enter a bar, and go to get drinks. As we're waiting to be served, we're talking about a set from the previous weekend where he fclosed. A girl at the bar over hears and starts smiling because we're talking about dating. I'll call the girl HBPale (she had pale skin).

Me: "I think she's listening in to our conversation"

HBPale: "No, I'm not!" Giggles.

Me: "LOL, yes you are. What's so funny?"

HBPale, myself and my wing chat for a bit. Her 3 friends come over, and I introduce myself and my wing to them. My wing chats to HBPale for a bit and I chat to her friends. It's just general banter, and I wished I had gone into some of the DHV stories I have, because there were some good opportunities. Anyway, these girls don't quite seem to get my sense of humour, but that doesn't bother me too much, most girls do so I know I can be funny. One of the girls tries making fun of me a bit, but I don't let it shake me, and just make fun of her back.

About 20 mins into the set I go back to the bar for a drink. HBPale re initiates conversation with me.

Her: "You look Italian"

Me: "People tell me that a lot. But some people also say I look middle eastern. One girl the other day said I looked Pakistani"

Her: "You don't look Pakistani"

Me: "Yeah, I think she was drunk"

We talk for a bit about ethnic origins. She mentions she doesn't tan easily. I see I don't either but when I do I stay brown for about a year.

Me: "Now it's summer I want to sunbath in Hyde Park and get a tan"

Her: "You shouldn't want a tan"

Me: "Whys that then?"

Her: "You should just be you"

Me: "I'll still be me, just me with a tan"

She keeps telling me I shouldn't want a tan, and I should be secure in yourself. During all of this I'm leaning on the bar, and she's leaning into me a lot, tits pressing into me. I should probably have kinoed more at this point.

Her: "You shouldn't be so insecure. You're a really good looking guy"

Me: "Thanks"

Her: "I didn't say that to get a thanks"

Me: "You complimented me, so I said thanks. That's how it works"

Her: "Yeah, you're really good looking, you just need to put yourself out there and put out the right kind of vibe and you'll get the right kind of attention"

Me: "I do get the right kind of attention, but thanks anyway"

Her: "So why were you talking to your friend earlier about pulling then"

Me: "I can't tell you that, it's a secret, but thanks for the advice all the same"

She turns her back on me and walks over to her friends. She ignores me from then on in.

One thing I did notice is when she was telling me about the tan, she kept going on about it and that started to annoy me. Towards the end of the set I think I probably appeared very serious, based on the look on my face. I'm not sure if she was shit testing me, I really felt like I didn't know what was going on. I think I let her effect me too much, but also maybe I came off as a bit too arrogant.

So how would you guys have played this?